Look At Me Now with Alexis Artin

In this powerful episode of Look At Me Now, Alexis Artin sits down with neuroscience expert and brain coach Ashleigh Di Lello to unpack a story that defies logic, medicine, and odds. After being told at just 13 years old that she wouldn't survive, Ashleigh used the power of her brain and belief to fight back—only to later face chronic pain that forced her to relearn healing from the inside out. Together, they explore the truth about trauma, the nervous system, and how the brain can both protect and trap us in survival mode. This conversation blends science and soul, offering practical insight into how to rewire your mind, reconnect with your body, and reclaim control over your health and your life. ----- 00:00 She Was Told She Would Die at 13 03:00 The Illness No Doctor Could Diagnose 07:00 Refusing to Accept Death 11:00 Why the Brain Craves Certainty 16:00 The Power (and Danger) of Belief 21:00 How Trauma Rewires the Nervous System 27:00 The Perfectionism Survival Pattern 33:00 Building a Dream Life… Then Losing It Again 38:00 Chronic Pain, Motherhood & Rock Bottom 44:00 When Giving Up Feels Easier 48:00 Discovering the Brain-Pain Connection 55:00 Why You Can't Think Your Way to Healing 1:00:00 Brain vs Body (and Why It Matters) 1:03:00 Bio-Emotional Healing Explained 1:07:00 The "Look At Me Now" Reflection ---- Connect with Ashleigh:Instagram: @ashleighdilello Follow Alexis @alexis_artinLearn more at AlexisArtin.com Save 50% on any SoulSway experience with code LAMN50 This is an Operation Podcast production

In this deeply raw and transformative episode, breakup coach Cole Zesiger shares how a sudden divorce shattered his identity, forced him into a painful journey of self-discovery, and ultimately led him to rebuild his life from the ground up. From losing 20 pounds and spiraling into self-doubt to obsessively trying to win his ex back, Cole reveals how embracing "no contact," developing self-worth, and redesigning his life helped him heal—and eventually find love again. This conversation breaks down the psychology of heartbreak, attachment styles, and why most people struggle to move on, offering a powerful roadmap for anyone navigating loss, rejection, or emotional recovery. ----- 0:00 The Divorce That Broke Him 3:30 Losing Identity After Marriage 8:15 The Rebound That Made It Worse 14:00 "I'm Unlovable" Belief 20:00 Obsessing Over Getting Her Back 25:30 The Unexpected Self-Improvement 35:00 Seeing His Ex Move On 40:00 Learning to Love Being Alone 50:00 Meeting His Wife 58:00 The Breakup Healing Framework 1:05:00 Why "No Contact" Works 1:15:00 Breadcrumbing Explained 1:20:00 Should You Ever Get Back Together? 1:25:00 Final Message to Himself ----- Connect with Cole: Follow on Instagram @coachcolezesiger Follow Alexis @alexis_artinLearn more at AlexisArtin.com This is an Operation Podcast production

