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The Boys In The Cave podcast recently interviewed Becoming The Alpha Muslim. After publishing the episode, they faced criticism and pressure from SJW Muslims online. They caved to the pressure and took down the episode. Here is the full, unedited interview for your listening pleasure. Full show notes are available here: http://bit.ly/boysinthecave

Late last year, I had the chance to sit down to talk to Hussein Kesvani about his work as a Muslim journalist. A lot happened between then and now that led to me not publishing this podcast episode soon after I recorded it. I figure now's as good a time as any. Hussein Kesvani is the UK/Europe editor for Mel Magazine, a publication ostensibly about men and masculinity (though I would argue it's perpetuating modern degeneracy and promoting men being Soyboys.) This is most certainly a black mark against Hussein, who is otherwise a fine fellow and an accomplished, non-hacky journalist. He's also written for Buzzfeed, Vice, The Independent, The Guardian, The New Statesman, The Shortlist, and Refinery29. He's a co-host of the No Country For Brown Men Podcast and also the Trash Future podcast. Here's what we talked about during our short chat: The relationship between a writer and his editor, and why journalists publish pieces that can seem "editorialized" [4:55] What journalists and copywriters have in common when writing about "subjects" and clients [8:42] The challenge of writing on topics involving Muslims in a non-Muslim publication [13:05] How BAME (Black, Asian, and Minority Ethnic) people can get their foot in the door of fast-changing world of modern journalism [17:20] Where does Hussein place crowd-funded, independent citizen journalists like Mike Cernovich, Tim Pool, and Lauren Southern in the ecosystem of journalism as a whole [23:58] How the definition of "journalism" has changed in recent years [27:18] On the journalistic value of what many citizen journalists think passes for journalism [30:09] Do mainstream media publications have a responsibility to be impartial and objective? [35:26] How can Muslim men get their start in journalism? Hussein gives us practical advice. (Hint: copywriting is an important skill) [39:56]

Every Muslim man needs to learn how to network in a way that is natural and doesn't seem fake. The key here is to not BE fake. To genuinely be interested in people and want to invest in the relationship. Today, I'm talking to Jay Campbell, a repeat guest on the Becoming the Alpha Muslim podcast. Jay is one of the best natural networkers I have ever seen, and a master at making feel important and appreciated. People don't remember what you said. They remember how you made them feel. During the discussion, you're going to hear us talk about: How to introduce yourself to strangers and what to say to make them feel comfortable How to stay present and give your conversation partner the attention he deserves How to look for areas of commonality and mutual interest How to proceed past the initial interaction to create a deeper relationship How to maintain contact with a large network and keep relationships warm And a few other related topics For complete show notes, visit: http://becomingthealphamuslim.com/how-to-network-like-a-pro

In this episode of the Becoming the Alpha Muslim podcast we are talking to Hussein, a Muslim Chicagoan and the founder of the Streets of Cordoba podcast. It's a brand new podcast focusing on Muslim issues in the West. I invited him on to talk about the Second Amendment, self-defense, defending one's family, and related issues. Show Notes: [03:30] How would you explain the Second Amendment to a FOB (Fresh Off the Boat)? When the British were defeated in 1776, there was a debate over the role of government The second amendment was drafted as a failsafe in case the government reverted back to British rule, as well as for self-defense The purpose of an armed militia comprised of free citizens is to defend against citizens usurping the rights of others and to defend against foreign aggressors [07:50] The debate over the second amendment isn't new. It has been going on for centuries. E.g. Supreme Court rulings in the past forbade black slaves from owning firearms. In the '30s, there was a law banning silencers In recent years, gun ownership has become increasingly popular and a politicized issue, so the debate has become more prominent in the media [09:50] On the argument that modern firearms are vastly different than those that existed during the time when the second amendment was written There is a misconception about semi-automatic weapons. People confuse them with fully-automatic weapons. There are several historical examples of semi-automatic and automatic firearms from the mid-18th to mid-19th centuries Implicit in this argument is that the Founding Fathers had no concept of technological advancement Also implied is that the U.S. Constitution can only be interpreted in the light of late 