EP.165 - Patty-"Nobody Talks About The Joy"

About this episode

Kiran Randhawa interviews psychologist Patty about the impact of childhood experiences on adult life, particularly for children of immigrants.

In this episode, I sit down with psychologist and writer Patty for a powerful conversation about the inner worlds of children of immigrants and how childhood conditioning continues to shape adult identity, relationships, and wellbeing. Patty brings both clinical expertise and lived experience as an Indian psychologist, a mother raising two biracial daughters, and someone navigating life and partnership across race and culture. Together, we explore how obedience, guilt, silence, a...

People in this episode

Host: Kiran Randhawa

Guest: Patty

Topics covered

• children of immigrants
• childhood conditioning
• adult identity
• relationships
• wellbeing
• cultural navigation

Keywords

• psychologist
• immigrants
• identity
• relationships
• wellbeing
• cultural differences
• parenting

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Indian

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