This episode is brought to you by AX3 Life. Today we dive into the real, unfiltered journey of healing with mindfulness expert and author Michelle Maros, revealing that even with all the "right" tools, life can still feel overwhelming. Michelle shares how growing up with mindfulness didn't prevent her from experiencing deep struggle—burnout, a toxic relationship, and losing trust in herself—but ultimately led her back to rebuilding self-worth through small, consistent practices. Together, we unpack the myth of perfection in wellness, the persistence of negative thoughts, and the power of self-compassion, reminding listeners that nothing is "wrong" with them—they're simply human. The conversation ultimately centers on learning to trust yourself again, embracing both the light and shadow within, and finding peace in realizing that who you are, right now, is already enough. ----- 00:00 – Welcome to Look At Me Now 00:01:00 – Meet Michelle Maros (Bestselling Author & Mindfulness Expert) 00:02:00 – Why We Don't Let Ourselves Feel Proud 00:05:20 – Michelle's Origin Story & Growing Up With Mindfulness 00:08:00 – The Truth About "Overnight Success" (14+ Years in the Making) 00:10:00 – Mindful Parenting vs Traditional Upbringing 00:12:55 – The Breaking Point: Corporate Life, Toxic Relationship & Awakening 00:15:20 – You Can Have the Tools… and Still Suffer 00:16:30 – "Life is Difficult" — The Quote That Changed Everything 00:19:00 – Turning Pain Into Purpose (Your Mess = Your Message) 00:20:00 – Why Healing Is Built on Small Daily Practices 00:21:00 – The Myth of "Perfect" Meditation & Comparison Trap 00:22:30 – You Don't Lose Your Edge—You Gain Awareness 00:24:30 – Wellness Industry Illusions & Being Human 00:26:00 – "Have I Wasted My Life?" — The Voice We All Hear 00:28:00 – How to Stop the Spiral Before It Takes Over 00:30:45 – TOOL: Rewiring Your Brain (Thought Grooves) 00:32:15 – TOOL: HALT Method (Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired) 00:34:30 – Why Self-Care Is Simple… But Not Easy 00:37:00 – The Real Meaning Behind Dear Friend 00:41:00 – Rebuilding Self-Trust After Losing Yourself 00:44:00 – What's Next: New Book, Healing Cycles, Future Vision 00:46:00 – The Power of Small Acts of Kindness 00:48:30 – The Mirror Question (Signature Closing Moment) 00:49:40 – "I'm Proud of You" — Michelle's Emotional Breakthrough 00:51:00 – Final Reflections & Outro ---- Connect with Michelle:Instagram: @michellemaros Follow Alexis @alexis_artinLearn more at AlexisArtin.com Fight inflammation and other key hallmarks of aging with astaxanthin and use checkout code LAMN at https://www.AX3.Life/lamn for an exclusive discount Save 50% on any SoulSway experience with code LAMN50 This is an Operation Podcast production

This episode is brought to you by AX3 Life. In this episode of Look At Me Now, Alexis Artin sits down with entrepreneur and Hype Women founder Erin Gallagher for a powerful conversation about identity, self-worth, and the moment many women realize they've been abandoning themselves in service to everyone else. Erin shares how growing up surrounded by strong women, navigating 15 years in corporate America, becoming a mother, and ultimately turning 40 sparked a profound personal awakening that led her to reclaim her voice, desires, and autonomy. Together they explore the societal conditioning that encourages women to compete rather than support each other, the hidden emotional toll of the "selfless woman" archetype, and why true empowerment begins with healing and self-trust. Erin reveals how learning to validate her own intuition, release old identities, and prioritize her own needs became the catalyst for her work helping women remember who they truly are—and why that collective awakening has the power to create lasting change. ----- 00:00 Intro – Welcome to Look At Me Now 02:40 Erin Gallagher enters the conversation 04:18 Women "remembering" who they truly are 08:08 Comparison, scarcity mindset, and women competing with women 09:06 Growing up surrounded by powerful women 10:28 Corporate culture and the illusion of limited opportunity 11:19 Founding a company to support women in the workplace 12:46 Turning 40 and reclaiming identity 13:46 Anxiety, self-reflection, and compassion for past versions of ourselves 17:32 The death of identity and ego during transformation 19:08 Why personal growth makes people uncomfortable 21:08 Desire: the vulnerable force most people suppress 23:20 Why women are done just surviving 25:19 How motherhood sparked Erin's awakening 26:33 The metamorphosis moment that changed everything 28:47 "I will no longer abandon myself in service to others" 30:19 How identity shifts affect relationships and marriage 32:35 The myth of the completely selfless woman 34:20 The motherhood moment that changed Erin's perspective 36:33 Teaching sons to respect women's autonomy 39:15 The "death by a thousand cuts" women experience daily 41:49 Reclaiming space in your own life 44:03 Self-sourcing vs seeking external validation 47:12 When women betray other women 50:06 Building a network of powerful women 51:04 Why healing women—not just empowering them—is the real mission 52:21 The butterfly effect of women waking up 54:18 Three sentences every woman needs to hear 56:03 Trusting intuition and validating your inner voice 57:01 Where to find Erin Gallagher and her work ----- Connect with Erin:Instagram: @erin.gallag.her Follow Alexis @alexis_artinLearn more at AlexisArtin.com Fight inflammation and other key hallmarks of aging with astaxanthin and use checkout code LAMN at https://www.AX3.Life/lamn for an exclusive discount Save 50% on any SoulSway experience with code LAMN50 This is an Operation Podcast production

