#267: Why You Can't Outsource Self-Love - Sandra Silverman

About this episode

Sandra Silverman discusses her journey of rebuilding self-love after a toxic relationship and the importance of facing emotions for healing.

How do you know when you’re abandoning yourself? And why do so many of us stay in situations that slowly erode our sense of self? In this episode, I’m joined by Sandra Silverman, an author who shares her journey of rebuilding her life after leaving a 27-year toxic relationship. We talk about the cycle of toxic relationships, including gaslighting, love bombing, and self-blame, the role of past trauma in shaping our relationship patterns, and why learning to feel safe within yourself is essential before you can feel safe with someone else. Sandra also shares what it takes to rebuild your sense of self after years of emotional pain, and why healing is a process that requires you to face, rather than avoid, your emotions. This episode is about recognising where you may be abandoning yourself, and how choosing yourself can change everything. Sandra Silverman is an author and podcast host who shares her experiences with toxic relationships, personal transformation, and self-worth. After leaving a 27-year relationship, she now helps others recognise unhealthy patterns and rebuild their lives from the inside out. Timestamps: (00:00) Introduction (01:24) Procedures And Validation (02:53)…

People in this episode

Host: Nick Bracks

Guest: Sandra Silverman

Topics covered

• self-love
• toxic relationships
• emotional healing
• personal transformation
• self-worth

Keywords

• self-love
• toxic relationships
• gaslighting
• emotional pain
• healing process

Mentioned in this episode

Books & works: Why You Can't Outsource Self-Love

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