Couples and Money: Exploring Breadwinning, Bean Counting, and Shared Financial Stress

About this episode

The episode discusses the division of financial responsibilities between partners and the stress it brings, featuring insights from Dr. Christine Hargrove's latest research.

Welcome back to Modern Financial Wellness! I’m your host, Jim Grace. In today’s episode, I’m joined by a returning favorite: Dr. Christine Hargrove (she/her). If you’ve listened before, you might remember her as Christine Hargrove during our previous conversation on couples, money, and ADHD. I’m thrilled to welcome her back as Dr. Hargrove, and even more excited that, to this day, her previous appearance is our most-downloaded and most-shared episode ever. Today, we're tapping into her latest research about a topic that comes up in so many of our households, relationships, and financial lives: division of financial responsibilities between partners and the stress it brings. Specifically, we’re discussing her new study, “Breadwinning and Bean Counting: Exploring Perceived Couple Financial Stress Allocation in a Clinical Sample.” If you live with a partner, you’ll want to hear this. 5 Key Takeaways “Bean Counting” Carries the Heaviest Stress Load. In couples, the partner who manages the day-to-day finances of the “bean counter” typically feels a larger share of the couple’s overall financial stress. Unlike the breadwinner role, which is less associated with this shared stress, the…

People in this episode

Host: Jim Grace

Guest: Dr. Christine Hargrove

Topics covered

• couples and money
• financial responsibilities
• financial stress
• breadwinning
• bean counting

Keywords

• couples
• money management
• financial stress
• bean counting
• breadwinner
• relationship finance

Mentioned in this episode

Books & works: Breadwinning and Bean Counting: Exploring Perceived Couple Financial Stress Allocation in a Clinical Sample

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