In this deeply vulnerable episode of Look At Me Now, Kelly Chase (Season 1 of Love Is Blind) opens up about surviving an emotionally abusive college relationship, navigating public heartbreak after reality TV, and the powerful inner work that transformed her life. She shares how coercion, shame, people-pleasing, and unresolved childhood wounds shaped her early relationships — and how mindset coaching, nervous system regulation, gratitude, and radical self-awareness helped her break destructive patterns. This conversation is a raw and empowering exploration of attachment theory, self-abandonment, forgiveness, manifestation, and reclaiming personal power — reminding every listener that healing is possible, your past does not define you, and you are already worthy of love. ----- 0:00 – Intro 1:10 – Kelly Chase's Origin Story 3:30 – The "Vulnerability Hangover" After Love Is Blind 5:00 – Surviving Emotional & Coercive Abuse in College 11:00 – The Breaking Point & Police Involvement 17:00 – PTSD & Nervous System Hypervigilance 18:30 – Attachment Theory & Why We Repeat Patterns 21:00 – The Childhood Wound That Started It All 25:00 – Disconnecting Through Hustle & Alcohol 28:00 – Gratitude as Nervous System Regulation 32:00 – The Power of Perspective Shifts 37:00 – Radical Responsibility vs. Shame 45:00 – Self-Forgiveness & Inner Child Healing 49:00 – Becoming the Woman You Want to Attract ----- Connect with Kelly: Instagram: @chaselifewithkelly ----- Follow Alexis @alexis_artin Learn more at AlexisArtin.com Save 50% on any SoulSway experience with code LAMN50 This is an Operation Podcast production

In this powerful episode of Look At Me Now, Sabrina Soto shares her raw journey from being homeless at 16 after her family lost everything to becoming a successful television host and creator who helps others transform their spaces — and their lives. What begins as a story about design quickly reveals something deeper: how clutter can be unprocessed emotion, how control can become a coping mechanism, and how perfectionism and social media filters distort our sense of self-worth. Sabrina opens up about self-medicating, staying too long in unhealthy relationships, learning to surrender instead of force, and redefining what a "happy life" truly means — not fame or flawless aesthetics, but feeling proud of yourself each day. The episode culminates in a powerful mirror question that reminds us that no matter what we've been through, we are worthy — and, in her words, "a f*cking badass." ----- 00:00 – Meet Sabrina Soto 02:38 – Homeless at 16 05:19 – How a House Can Save You 06:35 – Control as a Coping Mechanism 07:53 – The Psychology of Clutter 10:57 – "Clutter Is Unprocessed Emotion" 13:26 – Surrender vs. Control 24:02 – The Damage of Social Media Filters 27:04 – The Youth Mental Health Crisis 34:39 – "Just Start Again" 37:13 – Don't Give Up Before Your Miracle 41:01 – Forgiveness & Healing 46:06 – The Mirror Question 47:08 – "You're a F*cking Badass" ----- Connect with Sabrina:Instagram: @sabrina_soto Follow Alexis @alexis_artinLearn more at AlexisArtin.com Save 50% on any SoulSway experience with code LAMN50 This is an Operation Podcast production

