The Ultimate Guide to Decentering Men

About this episode

Tash Doherty explores the concept of decentering men in women's lives and shares her personal journey of empowerment.

Introduction “A woman without a man is like a fish without a bicycle.” — Irina Dunn, 1970 I heard about the movement of decentering men on TikTok. With zero expectations, I decided to try it out for a month. It was October 2025. I was sick of dating apps and about to publish my second book. I’d been single for three years, but this was something different. I’m here to tell you everything about it and share all the reasons why I’m never going back. I wrote this article to give us, women, a blueprint for how to be the main character in our own lives. Our mothers and grandmothers couldn’t teach us this; they depended on men (financially) to survive, and had to center them accordingly. This article is not about hating men; it’s about unlearning the ways that the patriarchy has trained us to prioritize making men happy. This pressure comes just as much from the women in our lives (aunties, influencers, our mother), as from men. After all, it was my mother who let my brother get away with never doing the dishes after dinner. Starting this process for the first time scared me. I was worried that if I stopped trying to date men, I was giving up on my dream of becoming a mother. Yet as I…

Topics covered

• decentering men
• patriarchy
• motherhood
• women empowerment

Keywords

• dating
• feminism
• self-discovery

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Books & works: The Ultimate Guide to Decentering Men, Having It All

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