Human School

What is procrastination actually costing you? Turns out, almost everything.In this episode, Miles Adcox welcomes author and speaker Jon Acuff to Human School for an honest, practical, and deeply encouraging conversation about procrastination, overthinking, and the strange ways our minds block the lives we want to live. Jon opens up about his own struggles with anxiety, the danger of old "soundtracks," and why the hardest part of a new goal is often the weight of past failures. Packed with humor and tactical wisdom, Jon and Miles break down how to retire broken soundtracks and finally give yourself permission to be remarkable. Looking to shift the way you think? Onsite offers transformational experiences to help you live the life you deserve. Learn more: https://hubs.la/Q04zCzKf0⁠ In This Episode, You'll Learn: The real psychology behind why we avoid the things we want to do most. How to shift your internal soundtrack using the "Retire, Replace, Repeat" method. Why optimism is a daily practice, not a personality trait. How to separate fear from decision-making so you can finally cross your finish line. Stay Connected to Human School: Human School on Instagram: https://hubs.la/Q04zCFsz0 Miles on Instagram: https://hubs.la/Q04zCBRJ0 Learn more about Onsite: https://hubs.la/Q04zCzKf0 Follow Human School on Substack: https://hubs.la/Q04zChTr0 Episode Chapters: 00:00 - Welcome Jon Acuff – Author of Procrastination Proof02:00 - The 34-Year Delay06:00 - Growing Up Anxious and Running Hot09:30 - Scars as Lighthouses & The Power of Going First13:30 - Mental Health, Rumination, and Mindset16:00 - Live Coaching: Unpacking Miles' Book Goals & Resistance22:00 - High Performers and Changing Your Fuel Source27:00 - Repetition, Symbols, and Soundtrack Cards31:00 - Experiential Healing, Empathy, and Feedback Loops35:40 - Writing for Teenagers and Handle-Making44:50 - Why We Procrastinate: The Bad Solution49:30 - Jon's Corporate Exit & The Birth of His Blog54:30 - The Internet, Online Anger, and Identity Follows Activity58:45 - Finding Peace in the Storm & Practicing Optimism01:04:00 - Tactical Tools: Paper Shrinks Fear & Owner's Manuals01:08:50 - Success Hang-ups & The Fear of Being Remarkable01:14:00 - Unpacking Money Scripts and Celebrating Wins01:22:00 - Growth is Non-Linear: The Reality of Healing01:26:40 - Writing Brave & Jon's Upcoming Book on Optimism01:30:00 - Counseling, Faith, and Following Overreactions01:36:30 - Writing vs. Rewriting & Fear Gets a Voice, Not a Vote

What happens when the mental health expert becomes the one navigating a family crisis? In this deep and deeply personal conversation, therapist and author Matthias Barker sits down with Miles at the Transform Trauma Conference –– Europe’s largest mental health and wellness conference in Oxford, England –– to open up about his own journey through family estrangement, grief, and reconciliation. Together, they break down the real-world stuff we all deal with: why healing must come before forgiveness, the difference between setting a healthy boundary and running away, the traps of modern pop psychology, and what it actually takes to find "peace with what's possible." Whether you're a mental health professional or just trying to navigate your own family system, this conversation offers real tools for real life.Learn more about Transform Trauma and other Master’s Events: https://mastersevents.com/ Are you unfurling your own stories around family, trauma, and mental health? Onsite offers transformational experiences to help you live the life you deserve. Learn more: https://hubs.la/Q04xQ6_l0 Episode Chapters: 00:00 - Welcome to Human School... LIVE!01:45 - Meet Matthias Barker: From drama kid to building a platform05:00 - The Family Crisis: Addiction, divorce, and estrangement07:00 - Learning from Grief Expert David Kessler11:00 - The Intersection of Trauma and Grief in Family Conflict15:30 - Peace with What’s Possible: Rethinking reconciliation26:30 - The Research on Contempt and Emotional Abuse31:30 - Boundaries vs. Avoidance: When to engage and when to step back39:30 - The Danger of Pop Psychology and Weaponized Therapy Speak49:30 - The Trap of Rumination vs. True Psychological Healing55:30 - The Hardest and Most Meaningful Parts of Being a HelperStay connected to Human School Substack: https://hubs.ly/Q04xQ71f0 Miles on Instagram: https://hubs.ly/Q04xQ6Y40 Human School on Instagram: https://hubs.ly/Q04xQ71f0 Onsite: https://hubs.la/Q04xQ6_l0

We spend an enormous amount of energy trying to learn how to be healthier, less stressed adults – but what if the answer isn't learning something new, but remembering what we knew before we got so complicated? In this special solo episode of The Human School Podcast, host Miles Adcox hands the microphone to his seven-year-old daughter, Birdie Rose. With zero media training and absolute honesty, Birdie shares her thoughts on art, missing teeth, strawberries and ketchup, and what makes her feel closest to the people she loves.In this conversation and reflection, Miles unpacks four unexpected lessons on stress, curiosity, presence, and connection that children carry naturally — lessons that adults spend a lifetime trying to find their way back to.In this episode: 00:00 - Introducing Birdie Rose: The 7-Year-Old Podcast Guest 01:20 - Lesson 1: Curiosity Over Certainty (The Power of "I Don't Know") 04:00 - Lesson 2: Presence Over Productivity (Why Play Doesn't Need a Reason) 05:50 - Lesson 3: Expression Over Impression (Strawberries in Ketchup and PR Filters) 07:45 - Lesson 4: Relationship Over Performance (What Kids Actually Want From Us) 09:40 - Finding Courage: How We Regulate Fear Inside Relationships 11:45 - Final Encouragement from Birdie (And How to Keep Showing Up) If you’re looking for ways to connect back to yourself, Onsite can help. Learn more about our experiences: https://hubs.la/Q04xcj150Follow Human School: https://hubs.la/Q04xcj450Follow Miles: https://hubs.la/Q04xch_N0Subscribe to Substack: https://hubs.la/Q04xcj3y0