This episode is brought to you by SoulSway – use code LAMN50 for 50% off your new favorite workout. In this high-energy and candid episode of Look At Me Now, host Alexis Martin welcomes her "brother from another mother," Nick Kosir, famously known as the Dancing Weatherman. Nick shares his journey from aspiring radio DJ and news reporter to becoming an accidental viral sensation after an assignment forced him to "put himself out there". Together, Alexis and Nick dive into the power of flow state, the secret to dancing like nobody's watching, and overcoming the tyranny of perfectionism. Nick shares the intimate stories of his personal struggles, including social anxiety, his journey to sobriety and finding comfort in his own skin , and his heartfelt process of accepting the infertility journey as a divine contract with his one and only son. This conversation is a profound and funny look at how the biggest detours often lead to the greatest destinations. (03:58) – Why all the best things in life are a detour. (05:03) – The accidental start to the Dancing Weatherman. (08:05) – The 80% effort sweet spot and the flow state. (10:14) – How perfectionism has us all by the throat. (17:26) – Recognizing social anxiety and self-medicating with alcohol. (20:09) – Finding the root of the problem and getting 8 years sober. (21:54) – The infertility journey and the beauty of one child. (24:30) – Believing your son picked you to be his dad. (28:52) – Look At Me Now reflection: "I'm proud of you, man" Connect with Nick: Instagram: @nickkosir TikTok: @officialnickkosir Follow Alexis @alexis_artin Learn more at AlexisArtin.com Save 50% on any SoulSway experience with code LAMN50 This is an Operation Podcast production

This episode is brought to you by SoulSway – use code LAMN50 for 50% off your new favorite workout. In this transformative episode of Look At Me Now, Alexis sits down with Dr. Trish Ferrer, a naturopathic doctor, trauma specialist, and space holder whose story spans continents, cultures, and healing traditions. From a turbulent childhood and rebellious teen years to choosing naturopathy over Western medicine, Dr. Trish shares how her lived experiences shaped her purpose. Together, Alexis and Dr. Trish explore the intersections of trauma, resilience, ancestral medicine, and holistic healing. Through her candid reflections, she illustrates how community, devotion, and love can help us reclaim our authentic selves and embody wholeness. This conversation is rich with vulnerability, wisdom, and inspiration for anyone on a path of self-discovery. (07:43) – Growing up in Bahrain and navigating assimilation (14:20) – Rebellion, substances, and finding relief in marijuana (21:19) – Attachment patterns and normalizing abuse in relationships (29:26) – Eczema, stress, and discovering naturopathy through self-healing (36:42) – Choosing naturopathic school over Western medicine (47:35) – Community, sisterhood, and healing her relationship with parents (53:40) – Expanding practice with trauma training and ancestral medicine (57:06) – Dreaming bigger: beyond private practice and onto stages (59:53) – Final reflection: worthiness, devotion, and centering love Connect with Dr. Trish: Instagram: @doctor.trishferrer Website: drtrishferrer.com Follow Alexis @alexis_artin Learn more at AlexisArtin.comSave 50% on any SoulSway experience with code LAMN50 This is an Operation Podcast production

This episode is brought to you by SoulSway - use code LAMN50 for 50% off your new favorite workout. In this inspiring episode of Look At Me Now, Alexis sits down with trailblazing entrepreneur Julie Wainwright, best known as the founder of The RealReal, to talk about resilience, reinvention, and the courage it takes to lead through change. From navigating public scrutiny to building billion-dollar businesses, Julie opens up about the lessons she's learned along the way. With candor and wisdom, Julie shares her personal journey of failure, comeback, and growth, while also offering guidance for anyone striving to embrace risk, push through fear, and create something meaningful. Her story is a testament to perseverance, authenticity, and the power of betting on yourself. (06:18) – Early lessons in leadership and resilience (12:42) – Facing public failure and starting over (18:57) – Building The RealReal from the ground up (25:11) – Creating a culture of trust and transparency (33:26) – What it takes to disrupt an industry (41:54) – Staying authentic while scaling a business (48:37) – Redefining success after stepping away from The RealReal (55:22) – How to embrace risk without fear of failure (1:01:08) – Final reflection: the importance of betting on yourself Connect with Julie:LinkedIn: Julie WainwrightInstagram: @juliewainwright Follow Alexis @alexis_artin Learn more at AlexisArtin.com Save 50% on any SoulSway experience with code LAMN50 This is an Operation Podcast production

