About this episode

Carl and Laura discuss four common myths about betrayal that hinder recovery in relationships.

Want to submit questions? Email us at hello@carlandlaura.com Some of the biggest misconceptions couples carry into betrayal recovery aren't just wrong. They're the reason people stay stuck for years. In this episode of Lights On, Carl and Laura get honest about four of the most common myths they hear over and over from listeners, friends, and couples they've walked through this with. And every one of them lands somewhere that will surprise you. The first: can your marriage ever be the same after betrayal? The second: does staying mean you're weak? The third: if you don't trust them yet, have you really forgiven them? The fourth: does the cheater always have the most work to do? You'll hear Carl and Laura push back on the assumption that "the same as before" is even a good goal, and why the couples who thrive after betrayal often say their marriage is now better than it was, not because the betrayal was worth it, but because the work forced a level of honesty most marriages never touch. Laura gets direct with the wives who feel judged by other women for staying, and what she wishes every friend group understood about the courage it takes to sit in the fire long enough to know what…

People in this episode

Hosts: Carl Lentz, Laura

Topics covered

• betrayal recovery
• marriage
• forgiveness
• trust
• myths about betrayal
• couples therapy

Keywords

• betrayal
• marriage recovery
• trust issues
• forgiveness
• couples
• myths
• relationship advice

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