128. The Reason You Can't Control Yourself With Your Ex (Even When You’re Highly Composed At Work)

About this episode

This episode explores why individuals struggle with self-control around their narcissistic exes despite being composed in other areas of life.

Why can you handle pressure and big decisions like a pro at work… but still feel completely out of control when it comes to him? If you’ve ever felt like two different people—calm, capable, and in control except with your narcissistic ex, this episode breaks down exactly why that disconnect happens (and why logic alone isn’t saving you). In this episode you will: Understand why your self-control seems to disappear when it comes to your ex Learn what’s actually driving the urge to reach out (hint: it’s not a lack of discipline) Rebuild trust in yourself so your actions finally match your intentions Press play now to finally understand why this keeps happening—and what it actually takes to stop repeating the same exhausting cycle. QUICK LINKS FROM EPISODE: ⁠Schedule your free Intro Session: https://tinyurl.com/freeintroseshpod RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING: 🌻 ⁠Schedule your free Intro Session: https://tinyurl.com/freeintroseshpod ❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ 🫶🏻 Trauma Bond Breaker Guide: 7 Micro-Shifts to Start Letting Go (Even If You’re Still…

People in this episode

Host: Bre Wolta

Topics covered

• self-control
• narcissistic relationships
• emotional disconnect
• healing
• trust

Keywords

• self-control
• narcissistic ex
• emotional disconnect
• healing resources
• trust yourself

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