This episode is brought to you by SoulSway – use code LAMN50 for 50% off your new favorite workout. In this episode of Look At Me Now, Alexis sits down with retired Navy SEAL Rob Roy to dig into mindset, leadership, and what it really takes to perform under pressure. Rob opens up about the mental game behind elite training, the realities of team culture, and how the lessons of service translate to business and everyday life. With clarity and humility, Rob shares practical tools for building resilience, communicating like a leader, and pivoting with purpose after major life transitions. Whether you're growing a team, navigating change, or simply trying to level up your discipline, this one is packed with hard-won wisdom. (2:12) – Mind–body connection: the psychology behind performance (4:31) – Early influences and finding a path into service (7:18) – Training realities vs. the myth of "glamour" (9:56) – Inside SEAL Team culture: standards, structure, trust (12:21) – Decision-making under pressure and staying calm (14:47) – Lessons in humility that shaped his leadership (17:26) – Communication as the backbone of any great team (20:05) – Building resilience when the plan falls apart (22:33) – What elite training taught him about consistency (25:11) – Translating military skills to business and life (27:44) – Mentorship, accountability, and raising the bar (30:29) – The difference between motivation and discipline (33:06) – Reframing failure as data you can use (36:01) – Leadership in the real world: clarity and cadence (38:40) – Family, responsibility, and values in action (41:27) – Identifying the next mission after transition (44:19) – Creating daily content to serve others (47:04) – Team building 101: roles, rhythm, and respect (49:51) – When to pivot and how to do it well (52:38) – Resilience 180: turning adversity into advantage (55:29) – Final reflection: choose growth, lead with service Connect with Rob: Website: trident-cc.com LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/robertroy3/ Follow Alexis @alexis_artin Learn more at AlexisArtin.com Save 50% on any SoulSway experience with code LAMN50 This is an Operation Podcast production

What happens when you stop seeking validation from the world and start finding it within yourself? Join me and this week's guest, the phenomenal Yedda Stancil, as she shares her mission to challenge the status quo and redefine empowerment, particularly for women navigating societal pressures. Yedda has been a powerhouse in empowering others to become high performers through compassion, but the road to helping others has certainly entailed doing the deep and essential work on herself. Listen in as we explore Yedda's remarkable personal and professional timeline, delving into how her past has shaped her current endeavors and future aspirations. Through a narrative coaching lens, Yetta shares her transformation story, highlighting the cathartic process of embracing one's narrative to turn personal breakdowns into breakthroughs. Her story is a testament to the power of resilience and self-appreciation, embodying the very essence of the title of this podcast, "Look At Me Now." "Our perception of reality becomes distorted by what happens to us in childhood, and it's crucial to correct that distortion to stop lying to ourselves and take ownership of our actions." - Yedda Stancil ----- In this episode we discuss... (00:00) - Look at Me Now (12:32) - The Art of Being Authentic (19:56) - The Path to Personal Fulfillment (35:30) - Empowerment Through Personal Choice (44:41) - The Journey to Authentic Self-Discovery (50:55) - Embracing Authenticity Through Service (59:24) - How to connect with Yedda Stancil ----- Follow Yedda @yeddastancil Follow Alexis @alexis_artin Learn more at AlexisArtin.com This is an Operation Podcast production