18th century America [15:30] Which way do U.S. Muslims lean on gun ownership and gun control The shooting range Hussein frequents is full of Muslims training 1st generation immigrant Muslims may sometimes have an inferiority complex so they behave like second-class citizens and are reluctant to exercise their constitutional rights Indian Muslims tend to be anti-2A; Pakistani Muslims tend to be pro-2A [18:30] The Islamic obligation of self-defense Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) said: "A man came to the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and said: 'O Messenger of Allaah, what do you think if a man comes wanting to take my property?' He said: 'Do not give him your property.' He said: 'What if he fights me?' He said: 'Fight him.' He said: 'What if he kills me?' He said: 'Then you will be a martyr. He said: 'What if I kill him?' He said: 'He will be in Hell.' [Sahih Muslim] It is from the man's Qawwamah that he be able and prepared to defend himself, his family and property from harm [21:00] The U.S. political climate in recent years has made self-defense more necessary than ever for Muslims Several U.S. Muslim scholars have spoken about gun ownership and many own firearms Dr. Yasir Qadhi has mentioned on social media he has a concealed carry permit Imam Suhaib Webb once did a Snapchat proudly displaying his new gun Imam Marc Manley is a member of the MRA Sheikh Ilyas Lahoz of Safina Society mentioned being pro-2A and enjoying hunting during an episode of their podcast [23:40] Laws and regulations around firearm ownership There are a few federal laws Each state has its own laws related to who is permitted to own and purchase firearms Most states require training and to pass a test before you can get a concealed carry permit Go online and become familiar with your local laws [28:00] Practical tips for situational awareness Whether you are carrying a firearm on your person or not, you should always be aware of your surroudings You need the right gear and accessories to carry a concealed weapon e.g. special belts, holsters There are lots of resources online, e.g. Youtube has a large gun enthusiast community You need to get comfortable wearing and walking around with a firearm [31:35] What size gun should you buy if you want to carry concealed? It depends on your personal preference and what you are comfortable carrying Being able to draw, wield, and fire your weapon smoothly and confidently is extremely important, and this will also affect your choice Most important is training and practice; you want to reach a level of unconscious competence in using whichever firearm you own [34:30] What is dry firing practice? It is when you practice pulling the trigger of an unloaded firearm to improve your technique and to get used to pulling the trigger [36:45] You need to practice your marksmanship once a week. At the very least, you should go to the shooting range once every two weeks [38:45] How to carry your weapon in the masjid Some states don't allow carrying weapons in any place of worship (not so in Illinois, where Hussein lives) Most people are in their own world and not observing the people around them As long as your weapon is fully concealed, no one will notice [41:00] Most people are in Condition White. You must be Condition Yellow. [42:40] Most police officers have dealt with people with concealed carry permits "Officer, I just want to let you know I have a concealed carry permit and I am carrying right now." Give the officer control of the situation to put him at ease Don't say, "Officer, I have a gun" like Philando Castile If you have a concealed carry permit, you're much less likely to get a ticket [46:40] How to spot people who might be carrying a firearm [48:45] How do you defend your home? Your family should be educated, trained, and comfortable around firearms Store your weapons in quick-lock safes so they are ready to go in the event you have to use them [52:40] The Streets of Cordoba - a podcast for Muslims talking about contemporary issues in an inclusive and non-polarizing way

For complete show notes, visit: http://becomingthealphamuslim.com/meta-learning I know what you're thinking: What the hell does learning math have to do with Becoming the Alpha Muslim? I'll tell you what. The Islamic Sacred Tradition is one of deep learning and transmission, so much so that entire books were written on the art of learning. More recently, the subject of meta-learning has become popular due to bloggers like Tim Ferriss, Cal Newport, and Scott H. Young. I don't know any of these guys, but I do know someone who I believe is somewhat of an authority on the subject. My guest this episode is Ed Latimore. Ed is a professional heavyweight boxer, physicist, published author, and self-improvement blogger. I invited him on to teach us how to learn math and, more broadly, speak about the subject of meta-learning. Ed is in an interesting position to speak about this subject because he entered university