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Today's episode delves into the concept of emotional vanity, exploring how it relates to our sense of self and true essence. Dr. Alex discusses the idea of over-identity with our perceived worth and the impact of societal influences on our self-perception. By connecting to the heart, we can cut through these false identities. The focus shifts to desire vanity, a form of emotional vanity that affects how we seek approval and communicate. This thought-provoking discussion prompts deep introspection and personal growth.00:00:23 - Understanding Emotional Vanity00:00:55 - The Core Self vs. Shell Identities00:01:17 - Connecting to the Heart00:01:29 - Introduction to Desire Vanity00:02:00 - The Role of Desire in Our Lives00:02:31 - Consumerism and Ego Identities00:03:03 - Entitlement Vanity and Its Consequences00:03:14 - Balancing Desires with Heart's Intuition00:03:56 - Personal Reflections on Desire Vanity00:05:00 - Anxiety and Physical Manifestations00:06:06 - Setting Up a New Office Space00:06:47 - Heart's Desire vs. Societal Expectations00:07:29 - Reflections on Past Business and Burnout00:08:00 - Emotional Impact of Business Failure00:08:42 - Reading from Overcoming Emotional Chaos00:09:06 - Hurt and Desire Vanity00:10:00 - Heart's Intelligence and Connection to God00:10:54 - Ego Hurt and Healing00:12:18 - Vanity and Emotional Pain00:13:01 - Guilt, Regret, and Moving Forward00:14:14 - Personal Journey of Guilt and Shame00:15:06 - Physical Manifestations of Emotional Pain00:16:17 - Compassion as a Key to Healing00:17:10 - Self-Compassion PracticeDownload the Self Compassion Practice: www.emergenthumans.co/links

Exploring the theme of feeling like an imposter and not truly believing in oneself, this episode delves into the disconnect between how we present ourselves to the world and how we feel internally. Dr. Alex shares a personal epiphany about never feeling "enough" and the impact it has had on her achievements. Listeners are encouraged to reflect on what truly drives them and consider the role of self-belief in their accomplishments.00:00:30 - Feeling Like an Imposter00:01:02 - Epiphany on Self-Worth00:01:22 - Achievements Driven by Lack00:02:03 - Cyclical Self-Doubt00:02:35 - Starting a New Business00:03:06 - Core Belief of Not Being Enough00:03:27 - Self-Sabotage Patterns00:03:48 - Upper Limit Problem00:03:59 - Attitude Breathing Technique00:04:20 - Breathing Confidence00:04:52 - Soccer Memory for Confidence00:06:06 - Finding Your Confidence Memory00:07:00 - Rebuilding Neural Pathways00:07:32 - Aligning Inner and Outer Self00:07:53 - Resources and ConclusionConnect with Dr. AlexEmail: dralex@emergenthumans.coResources to get started: emergenthumans.co/links

In this episode, Dr. Alex shares a personal story about encountering a herd of caribou on a challenging road trip, highlighting the balance between allowing things to happen naturally versus trying to force outcomes. The narrative prompts reflection on areas in life where you may be pushing too hard instead of going with the flow.00:00:00 - Introduction to Allowing vs. Forcing00:00:12 - Personal Shift and Awareness00:00:23 - Connecting with the Heart00:00:34 - Story: 4th of July in Eagle, Alaska00:01:37 - Reflection on Forcing Outcomes00:01:57 - Inner Work and Somatic Exercises00:02:30 - The Cathartic Cry00:03:23 - Forcing vs. Allowing in Weight Loss00:04:05 - Emotional Weight and Stress00:04:26 - Inquiry into Forcing Outcomes00:04:48 - Heart-Centered Breathing Exercise00:05:10 - Identifying Areas of Force00:05:56 - Overachiever Mentality00:06:50 - Invitation to Reflect and Let GoConnect with Dr. Alex:dralex@emergenthumans.coLinkedInFacebook InstagramLearn more about The Shift: www.emergenthumans.co/shift

This week we're tuning into those moments in life when our gut/heart/intuition has spoken to us, but we've for some reason or another ignored it.Dr. Alex shares one of her earliest experiences of this from her career in a story about her first and only boss post chiropractic school that involves, guns, jail time and a hit man.While entertaining, this short episode is also an invitation to you to look for your own gut reactions and instinct calls in your history and start to explore what had you not trust them if you didn't follow their call .Have your own story?Share them with Dr. Alex via email or by connecting with her on social media.dralex@emergenthumans.coLinkedInFacebook Instagram

