#264: How to Stop Being a People Pleaser - Dr. Alana Greko

About this episode

In this episode, Dr. Alana Greco discusses the roots of people-pleasing and how to overcome it to build self-worth and set boundaries.

Do you say yes when you want to say no, then wonder why you feel exhausted? In this episode I talk with Dr. Alana Greco about why people-pleasing forms, how it quietly erodes self-worth, and how to stop the cycle. We trace the pattern back to childhood survival, discuss the four types of boundaries most people miss, and walk through the self-compassion shift that helps change behaviour. This episode will change your life by changing how you deal with people pleasing. Dr. Alana Greco is a clinical psychologist helping people build self-worth, set boundaries, and overcome people-pleasing and perfectionism. Timestamps: (00:00) Introduction (02:15) Why people-pleasing starts (05:40) Childhood roots and survival patterns (09:10) Recognizing the cycle (12:45) Setting and understanding boundaries (16:30) The four types of boundaries (20:05) Self-compassion and the BRAVE framework (25:20) Rebuilding self-worth (30:10) How to handle negative reactions when you change (35:40) Linking self-worth to purpose (41:00) Comparison, validation and social media (47:25) Living in alignment with your values (53:00) Instant gratification and dopamine (58:15) Redefining success (01:04:40) Purpose and…

People in this episode

Host: Nick Bracks

Guest: Dr. Alana Greco

Topics covered

• people pleasing
• self-worth
• boundaries
• self-compassion
• mental health
• personal growth

Keywords

• people pleasing
• self-worth
• boundaries
• self-compassion
• mental health
• perfectionism
• childhood patterns

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Move Your Mind, Instagram

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