at the not-quite-old but certainly not young age of 28. As well, he gets punched in the head for a living. Both of these factors combined mean Ed had to take a deliberate and systematic approach to learning. One that he can now pass on to us. Enjoy. Show Notes [2:20] Ed's life circumstances necessitated that he learn HOW to learn so he can be successful at university and this had the added benefit of making him a good teacher [3:12] We live in an age where information is free. Because of this, the ability to process information soundly and efficiently has become priceless [4:25] Has entering university at 28 (as opposed to 18) and getting punched in the head for a living affected Ed's ability to learn? [5:30] When you are older, the tools you have available to learn are different than when you are younger, for example Young people don't have the concept of limitation, which is a plus, while adults have a better idea of what's possible Young people don't have the concept of failure, while adults understand that failure is not the be-all-end-all Young people learn as a matter of immersion, while adults know how to learn [9:35] As an adult you understand that the process of learning gets results no matter your natural aptitude. As long as you apply yourself over time, you will get better [13:30] How much does natural ability affect learning math? Yes, a high IQ helps, but does that mean you can't achieve a level of success? The world is not only composed of high IQ people. [17:00] Whether talent is real or not is irrelevant. What matters is whether you are using your belief in it to motivate yourself or to justify your weakness and lack of trying [17:39] If we take Goku and Vegeta as an example, Vegeta doesn't just accept that Goku is better than him and quit. He has an intrinsic belief in himself, as a pureblood Saiyan, that pushes him to train harder and harder and reach new heights [19:50] Walk around with the confidence Vegeta had when he let Cell absorb Android 18. That's the lie you must tell yourself about talent [21:00] When Ed decided to go back to school he knew that even though he was weak at math, given enough time, he could learn anything. So he started learning almost a year out. In having this mindset you learn the most valuable talent to have is hard work [22:50] Because had to learn these subjects the hard way, he is more proficient at teaching it than many high school teachers. The guy who doesn't have the most natural talent is always the best coach [25:20] Why should you study math? It's because math is just a series of relationships. If you can learn to think in terms of these abstract relationships, you can apply this skill to almost every aspect of your life [28:50] If you've watched A Beautiful Mind, the Nash Equilibrium was discovered because of Game, and trying to pick up girls (yes, I'm aware this is a fictionalized account). There's a reason the most high-paying careers have a math component [29:57] You don't lift weights because you regularly encounter barbell- and dumbbell-shaped objects you need to pick up and move around. You lift them because they make all the physical activity in your life much easier. Mathematics is weight-lifting for your brain [31:40] When you first start learning, you start by learning tactically and solving as many problems as possible until it becomes mechanical. Eventually, the problems will become harder and they won't be straightforward to solve. Then you have to move from HOW to WHY, and this is where you gain a deeper understanding of the subject matter [36:10] Your final aim should be, "how can I understand this well enough to explain it to someone without using mathematical terminology?" [38:30] Bruce Lee said, "the three stages of learning are: A punch is just a punch A punch is no longer just a punch A punch is just a punch" [40:00] Ed's studies directly help him in his day-to-day life. For example, learning math affects the way he operates on Twitter because he understands network effects. Learning physics makes him a much better boxer [45:30] Understanding momentum, power, impulse, and how they apply to boxing [50:00] Why should never use AP math credits in university, especially if you are in a technical major [54:30] Understanding math helps you become more analytical in everyday life situations and puts some finesse in your game, so you can save time and energy [56:30] Ed has increased his proficiency in mathematics to a point where he sees his limitations. While he would certainly like to take his understanding to the next level, he will likely only achieve this if he pursues graduate education in mathematics. You don't know how far you can be pushed until you need to be pushed that far [58:05] To go further than undergraduate-level math proficiency, the key is more immersion. Once you have improved to one plateau there is no reason you can't improve to a higher one. Your only limitations are time and effort (not talent). Your growth will become logarithmic (i.e. diminishing returns) [1:01:30] I tell Ed about the North-African tradition of learning; writing on wooden tablets, memorizing didactic poetry, and teaching what they learn (even to a tree or an animal) [1:03:30] The ability to learn instills self-confidence. "I did this difficult thing...what else can I do?" For Ed, getting through the Physics program means he can do anything he puts his mind to [1:08:00] At the very least, learning math gives you the ability to see relationships and make connections between seemingly unrelated topics and aspects of life. It also makes you a more interesting or fun person [1:09:10] Ed recommends The Art of Learning by Josh Waitzkin and A Mind for Numbers by Barbara Oakley [1:10:35] Nabeel recommends A Mathematician's Lament by Paul Lockhart and A Mathematicians Apology by G.H. Harvey [1:13:15] Ed's book, Not Caring What Other People Think is a Superpower, is available on Kindle and Paperback

Continuing with our theme of featuring Muslim male content creators, my guest this episode is Youtuber Abu American Little. On his channel, Abu American teaches young Muslim and non-Muslim men about masculinity, male self-improvement, and gender dynamics. He joins me to teach us about modern gender dynamics and how the Muslim community is affected by it, particularly in regards to our relationships with our wives. Important Note This interview will be a hard listen for most women and some men because very few of us have heard gender-relations spoken about this way. While listening, you must keep in mind what we are speaking about men and women generally, addressing the norms in our society. Many rulings in our religion address what is 'aadee, i.e. the norm in a community. Our books of fiqh deal with what is generally true. Exceptions are dealt with on a case-by-case basis, by referring to scholars. With that in mind, understand that generalizations are not universalizations. Show Notes: [01:30] There is a difference between being a good man and being good at being a man. They are not equal. [02:00] Abu American teaches his audience about masculinity and gender-dynamics in modern society. His background as a black convert in his 40s gives his the experience and perspective to help the young men who subscribe to his channel. [04:30] Asking women about how men should deal with women is like asking fish how to be a fisherman. Women have zero experience on relationships with women as a man. Only a man can tell you the male perspective on deal with women, and this comes with time and experience. [07:10] Solipsism and the difficulty women have with abstract thought. Women will take a statement, no matter how general, and interpret it only from her perspective and how she FEELS about it, as opposed to objectively. [11:05] Hypergamy and female mating strategy. Hypergamy is women's natural instinct to pursue and secure the commitment of the highest value men available to her. This is a major reason why many Muslim women are in their 30s and unmarried: they don't marry down. [16:35] Men are not attracted to women's education and career achievement. They are attracted to youth and beauty. Muslim should get married as early as possible. Both she and her partner can grow in value and her husband will always be in a higher position than her. [20:30] A woman who marries down or surpasses her husband in status will start to lose respect and resent him. It is not an active thing. It's a passive thing in the nature of women. Women don't want to be leaders, they want to be led. [22:00] Who are the "Alphas" in the Muslim community? Since Islam does not allow extra-marital sex and we don't view professional/financial success in the aspirational way non-Muslims do, the Alphas are the preachers and people of knowledge. These are the men Muslim women lust after. [24:05] Muslimah fangirls/groupies are OK with chasing after and getting a preacher's romantic attention, even if it violates Islam, until they find out he's also doing the same with other fangirls. What makes you so special, shorty? [26:40] Build it and they will come. The more you build yourself up as a man - socially, physically, professionally, financially - the more women will want you. And it's going to be difficult that temptation, but you must. [27:10] There has been a generational decline of testosterone and sperm counts in men in the West. [28:10] Muslim marriage websites and apps: low-value women have developed an inflated sense of worth and unrealistic expectations of what kind of men they can get as a husband. This is due to Gynocentrism, a sociocultural phenomenon which exclusively focuses on the views, needs, and concerns of women. It pervades, politics, religion, media, and popular culture. [32:20] Statistics show women are at an all-time high for being unhappy. [34:00] Muslim preachers and public figures in the West constantly put Muslim women on a pedestal and pander to them. We are mirroring the Christian church in their being hijacked by the Feminine