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We're wrapping up this Overcoming Fear series! 6. Fear can be overcome It takes power It takes love It takes a sound mind

Dave and Bethlie continue their Overcoming Series with part 3 of overcoming anxiety. Do you know someone who struggles with anxiety? Be a blessing to them and send them this series. Reach out and let us know how it has been a blessing in your life and others around you. Decide it is wrong (based on the teaching of Jesus) It is wrong because the past is over and gone Healing is available for everything we face Forgiveness is essential for our wrongs It is wrong because the future is not here yet Nothing can ever be done about the future Only God knows about the future Jesus is teaching that it is wrong to allow tomorrow's problems to tear you apart today It is wrong because only God knows the future It is wrong because it damages today Today is a gift from God We should handle our emotions wisely so we can fully live for Him today Know the difference between worry and planning Planning is preparing for the future while simultaneously leaving it all in God's hands and trusting God's goodness. Worry does not plan. Anxiety assumes the worst Anxiety presumes to know outcomes Anxiety gives into our feelings rather than make an attempt to overcome them. Anxiety accepts our feelings as the norm of our life. Redirect your concerns Emotions are not wrong They are right when they are used properly according to the commands and principles of God's Word Move into Psalms They show us that emotions are real They show us that life is hard They also show us that truth trumps it all Emotional concern is the God-given ability to mobilize the forces of our bodies and minds to focus upon a problem and solve it. Anxious concern is when we focus on our problems and hang onto them. Literally all the energy is released but has it has nowhere to go This energy can even eat away at the lining of the stomach This energy leaves us feeling hopeless and helpless This energy often leads us into other issues Depression Social withdrawal Loss of sexual desire

Grab your Bible and turn to Matthew 6:25 and join Dave and Bethlie as they discuss Overcoming Anxiety. Understanding anxiety Anxiety disorders are the most common mental health concern in the U.S., affecting over 40 million adults (19.1%) annually, with roughly 31% of adults experiencing an anxiety disorder at some point in their lives. Females are more likely to be affected (23.4%) compared to males (14.3%) Key Anxiety Statistics Prevalence: Nearly 1 in 3 adolescents (ages 13-18) will experience an anxiety disorder. Adult Prevalence: Around 19.1% of U.S. adults aged 18+ have an anxiety disorder, with 22.8% of those cases classified as serious impairment. Types: Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD): Affects 6.8 million U.S. adults (2.7% prevalence). Social Anxiety Disorder (SAD): Affects 15 million adults, typically beginning at age 13. Panic Disorder: Affects 6 million adults. Gender Differences: Women are twice as likely to be affected by anxiety disorders than men. Treatment: Only 43.2% of people with Generalized Anxiety Disorder receive treatment. Impact: Approximately 70% of adults feel anxious about the state of the world, including economy, personal health, and new technologies. The effects of anxiety Ulcers Loss of joy Inability to cope Failure to trust God (sometimes is a cause; other times is an effect) Failure to overcome Often rooted in the belief that this is just the way I am Or the believe that I can't overcome it The greek word that is used "Merimnao" To divide, part, rip, tear apart Jesus taught about anxiety it is often a part of our lives it should not be a part of our lives it should be put away it should be overcome

Some truths about depression: Some things are necessary in overcoming depression: You have to know God personally and intimately You have to desire to please God by doing what He says You have to obey God regardless of how you feel Some are more susceptible to depression It is especially a problem for those who are responsible to set and keep their own schedule It is especially a problem for those who don't have a schedule Those who have a schedule (from a boss or workplace) have less of an issue with depression Self-control is strengthened by their schedule Self-discipline is set for them already Some things naturally lead towards depression A setback Sickness Disappointment Failure Guilt A tendency to follow feelings rather than to pursue obligations A willingness to participate in pit-parties or to continually focus on self Nothing but obedience to God and His Word can overcome depression Ignoring it won't work Anti-depressants won't work Substance abuse won't work