On this episode, Dr. Alex is joined by Lata Hamilton, a change leadership and confidence expert from Australia. Lotta shares her journey of transitioning from marketing to organizational change management, tripling her salary to nearly $200,000 in just three years. She discusses her work on global cultural transformations, operating model changes, and digital transformations that are reshaping the future of work. Tune in to learn more about Lotta's inspirational approach to leading successful change and how she is making a significant impact on how we work and approach life.[00:06:02] Shifting mindset in career choices.[00:09:36] Breaking away from traditional work.[00:10:40] A feminine approach to work.[00:15:06] Transition to day rate contracting.[00:17:12] Creating a fulfilling life.[00:22:45] Achieving work-life balance.[00:25:35] Separating time from income.[00:29:31] Value over quantity in work.[00:32:33] Valuing Yourself as a Woman.[00:36:03] Valuing expertise and experience.[00:38:54] Boosting career confidence. Connect with Lata: www.linkedin.com/in/latahamilton/www.latahamilton.com Connect with Dr. Alexhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/dralexridley/www.emergentwomencoaching.com 

In this episode, Alex and the guest discuss the power of technology in connecting women worldwide. The guest shares her journey as an Asian immigrant woman in Australia, highlighting her experiences as the daughter of a single mother in Malaysia. They delve into the significance of storytelling and how personal backgrounds shape careers and identities. Join the conversation on embracing diversity and overcoming challenges as a minority in different cultures.[00:00:40] Overcoming challenges as a minority.[00:05:29] Overcoming bankruptcy and growth.[00:09:24] Finding strength in challenging times.[00:15:23] Shifting narrative around self-story.[00:19:53] Reframing past experiences for growth.[00:23:49] Society's conditioning on compassion.[00:31:18] Embracing imperfection in perfection.[00:34:30] Finding fulfillment in everyday life.[00:36:47] Be, do, have.To connect with Irene follow her on LinkedInTo connect with Dr. Alex more follow her on LinkedIn

Today's episode delves into the concept of shadow work and the internal conflict between how we present ourselves externally versus what is truly going on inside. Dr. Alex shares a personal experience that led to self-reflection and encourages listeners to explore their own internal struggles. The discussion emphasizes the idea that our internal state often manifests in our external behavior, highlighting the importance of authenticity and self-awareness. Tune in for a thought-provoking conversation on navigating the complexities of our inner and outer selves.[00:00:56] Shadow work and authenticity.[00:05:15] The impact of childhood experiences.[00:08:26] Balancing strength and vulnerability.[00:12:01] Embracing vulnerability in relationships.[00:15:12] LinkedIn for personal growth. Connect with Dr. Alexhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/dralexridley/www.emergentwomencoaching.com Email: dralex@emergentwomencoaching.com 

On this episode, Dr. Alex is joined by Michelle DeKaiser, a mama empowerment coach, teacher, and speaker. They discuss the importance of connection and grace for moms at any stage of their parenting journey. Michelle's passion lies in helping mamas ignite their passions through genuine conversations and connections. Tune in to explore the significance of authentic connections and how to cultivate them in your life as a parent.[00:02:45] Motherhood and finding connection.[00:05:11] About the journey.[00:08:42] Building a positive circle of influence.[00:11:07] Real connection challenges for moms.[00:14:59] Permission to not be okay.[00:17:24] Discovering personal interests.[00:21:43] Entrepreneurial mindset in parenting.[00:25:18] Motherhood and emotional upbringing.[00:26:29] Modeling behavior for our children.[00:31:22] Starting connections and compliments.[00:33:27] Stop hiding, embrace connections.Check out the free gift from Michelle for our listeners: https://dralexandraswenson_ridley--connectingmamas.thrivecart.com/free-mama-mini-check-in-course/This free mini-course will be the place to start if you have been unsure of what you want or even what drives you anymore.  This mini-course will guide you towards making more genuine connections with others but also with yourself as you rediscover your passions.  What are you waiting for, click now! Connect with Michelle on Social:https://www.facebook.com/connectingmamasnowFb profile: michelle dekeyserIG: https://www.instagram.com/mama_connector/Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@connectingmamas Connect with Dr. Alex on LI or FBhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/dralexridley/https://www.facebook.com/alexswensonridleyGet Dr. Alex's Book-Unearthing Selfless Syndrome

Do you feel the pressure to always present a perfect image on social media and in life even when facing challenges? Today Dr. Alex candidly shares her own struggles with feeling off, being sick, and dealing with hail, technology issues while recording and yelling at her son while thinking she should wait on recording this episode until "everything is perfect". The message is about embracing the ups and downs of life without feeling the need to always have it together.[00:00:23] Presenting authentic selves-show up even in the mess.[00:04:16] Self-care routines and habits.[00:09:32] Permission to show up as you are.[00:11:59] Awareness of stress cues.