Imperative. [34:40] Increasing public statements by Muslim public figures, male and female, trying to brow-beat Muslim men who have never been married before into marrying older women (30+), divorcees, widows, etc. Female fertility falls off a cliff at 27 years old if she has not had a prior successful pregnancy. [37:10] From a practical stance, women with children should be taken on as co-wives, or if the husband is himself divorced or widowed. Women carry a lot of emotional baggage from previous relationships. The more prior sexual partners she has had, the greater the chance she will separate from her current partner. [40:00] What is a woman doing when she does or says something to deliberately disrespect you, just to see how you will react? Explaining the fitness test / congruence test / s*** test. Men should understand this is an expression of sexual interest in the man she is testing. [43:10] "Not all women are like that! Why are you making such broad-brush statements about women?" [44:30] A lot of men are ego-invested in their fantasy of what women are and how they perceive female virtue. When you disrupt this with a different model, it is jarring to their identity and worldview, and they lash out. [45:30] Men are the true romantics. Women are relationship pragmatists. You are never going to be loved by a woman for who you are. You will only be loved because of what you can do for her now. [47:30] Coconut Knights: Muslim white knights. Some of the most prominent white knights in the Muslim community are in their 30s and single. Muslim women will cheer them on but will never marry them because they are not looking for a woman with a penis as a husband. [48:30] Just like women don't like feminine men, men don't like masculine women. They want feminine, soft, gentle, caring women. [50:00] Psycho-simps: when a beta-male, so invested in his idea of acceptance and romantic attention from women, gets rejected by the woman he desires, he snaps and becomes violent. [51:15] DO NOT have a scarcity mindset with regard to women, even your own wife. [52:00] Are there no more traditional women left? There are, but they mostly exist in the East, not in the West. The way to get a Western woman to be traditional is to build yourself up into a high-value man, because 80% of the women want the top 20% of men. You do this by learning Game (only for the purpose of establishing and maintaining an Islamic marriage), physical improvement, and financial improvement. [53:20] Women are straight-up gangster when dealing with men. Machiavellian and ruthless. [53:40] If you become a high-value man, women will do what it takes to secure your commitment in a relationship, including behaving in a traditional way. [54:00] The Game never ends. Before marriage, you must build attraction. After marriage, you must build desire. The reality is your women-folk, if they are on social media, receive countless offers and solicitations from men. You can never become complacent. Women WANT you to be good at seduction and romance. They want you to use Game on them. [56:30] Using exceptions to negate what is generally true. Women's casual disrespect of the Prophet when they bring up his marriage to Khadijah. There are two false premises here. The first is the claim she was 40 when she married him, while it is more authentically narrated she was 28. The second is the claim he was her employee when in fact it was a partnership; she provided the financing while he handled operations. [59:30] "A woman's first directive is to defend her sex's imperatives even before consideration of religious conviction, marriage vows, or espoused personal ideology." - Rollo Tomassi, the Rational Male [1:00:10] Distorting the religion to fit their needs. Muslim women cheering events in Algeria, allowing Muslim women to marry non-Muslim men. [1:01:30] Competition anxiety. Nothing is more attractive to a woman than a man other women want. Muslim men can use competition anxiety to improve their marital relationships by taking co-wives. Women don't really have a problem with polygyny and sharing their man. If they do have a problem with you taking co-wives, you're not really the man she wants, you're the man she could get. [1:02:30] The onus is on men to build ourselves up and improve ourselves up until we have command over our relationships with our wives. Problems in your marriage usually stem from you not fulfilling your role as a leader. [1:04:30] Women view weakness with contempt. The lie we are told is women want a man who is in touch with his emotions, who isn't afraid to cry etc., when in fact that's not what she wants at all. [1:05:10] "In reality no matter how much a woman appears to have her s*** together, she is only rejection, one personal slight, one flat tire away from a hysterical episode. Despite what feminists would have us believe, women really cannot survive without the support of men. This is why women will forgive men for anything except weakness, because a weak man is