How Married Are You?

How do you keep fighting for a marriage when it feels like you're the only one trying?In this episode, we talk about emotional neglect, vulnerability, communication, and why a lack of intimacy is often a symptom not the root issue. We also share our thoughts on the emotional weight of raising Black children in today's climate and how recent events have impacted our family.Patreon AftershowAfter the main episode, we have a much more personal conversation.We unpack the emotional impact of recent events—including the Carmelo Anthony case, Yvette being called a racial slur in public, and how those experiences are changing the way we think about raising our children.We also talk honestly about trust, fear, Black community, parenting in predominantly white spaces, and the difficult balance between protecting our kids and preparing them for the world they'll inherit.This is one of our more vulnerable Patreon conversations, and we hope it gives you a deeper look into what we're processing behind the scenes.Resources & LinksEmber mug Yvette Loves 🍵💍https://bit.ly/4lfn38iMentor Couple Wait List 🫂🖤https://forms.gle/VcUDRgf6km9kHWEK7New Single SUGAR WATER OUT JULY 7th PRE SAVE NOWhttps://monopoly.lnk.to/4epgfnRelease Rest Remain 📖✨https://a.co/d/ihBmSdOFather Yourself First 📘🔥https://www.amazon.com/Father-Yourself-First-Everything-Deserves/dp/1400252555Yvette’s Email List 💌🌿https://yvettehenry.com/join-the-listRelease Rest Remain Bible Reading Plan 🙏🏽📖https://www.bible.com/en/reading-plans/64646Premarital Advantage 💍🧠https://howmarriedareyoupodcast.mykajabi.com/offers/VAbsx8N2Black Men’s Meeting 🖤🗣️https://partiful.com/e/wtiRq3cXAF8fKLNiaBJS?c=KNcxpdYVHMAY Amazon Storefront (affiliate) 🛒✨https://www.amazon.com/shop/howmarriedareyou?ref_=cm_sw_r_apin_aipsfshop_0EGMQR9KJ94D8YGCDMV7&language=en-USWAYS TO PARTNER WITH US: Get special access to things we’re working on, extra content from our fam, and more on Patreon: https://patreon.com/HMAYSupport us with a one-time gift through PayPal: www.paypal.me/HMAYpodcastCONNECT WITH US ON INSTAGRAM:HMAY Podcast: https://www.instagram.com/howmarriedareyou/Glen: https://www.Instagram.com/beleafmelYvette: https://www.Instagram.com/mrsmelaninChocolate Babes: https://www.instagram.com/chocolatebabies/WATCH BELEAF IN FATHERHOOD:https://www.youtube.com/c/BeleafInFatherhoodtv/Thank you so much for tuning into this episode of How Married Are You?! See you next week!

What do you do when you keep praying for God to remove someone… and they’re still here?In Episode 278, a listener writes in about dating a man who came in strong — intentional, consistent, saying all the right things, and claiming his goal was marriage and family. But once she finally became his girlfriend, the effort disappeared. No thoughtfulness. No intentional dates. Barely any engagement. He doesn’t ask questions, doesn’t remember what she shares, talks over her, talks down to her, and she’s left wondering if he’s even a kind person.What makes it harder is that it feels like no one in his world knows she exists — friends, family, everyone. She’s prayed and prayed for God to remove him if he isn’t meant for her… but instead of him leaving, they keep “working through it,” while going nowhere. Now she’s trying to discern whether this is God telling her to stay, or whether God has already shown her enough — and she needs to choose clarity, boundaries, and peace.We talk about the danger of over-spiritualizing what’s actually a decision, why you can’t keep letting someone’s indecision set the pace for your life, and what it looks like to stop waiting for a person to change when the reality is already loud.Have you ever stayed too long because you were waiting for God to make the exit obvious?Resources & LinksFather Yourself Firsthttps://www.amazon.com/Father-Yourself-First-Everything-Deserves/dp/1400252555Release Rest Remainhttps://a.co/d/ihBmSdOYvette’s Email Listhttps://yvettehenry.com/join-the-listRelease Rest Remain Bible Reading Planhttps://www.bible.com/en/reading-plans/64646Premarital Advantagehttps://howmarriedareyoupodcast.mykajabi.com/offers/VAbsx8N2Black Men’s Meetinghttps://partiful.com/e/kuXEBUC7PHfydRmI3sz4?HMAY Amazon Storefront (affiliate)https://www.amazon.com/shop/howmarriedareyou?ref_=cm_sw_r_apin_aipsfshop_0EGMQR9KJ94D8YGCDMV7&language=en-US

