S4:E17 - Shedding Orgasm & Redefining Intimacy with Joanna Arai

About this episode

Joanna Arai discusses reclaiming intimacy and cultivating a fulfilling sex life without experiencing orgasm.

(CW: Sex trafficking.) In this episode, we talk with coach and trauma-conscious practitioner Joanna Arai about what it really means to reclaim intimacy with yourself. Joanna shares her path from survival and disconnection to deep embodiment and pleasure, all while never having experienced orgasm. Through vulnerability and self-honesty, she’s cultivated a rich, beautiful sex life rooted in presence, not performance. This conversation explores how true intimacy begins within and how self-c...

People in this episode

Host: Shauna Stewart

Guest: Joanna Arai

Topics covered

• intimacy
• sexual self-discovery
• trauma
• embodiment
• pleasure
• self-honesty

Keywords

• intimacy
• orgasm
• sexuality
• trauma-conscious
• self-discovery
• pleasure
• embodiment

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