Bechukosai - The God Who Sees Us Truly And Doesn’t Walk Away

About this episode

Rav Burg explores the themes of shame, fear of rejection, and the unique relationship humanity has with Hashem as illustrated by the Mishkan.

he promise of the Mishkan end with: “I will not be disgusted by you”? Why introduce rejection in the middle of love? Most human dysfunction begins with one fear: “If you really knew me, you would leave.” In this shiur, delivered in Tomer Devorah, Rav Burg explores: • the psychology of shame • why human beings hide • the fear beneath perfectionism, defensiveness, people-pleasing, anger, addiction, and withdrawal • the Gottman Institute’s concept of contempt as the destroyer of attachment • Adam HaRishon’s first reaction to sin: hiding • and the radically different relationship Hashem offers humanity: “I already see everything and I am still here.” The Mishkan is not merely a place where Hashem dwells. It is the destruction of shame itself.

People in this episode

Host: Rav Mordechai Burg

Topics covered

• psychology of shame
• human dysfunction
• fear of rejection
• relationship with Hashem
• Mishkan significance
• attachment theory

Keywords

• shame
• perfectionism
• defensiveness
• people-pleasing
• addiction
• withdrawal
• attachment
• Mishkan
• Hashem

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Gottman Institute

Books & works: Mishkan

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