Does Tough Love Work for Addiction? What Parents Need to Know

About this episode

The episode discusses the concept of tough love in addiction and shares practical actions taken by parents.

Episode 316 ABOUT THE EPISODE: Tough love. Two words that get thrown around constantly in the addiction world, and yet nobody can quite agree on what they mean. Kick them out. Cut them off. Save yourself. That’s the version I heard early on, and I couldn’t do it. Not because I was too soft, but because something about it felt fundamentally wrong - especially with a teenager. In this episode, Cathy and I get practical on the topic of this illusive thing called “tough love.” We walk through the nine actual actions we took with our own kids, in order, from the very first steps all the way to the hardest ones (ones we call “strong love”) as a way of demonstrating action, not theories. Just two moms who were figuring it out as we went, without the language, community or support we needed at the time. YOU’LL LEARN: What Dr. Gabor Maté said about tough love that stopped me cold Why I stopped using the phrase “tough love” and what I call it instead Nine “strong love” actions Cathy and I took with our own kids, and what we wish we had done differently The thing every person in recovery has told me about what finally changed things for them The two books I recommend to every parent, no…

People in this episode

Host: Brenda Zane

Guest: Cathy

Topics covered

• tough love
• addiction
• parenting
• strong love
• recovery

Keywords

• tough love
• addiction
• parenting
• strong love actions
• recovery

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