to a woman what one drowning person is to another drowning person. At best useless, at worst dangerous. Women are hard-wired not only to avoid weak men but to ruthlessly be hostile towards them." - Rollo Tomassi, the Rational Male [1:06:08] When your woman tells you she wants you to be more open and emotional, that's a fitness test. She's probing for weakness. [1:06:50] "I was filled with disgust and revulsion when looking at him" [1:07:30] Isn't this entire discussion misogynistic and anti-Islamic? No. We love our wives and daughters, and want the best for them. Examples: all the ayahs and hadiths about the rights of the husband over the wife, gender dynamics, etc. [1:12:00] Please subscribe to Abu American's Youtube channel and hit the "bell" to receive notifications when he publishes new content. Full show notes are available on my website: http://becomingthealphamuslim.com/abu-american-little

My guest this episode is Ali Abdul Razaq Akbar. He's a political consultant and digital media strategist for the Republican party. He joins me to talk about the origins of the Alt-Right and the New Right, and the differences between the two. We also talk about a bunch of related topics ranging from Donald Trump to postmodernism, to 4Chan. Highlights from the Show [00:25] What is the Gell-Mann Amnesia effect and why it is screwing up the way we Muslims understand reality? [04:10] How does someone with a name like Ali Abdul Razaq Akbar end up a) a Southern Baptist Christian and b) a Republican political consultant? [06:25] What is Ali's pedigree and credibility in the Republican party and how did he become a VIP with a massive network? [10:02] What is the true story of the founding of the Tea Party movement and what did Ali have to do with it? [13:36] How Ali went from actively opposing Donald Trump's entry into Republican politics in 2011, to meeting and hanging out with him in 2014, to not supporting him in the 2016 Republican primaries, to finally becoming a Trump supporter [21:48] Why Ali thinks Feminism and other postmodernist movements are a greater threat to America than terrorism [23:00] Ali and I take a deep dive into the origins of the Alt-Right...Where did it come from? Who coined the term? What is its ideological or political make-up? [25:30] Who are the major Alt-Right public figures? [28:35] How are Neo-Nazis, White Supremacists, the Ku Klux Klan etc. connected to the Alt-Right? Why do Neo-Nazis, KKK, and White Supremacists in the Alt-Right reject Donald Trump? [35:00] Why do the Alt-Right have a love-hate relationship with Jews and Muslims? [37:06] Who are the "New Right"? Are they an off-shoot of the Alt-Right or are they something completely different? [43:10] Why did some New Right figures associate with the Alt-Right before distancing themselves from the group? [49:15] Branding is everything...the media is everything...why no one cares if the Alt-Right really are Neo-Nazis [53:10] If reality is a social construct, whoever controls the media controls reality [55:45] Who are the major New Right public figures? [59:05] Why are foreigners (non-Americans) like Milo Yiannopolous, Paul Joseph Watson, Stefan Molyneux, and Lauren Southern so influential in the New Right and Alt-Right? [1:03:50] Ali and I break down the meaning and significance of memes, memetic warfare, and meme magic [1:07:30] Was Hillary Clinton really sick or did Trump supporters give her the Evil Eye? [1:10:10] Where does /pol/ (4chan) fit into all of this? [1:15:00] The grand social experiment being conducted by /pol/ [1:15:53] Why Ali and I are agents of controlled chaos, and how we operate as interdimensional travelers on the internet. [1:18:46] Why are living in the era of "based" thinking - the great mistake of believing Nationalism is spreading around the world [1:20:45] Where can you find Ali online? You can find complete show notes here: http://becomingthealphamuslim.com/new-right-vs-alt-right

In this podcast, we are going to do a deep-dive (sort of) into halal dating. As surprising as it sounds, 20% of my readers are women. Some of them even e-mail me asking for help with their boy problems. They're usually a hot mess (as women are when they catch feels) but Alhamdulillah I was able to help them avoid potential disasters. On top of that, as you know, I review matrimonial apps for Becoming the Alpha Muslim. I would say about half, or a little more than half, of the women looking to get married, are in their 30s and 40s. A lot of these women are divorcees but as just as many have never been married. Which is a little weird, honestly. This being the case, I was SO glad when Soraya Soobhany-Chohan contacted me asking if I'd like to have her on my podcast. Soraya is a relationship and marriage coach for single Muslim women in their 30s and older. She herself got married well into her 30s AFTER 14 years of looking. We plan, and Allah plans. And Allah is the Best of planners. Ordinarily, I would have said "no" because my audience is mostly male. However, when