5 Humbling Lessons I’ve Learned as a Mama

5 Humbling Lessons I’ve Learned as a Mama

From momplex with Scottie Durrett by Scottie Durrett

February 17, 2026 · 23 min · Episode 345

About this episode

Scottie Durrett shares humbling lessons learned from motherhood, emphasizing self-compassion and the importance of embracing mistakes.

I use this Momplex episode to share some of the most humbling lessons I’ve learned as a mom and to call BS on the idea that we have to be perfect. For years, I believed that every mistake meant I was failing and that everyone was judging me and my kids. I now see mistakes as feedback, not proof that I’m a bad mom. Backed by neuroplasticity and growth mindset, I talk about how our brains—and our lives—are always capable of change. I share real stories about chasing gold stars, comparing my kids to others, taking their behavior personally, and gripping so tightly to their outcomes that I missed the actual moments with them. I also admit how long I put my own life on hold. In this episode, I invite you to drop the shame, live your own life more fully, and model self-compassion and resilience for your kids. The 5 things I talk about: Waiting for praise – Depending on others’ validation instead of my own. Holding my kids to someone else’s timeline – Pushing milestones instead of trusting their pace. Taking it personally – Making their moods and meltdowns about me. Being obsessed with their wins and losses – Treating their outcomes like a report card on my parenting. Waiting on my life…

People in this episode

Host: Scottie Durrett

Topics covered

  • parenting lessons
  • self-compassion
  • growth mindset
  • neuroplasticity
  • overcoming perfectionism
  • living fully

Keywords

  • parenting
  • mistakes
  • self-improvement
  • validation
  • milestones
  • neuroplasticity
  • growth mindset
  • shame
  • resilience

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