Why You Keep Losing It in Difficult Conversations at Work (And How to Fix It)

About this episode

This episode discusses how emotional state and mindset affect the outcome of difficult conversations at work and emphasizes the importance of regulating oneself before communicating.

If you’ve ever walked out of a conversation thinking, “How did that go left when I wanted it to go right?” this episode is for you. In my experience, it’s rarely about saying the wrong thing.Because the truth is, your emotional state, your mindset, your energy, and what you’re carrying into the room often determine whether a conversation moves forward or falls apart. More often, it’s about the state of your mind you were in when you said it. In this episode, I break down one of the most important habits I’ve learned over the years: regulate before you communicate.

People in this episode

Host: Kandia Johnson

Topics covered

• difficult conversations
• emotional intelligence
• communication skills
• mindset
• workplace dynamics

Keywords

• difficult conversations
• emotional state
• mindset
• communication
• workplace

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