I We plan, and Allah plans. And Allah is the Best of planners. Ordinarily, I would have said "no" because my audience is mostly male. However, when I And Allah is the Best of planners. Ordinarily, I would have said "no" because my audience is mostly male. However, when I Ordinarily, I would have said "no" because my audience is mostly male. However, when I However, when I internet stalked her researched her business I noticed we both have similar ideas on gender roles, masculinity, femininity, marriage, and relationships. The pre-interview phone call we did confirmed that. The pre-interview phone call we did confirmed that. In this interview, Soraya and I talk about: What does Single Muslima Solutions offer women? How many women has she helped and are there success stories? Why did it take Soraya so long to get married? What did she do wrong? And what did she do to fix it? What's the right way to look for a husband? What do single Muslimas need to look for? What is Halal Dating? Is it even halal? What are the boundaries of interaction? How do you avoid bad situations? When do you involve the male guardian? On men being men and women being women. Halal dating tips for guys and girls What are guys REALLY looking for in a spouse? Why should guys go for older women (in their 30s and 40s) as opposed to younger women (18s and early 20s)? What benefits do older women bring to the table? Why aren't more of these women considering polygyny as an option? Does it make sense for a 40-year old divorcee to say "I don't want to be a second wife?" Soraya's top tip for single Muslimas on their first meeting with a guy: DO NOT fall into this trap If you want to read a full transcript of the interview... AND get details about a FREE e-mail course Soraya offers single Muslim women... AND find out where you can find more of Soraya's work... Click on this link- http://becomingthealphamuslim.com/halal-dating/

In this video I recommend 5 almost effortless things you can do to keep your Ramadan spiritual high going. What you'll learn: The relationship between hunger and spirituality. Why does Allah select fasting to teach us taqwa? The relationship between our nafs (psyche,) our ruh (soul,) and our spirituality. What deeds are most beloved to Allah? The characteristics of sticky habits. What to do next after watching this video. FREE EBOOK ON THE ETIQUETTE OF SEEKING KNOWLEDGE Clink on the link below to download your copy. http://becomingthealphamuslim.pages.co/seeker/ FULL SHOW NOTES [Link coming soon]

This week's episode of the BTAM podcast is a narration this week's blog post by the same name. It's an adaptation of a khutbah I wrote a couple of years ago. Show notes are here - The Doors of Repentance are Always Open...Until They Aren't Please remember to subscribe and leave me a rating and review on iTunes: Becoming the Alpha Muslim on iTunes

This episode is an accompaniment to my review of "the Pure Muslimah's Guide to Very Dirty Sex," an upcoming self-help book for Muslim women who want to improve their sex lives. I narrate a chapter from the book, "how to do a strip tease," to give you an idea of what to expect. If you want to read my review and my interview of Umm Al-Mulaadhaat, the author, read my blog. If you want to subscribe to Umm Al-Mulaadhaat's pre-sale email list, you can do so here - The Muslimah Sex Guide. Please remember to subscribe to my podcast, and leave a rating and review on iTunes.

Why aren't there any popular Muslim Dad Blogs? Maybe there are, but I sure as hell haven't seen them. Technically this is a good thing because it means the dads are out earning a living to provide for their families. It's also a bad thing because this means the online Islamic discourse is dominated by women and, sadly, Feminists at that. You may have also noticed, if you read them, the Dad Blogs which do exist read like they were written by women or effeminate men. Which brings me to my guest, Neil white, who is the founder of This Dad Does, a blog for "dads who do more." I enjoy reading him because his writing is masculine and he has traditional ideas about fatherhood. So, I thought it would be a good idea to have him on because: I haven't written or podcasted about fatherhood before This Dad Does fits with our theme here at Becoming the Alpha Muslim. Topics discussed Who is Neil White? The virtue of having daughters in Islam Why did Neil start This Dad Does? What sort of topics does Neil write about? Blogging side-discussion Why does every dad blog sound like it's been written by a huge fag? Dad Blogs as a blank canvas for Advertising and PR agencies Why are mainstream media and popular culture trying so hard to emasculate and feminize fathers? What is the role of the father in the Current Year? How is the father-son relationship different to the father-daughter relationship? Neil is working on a book You can find complete show notes here: Why Fatherhood is how Empires are Built P.S. Don't forget to leave me a rating and review on iTunes