How to Get Over Your Ex

If your brain won't shut off, replaying your ex, fast-forwarding into worst-case scenarios about your future, and pulling you out of the life right in front of you, this episode is going to feel very real. You'll hear what's actually driving those late-night spirals and why trying to "manage your thoughts" or stay busy hasn't worked the way you hoped. Instead of more surface-level advice, this episode breaks down a clear, structured approach that targets the root of the problem. So you're not just coping with the spiral, you're removing what's creating it in the first place. If you're tired of overthinking, checking, looping, and feeling like your future depends on your ex, this will give you a completely different way to approach it and a path that actually moves you out of it. [FREE TRAINING] - Get Over Your Ex in 90 Days (Without going "no contact", waiting for time to heal, or giving up on getting him back - June 1st https://dorothyabjohnson.com/overmyex/

If you've been thinking, "If I could just fix myself, they'd come back," this episode will hit close to home. You'll hear a real story from a client who started her breakup convinced she needed to become prettier, more successful, or more "enough" to win her ex back—and how that mindset kept her stuck in the pain. What shifted everything wasn't becoming someone new for him, but learning how to reduce the desire and attachment that were keeping her emotionally hooked—and redirecting that energy into building a life that actually fit her. In this conversation, we walk through what that process looked like in real time, what changed internally before anything changed externally, and why the outcome surprised her the most. If you're still hoping your ex will come back, this episode will give you a completely different way to approach that desire—and show you what becomes possible when you do. The Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or less program (opens June 1st!): https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex/ Learn more about Nyree: IG: @beauty_energy_exchange Website: https://www.beautyenergyexchange.com/

In the past two episodes, I walked you through the 4 stages of heartbreak and the specific remedy that moves you from one stage to the next. But what does this actually look like when someone applies it in real life? In this episode, you'll hear a conversation with a Braveheart who used this exact framework after her husband unexpectedly ended their 22-year marriage. She shares what it felt like to move through the devastated stage, how identifying her stage changed the way she approached healing, and the specific shifts that helped her move forward much faster than she thought possible. If you've been wondering how to actually apply the stages and remedies to your own breakup and whether this process can really work when the relationship was long, serious, and deeply intertwined, this episode gives you a real example of what happens when you identify your stage, apply the right remedy, and get the right support along the way. The Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or less program: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex

If you feel like you've tried everything to get over your ex, no contact, journaling, therapy, working out, staying busy, but nothing is actually working, this episode might explain why. After helping people heal heartbreak for nearly a decade, I started noticing a pattern: most people are trying to heal using strategies meant for a completely different stage of heartbreak. In this episode, I break down the four stages of heartbreak I see over and over again in my coaching practice and how each stage has a completely different problem to solve. When you understand exactly where you are in the process, everything starts to make more sense and the path forward becomes much clearer. If you've been wondering why healing feels harder than it "should," this conversation will help you finally diagnose what's really going on and point you toward the next step.

If you've ever caught yourself saying "it's fine" about something that clearly isn't, this episode is going to hit. Maybe it's staying in contact with your ex because it's "temporary." Maybe it's continuing to sleep with them, keep their hoodie, answer their late-night texts, or stay in a living situation that drains you because "it won't be forever." On the surface, it feels mature. Low drama. Logical. But underneath? It's costing you energy, confidence, and momentum toward your Bigger & Better Life. In this episode, we unpack why "it's fine" is often just settling in disguise and how that mindset quietly keeps you from feeling lit up right now. I'll walk you through the shift that changes everything: becoming open to micro upgrades. The small, immediate decisions that elevate your present moment instead of waiting for some future version of your life to finally feel good. If you're tired of surviving the in-between and ready to stop postponing your own joy, this conversation will challenge you, and show you what's actually possible starting today. Applications for the Bigger and Better Life Mastermind is Open: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/biggerbetterlifemastermind/

If you're exhausted by the same breakup advice, wait for time to heal, go no contact, just focus on yourself, this episode is your permission slip to think differently. I'm sharing the heartbreak takes I usually keep to myself: the unconventional beliefs and strategies I've seen actually change people's lives after nearly a decade of coaching through real loss, real attachment, and real comebacks. This isn't about doing what everyone else is doing; it's about what happens when you approach heartbreak like the top 1%—with a sharper lens, more agency, and methods that challenge the status quo. If you're ready for ideas that might feel bold, a little controversial, and surprisingly freeing, you're going to want to hit play. The Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or less program: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex/

