Finding Your Classic Style and Embracing Who YOU are with Artist, Author and Mother, Kate Schelter

About this episode

Kate Schelter discusses the impact of motherhood and crisis on identity and the importance of self-advocacy.

I am joined by artist, author, and creative director Kate Schelter to talk about what happens when motherhood and crisis completely crack your identity open. Kate shares how leaving New York City after twenty years, having two babies in two years, and living through COVID left her feeling stripped of her professional self and flooded with fear and anxiety—even while she was sitting in the “abundant nest” she’d always dreamed of. We dive into how she slowly rebuilt a sense of self by fiercely advocating for her own needs, like non‑negotiable solo trips back into the city, and why doing what lights you up is essential for your kids, not selfish. Kate explains her philosophy of personal style as authentic handwriting, the danger of “snowplow parenting,” and how to model courage, creativity, and self-trust instead of martyrdom. This conversation is a love letter to ambitious moms who refuse to choose between their art, their work, and their children. Photo credit: Lesley Unruh Kate Schelter (mom, artist, author)www.kateschelter.com@kateschelter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

People in this episode

Host: Scottie Durrett

Guest: Kate Schelter

Topics covered

• motherhood
• identity
• personal style
• self-advocacy
• parenting
• creativity

Keywords

• motherhood
• identity
• personal style
• self-advocacy
• creativity
• parenting
• anxiety

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Lesley Unruh, kateschelter.com

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