About this episode

Carl and Laura discuss the importance of radical honesty in marriage and how to address underlying issues before they escalate.

Want to submit questions? Email us at hello@carlandlaura.com Most marriages don't fall apart in a single moment. They quietly erode under the weight of what nobody's willing to say out loud. In this episode of Lights On, Carl and Laura get honest about the one thing that changed everything for them, and could change everything for any couple willing to try it: radical honesty. Carl and Laura walk through the alarm clock every marriage eventually hears. The one that sounds like distance, resentment, secrets, or that quiet voice saying something isn't right. Most couples hit snooze. And snooze. And snooze. Until the snooze button stops working. This episode is about waking up before you have to. You'll hear Carl get honest about the exhausting tax of living with a mask on, and the relief that came when he finally put it down. Laura speaks directly to the wives quietly gaslighting themselves inside marriages where the alarm has been going off for years. Together they walk through the radical honesty inventory: three questions any couple can take to dinner tonight to start finding out what they've been protecting themselves from, what they're most afraid to hear, and where they've…

People in this episode

Hosts: Carl Lentz, Laura

Topics covered

• marriage
• radical honesty
• communication
• relationships
• self-awareness

Keywords

• marriage
• radical honesty
• communication
• resentment
• self-awareness

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