Have you ever had a “what if” person… and you can’t tell if it’s God’s timing or an emotional trap?In this episode, a listener writes in about a seven-year friendship that keeps circling back into something deeper. They’ve never kissed, she’s been abstinent for five years, and now — for the first time — their timing finally aligns to explore a relationship. But she’s torn: he’s warm, patient, and makes her feel safe… yet she’s afraid she’s been living more in fantasy than reality.They’re long-distance, both navigating ADHD, and she’s trying to rebuild her faith while also wanting a partner who can lead spiritually — without performing faith just to keep her. So the real question becomes: is love and safety enough to take the risk, or is this a distraction that could derail her growth?We talk about how to move forward with wisdom, how to check your “sober mind” when you’re already emotionally invested, and why you can’t keep someone in your life as a permanent what-if.✨ What You’ll Hear Izzy’s letter to Glen after Sydney’s passing (bring tissues)Release Rest Remain update + the YouVersion Bible reading planListener email: the long-distance “what if” friendship turning seriousADHD, consistency, and what love looks like in real lifeFaith alignment, spiritual leadership, and moving with a sober mindWhy “love is a risk” — and how to take it wiselyParenting + marriage questions: balance, devotionals, and real-life routines💬 Join the ConversationHave you ever carried a “what if” relationship for years?What helped you decide to risk it — or finally let it go?❤️ If This Helped YouLike the video, subscribe, and share it with someone navigating long-distance love, boundaries, and faith alignment.📚 Resources & LinksFather Yourself Firsthttps://www.amazon.com/Father-Yourself-First-Everything-Deserves/dp/1400252555Release Rest Remainhttps://a.co/d/ihBmSdORelease Rest Remain Bible Reading Planhttps://www.bible.com/en/reading-plans/64646Premarital Advantagehttps://howmarriedareyoupodcast.mykajabi.com/offers/VAbsx8N2Saturday Men’s Group (Black men, 7 a.m. PT)https://us02web.zoom.us/j/81971875325?pwd=cY3k96A8j1b0WMLPHF5ym0bNSNaRdj.1Patreon Communityhttps://www.patreon.com/HMAYYvette’s Email Listhttps://yvettehenry.com/join-the-listThe Biggest Story Affiliate links mentioned in this episodehttps://bit.ly/3Lx0Ipbhttps://bit.ly/4qz1IIZhttps://bit.ly/3NDgUG1HMAY Amazon Storefront (affiliate)https://www.amazon.com/shop/howmarriedareyou?ref_=cm_sw_r_apin_aipsfshop_0EGMQR9KJ94D8YGCDMV7&language=en-US

In this episode of How Married Are You, we respond to a listener email from a newly married wife who’s quietly struggling with loneliness. Between long work hours, late nights, exhaustion, and limited time together, she’s worried this season might become their new normal — and she doesn’t want to come across as ungrateful or like a nag for wanting more connection.We talk honestly about marriage seasons, why hard rhythms don’t automatically mean something is wrong, and how to tell the difference between a temporary grind and a deeper issue. Glen and Yvette share what they would do differently if they could revisit similar seasons in their own marriage, and why how you show up now impacts the seasons ahead.This conversation covers:How to survive a lonely season in marriageCommunicating needs without resentmentWhy seasons change (even when they feel endless)Staying connected when schedules don’t alignBuilding support and community outside your spouseIf you’re married and wondering, “Is this just a season — or is this our forever?” this episode is for you.Resources & LinksOrder the book: Father Yourself First https://www.amazon.com/Father-Yourself-First-Everything-Deserves/dp/1400252555]Order the book: Release • Rest • Remain https://a.co/d/ihBmSdO](https://a.co/d/ihBmSdOAudiobook: Listen to Glen read Father Yourself First wherever audiobooks are available.Premarital Advantage: Questions and worksheets for dating, engaged, and newlyweds https://howmarriedareyoupodcast.mykajabi.com/offers/VAbsx8N2Saturday Men’s Group (Black men, 7 a.m. PT): Join the Father Meet-Up on Zoom https://us02web.zoom.us/j/81971875325?pwd=cY3k96A8j1b0WMLPHF5ym0bNSNaRdj.1Patreon Community: Access bonus conversations and behind-the-scenes content [https://www.patreon.com/HMAY](https://www.patreon.com/HMAY)