This episode is brought to you by SoulSway - use code LAMN50 for 50% off your new favorite workout. In this powerful episode of Look At Me Now, Alexis sits down with survivor, storyteller, and author Cleo Young for a raw, unflinching conversation about life in — and beyond — the cycle of incarceration. From a childhood shaped by instability to decades spent navigating state and federal prison systems, Cleo shares the pivotal moments that pushed him toward change, the lessons he learned in the most unlikely places, and how he ultimately found freedom on the open road as a long-haul trucker. 00:00 – A somber opening: Alexis meets Cleo 00:41 – "Survivor scholar of life": A different kind of introduction 02:03 – The poem that made a psychologist cry 04:03 – "The gangster": A lyrical truth from inside the system 05:09 – Ten years for survival: Life in the SHU 06:39 – Forgiving everyone — including himself 08:51 – Coming home, going back: Why change is so hard 10:10 – Pride, provision, and the pull of the streets 11:21 – From tiptoeing to knee-deep in the game 12:34 – Breaking into school for a VCR: Early survival tactics 13:28 – Boys Ranch revelations: Poverty has many faces 15:26 – Team-building, manners, and what the hood can't teach you 16:21 – Thriving in structure, drowning in chaos 17:43 – Running away, returning home 18:51 – Knowing right from wrong, but feeling out of options 20:29 – The urgency of survival in the '90s 21:02 – An aunt's lifeline and a high school graduation 22:44 – Gangs as family and safety net 23:00 – First prison sentence at 18: A family reunion behind bars 24:33 – Denied the chance to learn a trade 26:11 – Smuggling runs with his mother 27:02 – Telemarketing, renovation, and a glimpse at stability 29:22 – The job he loved — and the parole violation that ended it 31:49 – Starting over again and again 34:09 – General Relief and the temptation next door 35:45 – Selling drugs — and the raid that changed everything 37:33 – It's not about knowing right from wrong 39:37 – Growing up without choice or autonomy 40:47 – The urgency that erases patience 41:46 – Losing friends to drugs, violence, and prison 42:09 – Why this incarceration felt different 43:27 – Filling time with jobs and hustles 44:49 – Thinking he could "beat the system" — and losing again 45:57 – Federal time: 20 years for marijuana 47:20 – Fighting his case from the law library 48:51 – Learning from unexpected mentors in prison 49:49 – Winning an appeal and walking free 50:26 – Cancer, loss, and the system of "Why?" 53:04 – Radical self-accountability 54:24 – Early release, hard lessons, and leaving gang life behind 56:23 – Choosing trucking: Covid-proof, recession-proof, felony-friendly 58:00 – Starting from zero and loving life without fences 59:49 – From hopelessness to hope: What he tells others 01:01:06 – Know where you're going — and do the research 01:02:18 – Choosing the high road when the low road calls 01:03:05 – Surviving the minute, the hour, the day 01:05:10 – The pride barrier: Why asking for help is so hard 01:07:21 – Being present and recognizing your worth 01:09:09 – Freedom, beauty, and the power of possibility 01:10:04 – Writing books and living fully 01:12:21 – Making the most of every moment 01:13:21 – "You're worth it and you deserve it" 01:14:09 – First podcast appearance — and where to find Cleo Connect with Cleo: Book: How to Start an LLC by Olivia J. Young Instagram: @cleo_young (if applicable) Follow Alexis @alexis_artin Learn more at AlexisArtin.com Save 50% on any SoulSway experience with code LAMN50 This is an Operation Podcast production

This episode is brought to you by LMNT - for a free electrolyte variety pack with any purchase visit https://www.DrinkLMNT.com/lamn. In this episode, we sit down with Jim Curtis, a transformational coach and wellness pioneer, to delve into the power of embracing uncertainty and transforming trauma into a catalyst for personal growth. Jim shares his journey from a challenging childhood to living with an undiagnosed illness, highlighting how these experiences honed his ability to read emotions—a skill he now considers his superpower. The discussion explores holistic healing approaches, including the role of NLP, hypnosis, and emotional awareness, in fostering empowerment and healing. Jim's story underscores the importance of curiosity, resilience, and rewriting your narrative to connect with intrinsic power and nature. This episode will undoubtedly help your reprogram your mind and embrace life's challenges as opportunities for transformation no matter what you are facing. "The biggest stressor in life is the unknowing. When you become comfortable with uncertainty, you lower the inflammation in your energy field, mind, and body." - Jim Curtis ----- In this episode we discuss... (0:01:00) Embracing the Unknown with Jim Curtis (0:13:00) Jim's Wild Story of Living with an Undiagnosed Illness (0:23:58) Why Your Story is Your Power (0:29:05) Curiosity as a Remedy for Fear (0:34:38) Transforming the Critical Inner Voice (0:48:42) Connecting with Inner Power and Nature (0:49:43) How to Connect with Jim ----- Follow Jim @jimcurtis1 Follow Alexis @alexis_artin Learn more at AlexisArtin.com This is an Operation Podcast production