“First of All... Don’t Tell Me What To Do”: Relationship Repair & Emotional Regulation

About this episode

Rachel and Rosie discuss emotional regulation, relationship repair, and the challenges of parenting amidst conflicting advice.

Rachel and Rosie start with vocabulary words and somehow end up talking about ADHD, re-parenting, emotional regulation, and ChapStick. They discuss the question that immediately reduced tension with both a husband and a toddler, why parenting starts with exhaustion instead of expertise, and how a five-second pause can completely change a conversation.   WHAT WE TALK ABOUT IN THIS EPISODE → why "I need you to be ready" landed so badly → the same relationship troubleshooting question working on both the husband and a toddler → what you're actually afraid of losing in moments of tension → why some people need a question before they can find an answer → maternal mental health and taking time for yourself → re-parenting, self-regulation, and making your own voice matter → parenting in the Wild West of conflicting advice → "new plan," "proof of life," and other phrases that make family life easier → why parenting doesn't start with expertise—it starts with exhaustion → what repair really sounds like after a hard moment → modeling for your kids how to pause before reacting   🔗 LINKS & MENTIONS - Lingvano app for learning American Sign Language &nbsp…

People in this episode

Hosts: Rachel Lefebvre, Rosie Whinnery

Topics covered

• emotional regulation
• relationship repair
• parenting challenges
• ADHD
• maternal mental health
• re-parenting

Keywords

• parenting
• emotional regulation
• ADHD
• relationship repair
• maternal mental health
• re-parenting
• communication

Mentioned in this episode

Products: Lingvano app

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