About this episode

Carl and Laura discuss how to change the climate of your marriage through daily walks and the five key elements that shape marital atmosphere.

Want to submit questions? Email us at hello@carlandlaura.com The Summer Shots series continues, and this week's shot is the simplest and hardest one yet. In this episode of Lights On, Carl and Laura get into the third shot in the series: a 20-minute walk together, every day, for one week. And underneath it, the bigger conversation almost no couple is having on purpose. Who is actually setting the climate in your marriage? Carl and Laura walk through the greenhouse metaphor: how plants and people alike thrive or wilt based on the environment they're placed in, and why most couples blame each other for things the climate was quietly producing all along. Together they name the five things that shape the atmosphere of every marriage: your words, your emotional presence, your habits, your attention, and your expectations. Change any one of them, and the whole house feels different. You'll hear Carl get honest about how a spouse's climate can quietly cover for who they really are, and why "amending" the plan when life hits still counts as keeping the commitment. Laura walks through why side-by-side beats face-to-face for the hardest conversations in marriage, and why the couples who…

People in this episode

Hosts: Carl Lentz, Laura

Topics covered

• marriage
• communication
• emotional presence
• habits
• expectations
• climate
• walking

Keywords

• climate of marriage
• daily walk
• communication
• emotional presence
• habits
• expectations
• nervous system
• praying together

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Organizations: B-Side

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