Join Dave and Bethlie as they continue this overcoming series with this first in a two part series about Ovecoming A Bad Marriage. Part 1 What is a bad marriage? Typically marriages don't start badly We meet We talk We spend time together We "fall in love" We propose We make plans We get married. Marriage can become bad It happens in a process of time We don't love each other anymore We aren't compatible We are miserable We allow hurt feelings to become BIG problems We allow little things to become bigger things What do you do about it? Remember your vows For better or for worse A verbal commitment to honor God and His Word Divorce is only permitted in a few select cases Divorce is rarely the best option Divorce opens the door to more divorce Repent at the thought of ending it

Every marriage faces misunderstandings, but it's how we handle them that determines whether our relationship thrives or struggles. In this episode of Keeping It Young, Dave and Bethlie share practical, biblical wisdom on overcoming misunderstandings in marriage before they grow into bigger problems. Learn how to approach difficult conversations with humility and kindness, share your needs in ways your spouse can receive them, and present issues without tearing down your spouse. Dave and Bethlie discuss the difference between minor miscommunications and deeper misunderstandings that need addressing. Whether you're newlyweds or have been married for decades, this episode provides actionable application for maintaining intimacy, avoiding resentment, and growing together as co-laborers in Christ. What You'll Learn: The difference between simple miscommunications and destructive misunderstandings How to approach issues with humility, kindness, and grace Why making demands always leads to failure in marriage How to share needs in a way your spouse can process Practical communication strategies for husbands and wives The spiritual foundation for overcoming relational challenges Episode Notes: What do we mean by misunderstandings? Desires that aren't met Issues that won't go away Failure to meet each others needs How do you overcome them? Approach issues in a right way Recognize the value of humility and kindness allows us to be vulnerable allows us to develop intimacy (even if it is small) Recognize that making demands equal failure These usually are accusations that are selfish They build walls rather than intimacy Share your needs in the way that your spouse processes Have a right motivation That your spouse will grow spiritually and have God's blessings Use a right presentation Don't belittle Be honest but build A husband especially needs this: I know you are better than this For a wife - don't process everything with him plan how to be kind and to the point For a husband Be kind and loving in your words Ask her to pray about the matter Share it with her and ask her to consider it and talk about it later Don't be frustrated by her processing Determine to grow (prefereably together) Know you you are in Christ Know who your spouse is in Christ Know that your are co-laborers for Christ You are in this together Pray for and help each other

Dave and Bethlie continue their series on overcoming with this part 2 of Overcoming Anger. How do you overcome anger in your marriage and family Start with confession Eph 4:30. Confess it as sin Control your anger - better - confess your anger Jesus got angry - you aren't Jesus Meditate on Scripture Proverbs 15:1-3 A soft/gentle answer turns away wrath Recognize that you are most vulnerable to sin when you are sinned against the tongue of the wise uses knowledge aright Recognize that your words evidence your heart the eyes of the Lord are in every place beholding the evil and the good Recognize that God is always present and always holding us accountable Proverbs 17:19 Ecclesiastes 9:17 Start with some growth/spiritual steps If you have an anger issue this is the answer You have to grow Confess it as sin Pray about it every day Ask forgiveness Secure accountability Respond immediately to any failure You have to sow As you sow the right seeds, you will begin to see fruit You have to love and honor Your wife matters Your husband matters If you are married to someone with an anger problem, this is the answer. You have to grow too In order to confront your spouses anger, you have to put your spiritual house in order essential to have the strength, courage, perspective, and ability to help your spouse Pray about how to respond in a right way Practice how to respond in a right way That was a very angry way to say that, can you say it differently so I don't feel so defensive You have to allow time for fruit Anger is usually a learned behavior that is habitual When you respond to your spouse with gentleness and a request for a different response, allow your spouse to process that It makes them aware It give the Spirit time to work Separate as a last resort. I can't (with a clear conscience) believe that anger is a grounds for divorce Separation however, may be needed if a man's anger is making him abusive