The Price of Playing the Tough Guy, with Jacob Butchoff

About this episode

Jacob Butchoff shares his journey of playing the tough guy and the consequences it had on his life.

This is a difficult and honest conversation. For years, Jacob played the tough guy. Violence, intimidation, and control became a shield against something he could not face in himself. The price was prison, addiction, fractured relationships and a life built on concealing his true identity. Adopted as a baby and raised in a loving, privileged home in North London, Jacob grew up with a persistent sense of not belonging. Alongside that was the realisation, from a young age, tha...

People in this episode

Host: Philip Briscoe

Guest: Jacob Butchoff

Topics covered

• mental health
• identity
• addiction
• relationships
• violence
• prison

Keywords

• tough guy
• mental health
• addiction
• prison
• relationships
• identity
• North London

Mentioned in this episode

Places: North London

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