Episode 48: When You're Growing But Your Husband Isn't — Managing Expectations, Self-Worth & Change in Marriage

About this episode

The episode discusses the challenges of personal growth in marriage when one partner is evolving while the other remains the same.

What happens when you're on a self-growth journey but your husband isn't? In this raw, real conversation, Lauren and co-host Emily get vulnerable about what it's really like to be changing, growing, and building a business while their partners stay exactly the same. If you've ever felt disconnected from your spouse because you're evolving and they're not — if you've caught yourself thinking "do we even want the same things anymore?" or "am I still attracted to him?" — this episode is your permission slip to keep growing anyway. Today we're unpacking: Why seeking external validation from your partner keeps you stuck (and what to do instead) The fear that if you keep growing, you'll lose love How to manage expectations in marriage when you're on different paths Why lowering your state to meet your partner where they are will backfire The "let them" theory — and why taking the lead actually makes them follow How to stop punishing yourself and start taking messy action Why change isn't the enemy (even though we're conditioned to believe it is) Plus: Emily shares how she almost went back to her "old self" because she was afraid Kevin would leave Lauren gets honest about seeking…

People in this episode

Host: Lauren Trout

Guest: Emily

Topics covered

• self-growth
• marriage
• expectations
• self-worth
• change
• validation

Keywords

• self-growth
• marriage
• expectations
• validation
• change
• self-worth
• disconnection

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