About this episode

Carl and Laura discuss the reality of loneliness in marriage and provide insights on fostering connection.

Want to submit questions? Email us at hello@carlandlaura.com You can be married and still lonely. In this episode of Lights On, Carl and Laura get honest about one of the most under-talked-about realities in relationships: sitting next to someone every night and still feeling completely alone. If that sounds familiar, this one is for you. Carl and Laura walk through three real listener questions that get to the heart of connection: the wife wondering if she's asking for too much when her husband is a great provider and dad, the man realizing fifteen years in that he doesn't actually know his wife anymore, and the couple caught in patterns from Gottman's Four Horsemen without knowing they were doing it. Together, they unpack why "we fell out of love" is almost never the truth, and what's actually happening underneath it. You'll hear Laura get direct about the invisible weight women carry inside a lonely marriage, and the three questions every spouse should be asking themselves before asking anything of their partner. Carl gets blunt with the men: providing and protecting is the baseline, not the bar. He walks through the 4 D framework (decide, discover, design, delight) that…

People in this episode

Hosts: Carl Lentz, Laura

Topics covered

• loneliness in marriage
• relationship connection
• communication
• emotional intimacy
• marriage advice

Keywords

• loneliness
• marriage
• relationship advice
• emotional connection
• Gottman's Four Horsemen

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