Today's guest on the show is Kara Zebrowski, a wellness coach, retreat leader, and educator with a remarkable journey. Born into a cult in rural East Texas, she broke free at 17, reinvented herself in her early 40s, and battled depression at 45. Dedicated to helping women break free from societal norms, Kara inspires confidence, self-worth, and healthy boundaries. She shares her story of overcoming challenges and living authentically, enjoying adventures, pickleball, wine, and delicious food. Tune in to hear about Kara's transformation and empowering work. [00:00:32] Breaking free from societal norms. [00:04:15] Leaving religious upbringing. [00:09:44] Support for midlife women. [00:15:19] Creating deep connections at retreats. [00:19:39] Women in medical research. [00:21:51] Overcoming depression and isolation. [00:26:30] Self-care practices for well-being. [00:31:32] Boundary setting for personal growth. [00:33:54] Boundary setting and intuition listening. [00:36:44] Retreats in Sedona and Colorado.   To learn about Kara and her...

In this episode, we're diving into the key concepts discussed in the book "The Gap and the Gain" by Dr. Benjamin Hardy and Dan Sullivan. We explore the importance of shifting our definition of success and avoiding the trap of comparing ourselves to others. The discussion highlights how high achievers, especially women, tend to judge their success based on external factors like appearance, career success, and family life. The "gap" is defined as comparing oneself to an ideal, while the "gain" involves grounding oneself in appreciation and gratitude. Tune in to discover how to apply these insights in your own life.[00:01:16] Comparing oneself to an ideal.[00:05:14] A new definition of trauma.[00:10:16] Transforming past experiences.[00:13:27] Managing stress for health benefits.[00:17:19] Finding gains in hard experiences.[00:01:28] Life and following your heart. Resources from this episdoe:Check out the book The Gap & The GainGonnect with Dr. Alex- www.emergentwomencoaching.com or follow me on social IG, FB, LI).

Join us on the show as we chat with Kathy Batista, a coach specializing in guiding midlife women to find purpose, joy, and fulfillment. Kathy shares her personal journey and insights, offering inspiration to women navigating the changes and questions that come with midlife. Tune in to discover how to unlock your midlife magic through conscious healing and self-discovery.[00:03:35] Midlife shifts and questioning everything.[00:05:51] Creating space for self-reflection.[00:12:17] Exploring feelings after burnout.[00:14:08] Creating your next season of life.[00:17:02] Designing Your Space[00:22:00] Four energetic bodies.[00:27:40] Embracing support system in midlife.[00:31:48] Late ADHD diagnosis experiences.[00:12:06] Support and guidance. Links to Connect with KathyTeachings & Tangentshttps://www.youtube.com/@coachkathybatistaThe Learning Circle Membershiphttps://www.kathybatista.com/tlcwaitFree Quizhttps://www.kathybatista.com/take-the-3-pillar-quiz To connect with Dr. Alex www.emergentwomencoaching.com

Today's episode features Nicole Trick-Steinbach, an international bravery coach who emphasizes that bravery is a skill that can be developed intentionally. She shares her journey from chasing on-paper success to creating a fulfilling life focused on connection, rest, and joy. Nicole coaches women to embrace bravery, let go of perfectionism, and pursue fulfillment. Tune in to learn how one shift in mindset can make a huge difference in life.International Bravery Coach Nicole Trick Steinbach teaches that bravery isn’t something people are born with or without; it’s a skill that must be intentionally built and refined so we can become what we yearn to be. Nicole chased the vision of “on-paper success” for 20 years before realizing that focusing on metrics over happiness had left her exhausted, burnt out, and lonely. Since then she has worked to create a wonderfully fulfilling life full of connection and appreciation, rest and joy, safety and wealth. Nicole now coaches other women to build their brave, let go of their perfectionism, put themselves first, and grow - as professionals and as people.Timestamps[00:02:21] Overcoming limitations.[00:04:28] Building bravery skills.[00:10:51-00:11:01] Bravery as a skill.[00:17:03] Thoughts, feelings, emotions distinction.[00:18:07] Overcoming challenges through effort.[00:25:13] Overcoming early decisions.[00:28:25] Redefining success.[00:31:27-00:31:48] Women's Entrepreneurial Pay Gap.[00:34:56] Authenticity in coaching industry.Resources From This EpisodeReimagined Interview With Kami Guildner: Episode 225Connect with Nicole: https://tricksteinbach.com/Nicoles Podcast: https://tricksteinbach.com/bravepodcast/Download the Woman Entrepreneurs Strength & Serenity Guide: www.emergentwomencoaching.com/links