MetaMoms: A Polyfamory Podcast

You came with the heavy hitting questions and we're not ones to back down from a challenge. In this episode, we're in full advice mode, responding to your personal submissions about the moments that might be keeping you up at night. Coming out to the people you love. Moving in with a partner. Telling your family. Figuring out mental health support when your relationship is complicated. And what happens when you and your partner want different things when it comes to kids.This ones for you. Got something you need advice on? Send it in for next time. Find Resources Near You: https://www.findhelp.orgPolyamorous Therapist Rec: https://care.headway.co/providers/alexis-mcfarlin

Today we're talking about one of the most misunderstood relationships in polyamory — the metamour, or your partner's partner. We kick things off with a little game of 'how well do we know each other', then we get into our own metamour journey; the messy beginning, the lessons, the unexpected beauty of it, and what we wish someone had told us at the start. We also answer your questions from Instagram. Whether you're polyamorous, polyam-curious, or just someone who loves a good story time, this one's for you.

This episode is a little different. Tyler and I are finally, sitting down together to unpack the ending of our PolyFamily season on TLC—an ending that left everyone (including us) with more questions than answers. We talk candidly about the re-enacted, on-camera disagreement that became a major turning point: my decision to date outside the quad. What viewers saw was only a fraction of what had really happened beneath the surface. We open up about how we navigated a major shift in our relationship dynamic, the immense fear that comes with redefining boundaries in real time, and what it feels like when the relationship structure you thought was solid suddenly starts evolving. There were growing pains. There were moments of doubt. And there were hard truths we had to face—both individually and together.This episode is about how our views on love, partnership, and commitment have changed, what we’ve learned since filming wrapped, and how we’re continuing to grow through discomfort instead of running from it.If you were left hanging by the finale…If you’ve ever questioned the “rules” of relationships…If you’ve ever had to choose growth even when it felt terrifying…This conversation is for you.No scripts. No producers. Just honesty, reflection, and the messy reality of evolving love.

This is technically a Holiday Special but not the kind you might be used to.We kick things off with a game, sharing classic family holiday traditions and unpacking which ones we keep, which ones we’ve let go of, and how they look in our non-traditional family. We reflect honestly on how the holidays actually went for us this year and the why behind some of the choices we make for our family.We talk about flexibility around traditions, extending grace when things shift, and releasing the pressure to do holidays “the right way.” We also share how we approach Christmas gifts as a quad—how we plan ahead, stay organized, and keep things meaningful without breaking the bank.We share about the recent passing of Tyler’s father and our plans to attend the funeral, holding space for grief in the midst of a season that often expects joy. And because life is never just one thing, we end on a happy note with an exciting Doug update! Apologies about the audio in advance, out WiFi was a bit unstable so we worked with it as best that we could! See you all next time ;)

In this impromptu episode, we finally got the guys to join us for a little Q&A! We kicked things off with a round of “Most Likely To”, plenty of laughs, a little chaos, and maybe a few surprising answers. Then we dove into some of your most frequently asked questions.This was our first time recording with all four of us, and of course, the second mic decided not to cooperate — so the audio isn’t perfect (we’re learning as we go!). Thank you for rolling with it and supporting us through all the growing pains — it truly means so much. 💛Also, a quick update! We’re moving our episode drops to Wednesdays so I can fully enjoy family time on Sundays (and maybe get a little extra rest too). Thanks for being here and growing with us every step of the way.

Things are getting messy on this episode of Metamoms. We’re finally pulling back the curtain on our time on reality TV. From 1.5 years of build up to 6 months of weekend shoots to surviving it all while deep in the throes of postpartum depression, this is the raw, unfiltered version of what it really felt like to "share our story".We talk about the exhaustion, the emotions we didn’t expect, and the ways we fought to stay authentic in a business built on editing, retakes, and storylines. We share how the experience completely changed the way we watch reality TV now, what we notice, what we believe, and what we’ll never see the same again.It’s heartfelt, chaotic, and a little bit reckless in the best way. We spill the beans (maybe too many of them), we laugh, we cringe, and we give credit where it’s due — especially to our incredible crew, who helped us survive the wildest six months of our lives.⚠️ Disclaimer: Everything shared in this episode reflects our own personal experiences and opinions, all alleged, of course. Nothing said here should be taken as fact, legal evidence, or gospel truth… though we promise, it’s one hell of a story.Grab your coping mechanism of choice, because this episode is part therapy session, part confession booth, and entirely too honest for our own good.

We’ve talked about the negative reactions to coming out — now let’s flip the script. What happens when friends get curious… and want to play?In this episode of Metamoms, we dive into awkward flirty nights, questionable decisions from our swinging days, and the messy, hilarious, sometimes painful moments that come when curiosity meets desire. We also tackle jealousy head-on and get real about facing your human emotions without shame. Expect laughs, cringe, and some hard-earned wisdom about navigating boundaries, friendship, and intimacy.This episode is rated R. It includes discussions of sexual content, swinging, adult relationships, and explicit language. Listener discretion is advised.Kids books about non traditional families: And That’s Their Family by Kailee Colemanhttps://www.kcolemanbooks.com/shop/p/and-thats-their-family-hardcover-free-shippingUnder One Sky by Kristal Glimmershttps://a.co/d/gAaqr97How Many Grown Ups Do You Have? by Polina Buchanhttps://a.co/d/4QgPbliLove Makes a Family by Sophie BeerBooks for Adults:Polyamory & Parenthood by Jessica Dayloverhttps://a.co/d/51o2xktThe Ethical Slut by Janet Hardyhttps://a.co/d/atenFzPPolySecure by Jessica Fernhttps://a.co/d/8C8J3t2The Non-Monogamy Journal by Lola Phoenix https://a.co/d/4zfYVr4The Anxious Persons Guide to Non-Monogamy by Lola Phoenixhttps://a.co/d/aSKP7rcSupporting Someone Polyamorous by Lola Phoenixhttps://a.co/d/hvDxqfdNon Violent Communication by Marshall B Rosenberghttps://a.co/d/8C8J3t2

In this episode, we dive into the conversation that led us to growing our family, from initial resistance to the unexpected two vasectomy reversals that made it possible. We open up about what shifted out hearts, how we defined what "family really means to use and the contract that was proposed about having children together. It's a story about choices, change, and the unique path that brought us from 2 kids, to 5.

Buckle up, because this one’s for the grown-ups. In this episode, we straight up overshare about how we found ourselves in the swinging scene, a few spicy stories, and all the dirty details about the night our quad first met. How we realized that we weren’t just “fun friends” and we get real about coming out, cringe-worthy “rules” we tried (and broke), the jealousy/insecurity rollercoaster, and how we accidentally stumbled into polyamory before we even knew the word. Spoiler: it’s equal parts hilarious and humbling.