If you're trying again with your ex and suddenly your friends and family are questioning your judgment, warning you not to repeat the past, or flat-out refusing to support the relationship, this episode will help you breathe again. We're talking about what to do when the relationship feels right to you this time but the people closest to you are skeptical, protective, or openly disapproving. I break down a clear three-step process to help you stay grounded in your decision, stop over-explaining or defending yourself, and shift the dynamic so others either get on board or fade into the background without blowing up your relationships. Get your question answered on the podcast! https://dorothyabjohnson.com/podcastquestion/ The Get Over Your Ex Program: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex The Bigger & Better Life Mastermind: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/biggerbetterlifemastermind/

If you're in the middle of a divorce and quietly afraid that standing up for yourself will turn you into someone angry, bitter, or unrecognizable, this episode is for you. We're unpacking the very real fear of shrinking to keep the peace or swinging to the other extreme just to feel protected and why neither is actually power. I walk you through a real client scenario and the exact four-step framework we used to help her stay grounded, clear, and self-advocating throughout the divorce process without relying on anger as fuel. This episode is a practical guide to turning your power on, calmly, intentionally, and sustainably so you can move through divorce without losing yourself in the process. Check out our breakup toolkit (a breakup first aid kit that not only helps you get over your ex but also takes you beyond your breakup): https://dorothyabjohnson.com/breakuptoolkit/

Starting a new year after a breakup can feel paralyzing when the idea of a "clean slate" brings pressure instead of hope. In this episode, I walk you through a simple, structured process to help you move forward without forcing clarity you don't have yet. Using the Breakup Life Wheel (or Bigger & Better Life Wheel), you'll learn how to assess where you actually are, identify what needs attention now, and turn that insight into three clear intentions with concrete actions you can take in real life. We'll also land on a single word for 2026 that anchors your decisions and gives you direction when motivation wavers. If you're standing at the beginning of the year unsure how to rebuild after a heartbreak, but ready to start anyway, this episode will give you a grounded place to begin. Have a question you want Dorothy to answer on the podcast? Submit it here: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/podcastquestion/ MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE Jules Acree: https://www.julesacree.com/

This week, I coached women who went from devastated to empowered in days, not months. Women who thought they needed all the answers before taking action. Women who discovered that external validation was always internal all along. This episode is a compilation of the most powerful coaching insights from just ONE week inside the Get Over Your Ex program—proof that when you have the right method and support, transformation happens fast. If you've been wondering what's actually possible when you stop doing this alone, listen to this. The Get Over Your Ex - https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex

If you're closing out 2025 in the middle of a breakup, this episode is your reset button. When everything feels like it's ending, your relationship, your plans, the version of you that existed with your ex, it's easy to panic and drag old patterns, fears, and expectations into the new year. But 2025 is a "completion year," and instead of fighting the ending, this episode shows you how to use it. I'm walking you through three journal prompts that will help you identify what's truly finished, what you're willing to make space for in the unknown, and who you're becoming as you step into 2026. If you want 2026 to feel nothing like the year you're leaving behind, start with these three questions. They will change how you end this chapter and how you begin the next one. Get Over Your Ex Program is OPEN: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex

If it feels like you "lost everything" when your ex left, this episode will change your life. Inside, Dorothy breaks down the difference between what you think was taken from you and what was never truly yours to begin with… and then shows you the invisible gains that heartbreak makes available the second someone walks out of your life. You'll learn the three concrete steps to make those gains visible THIS week, so you stop fixating on the life that ended and start building the one that just opened up. If you're done staring at the empty space they left behind and ready to see what's possible in front of you, you need this episode. The Breakup Clinic (free live event happening Dec 8 - 11): https://dorothyabjohnson.com/breakupclinic

If your breakup has your body in panic mode, constantly tense, anxious, or waiting for the next shoe to drop, this episode is your lifeline. Dorothy breaks down why your nervous system doesn't feel safe, and reveals the three pillars that create real, grounded safety: spiritual, physical, and mental. You'll learn what's actually happening when your system codes loss as danger, how to rewire that response, and the practical tools that help you move from survival mode to expansion. Whether you're fresh in heartbreak or building your bigger and better life, this episode will teach you how to feel safe enough to move forward, for real this time. The Breakup Clinic (free live event December 8 - 11): https://dorothyabjohnson.com/breakupclinic/