No Worries If Not

It’s a great time to be a horny woman! Women are going offline to get off. We’re reading Romance Fiction and Romantasy, watching male-on-male hockey smut, listening to audio erotica and reading confessional sex stories. Why are we leaving video porn behind? How does erotica authored by women offer an alternative to the violence of the male gaze, and what do the feminist porn wars of the 70s and 80s have to do with all of this? Follow me on Instagram and TikTok: @lilyo.farrell Guests: Sarah Maxwell, Saucy Books Visit their website here Carly Pifer, Aurore Visit their website here No Worries If Not! is produced, written and hosted by Lily O'Farrell. The script editors are Jackie O'Farrell and Will Hilton, also produced by Will Hilton. The theme music was composed by Meg Jenkins and the title animations were animated by Angelica Lena. Sources for this episode in chronological order: Women on Porn, Fiona Vera-Gray (2024) 'Not just smut': Why it's happily ever after for romance books, BBC News (2025) Top 10 Most Popular Shows on Netflix of All Time, Netflix (2026) The female-only book club: Why women read more than men, Times Literary Supplement (2020) Rebecca Yarros’s ‘Onyx Storm’ Is the Fastest-Selling Adult Novel in 20 Years, New York Times (2025) Bloomsbury had its highest sales year ever thanks to Sarah J. Maas, Business Insider (2024) ‘Heated Rivalry’ Reaches 10.6 Million Viewers in The U.S. With Audience Increasing by Over 100% Since Finale, Variety (2026) What do women really want from men? I delved into romantasy and found a good few clues, The Guardian (2025) Dr Karen Gurney - Sex and Pleasure, No Worries If Not! Women are feral for Heated Rivalry. What does that say about men? The Guardian (2026) Girls Who Like Boys Who Like Boys: Women and Gay Male Pornography and Erotica, Lucy Neville (2018) Pornography: Men Possessing Women, Andrea Dworkin (1981) Thinking Sex: Notes for a Radical Theory of the Politics of Sexuality, Gayle Rubin (1984) Pornhub to restrict access for UK users from next week, BBC News (2026) Children as young as nine exposed to pornography, BBC News (2023) The Right to Sex, Amia Srinivasan (2021) The world wants to ban children from social media, but there will be grave consequences for us all, The Guardian (2026) Quinn audio erotica 'Hot Priest' actor, TikTok are drawing Gen Z to this audio-erotica app, Business Insider (2024) Quinn: Gender demographic of listeners, TikTok (2024) r/QuinnAudios, Reddit (2024) Perfect White Shirt, Aurore Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Welcome back to No Worries If Not! Series 2, Episode 5. In this episode we're looking at why women are so afraid of ageing. Why are children using anti-ageing skincare products? Why are we so obsessed with skincare trends and ‘30phobia’? What do we think of when we think of ‘old’ women? Special thanks to our guests Chloe Laws, Isabella Matthews aka @spottylittlething and Trish Bolton. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Welcome back to No Worries If Not! Series 2, Episode 3. In this episode we're looking at why women take centre stage in the fast fashion industry. Why are 80% of garment workers women? Why do Shein and Boohoo keep making the headlines? How the hell do you buy sustainable clothes with no money? Special thanks to Anna Bryer and Kaenat Issufo from Labour Behind the Label and Lauren Bravo. We’ve included some of Shein and Boohoo’s responses to past allegations throughout this episode, here are some lengthier public responses from them: In regards to reports of low pay and poor conditions at Shein’s factories: “We are extremely concerned by the claims presented by Channel 4, which would violate the Code of Conduct agreed to by every Shein supplier. Any non-compliance with this code is dealt with swiftly, and we will terminate partnerships that do not meet our standards. We have requested specific information from Channel 4 so that we can investigate.Shein’s Responsible Sourcing (SRS) standards hold our suppliers to a code of conduct based on International Labor Organization conventions and local laws and regulations, including labor practices, and working conditions.” In regards to Bloomberg’s report of cotton from forced labour camps: In a statement, Shein didn’t dispute Bloomberg’s test results or say whether it uses cotton from Xinjiang. The fast-fashion retailer said it takes steps in all its global markets “to ensure we comply with local laws and regulations.” A “Sustainability and Social Impact” report on Shein’s US website says the company carries out regular audits aimed at ensuring a zero-tolerance policy for “forced labour” and other environmental and social concerns. In regards to the ‘help me’ label videos: Shein confirmed that the “Need your help” care tag was just a poorly worded label asking customers to help keep the fabric soft by using a softer detergent. They said: “Recently, several videos were posted on TikTok that contain misleading and false information about SHEIN. We want to make it very clear that we take supply chain matters seriously. Our strict Code of Conduct prohibits suppliers from using child or forced labour and we do not tolerate non-compliance.” In regards to the lawsuits brought forward to Shein by independent artists: “Shein respects creators and artists, as well as the intellectual property rights of others. We take all claims of infringement seriously. We continue to invest and improve our processes to detect and prevent infringements. We require our suppliers to comply with a code of conduct which includes certification that the products they manufacture do not infringe the intellectual property of third parties. In the rare cases where our internal systems fail to identify potentially counterfeit items, rights holders can report suspicious listings via our dedicated IP complaints portal, and we take prompt action.” In regards to reports of low pay, poor conditions and the ‘Covid scandal’ at Boohoo’s Leceister factory: An independent report (conducted by Alison Levitt QC) has found that Boohoo knew of “endemic” problems in its Leicester suppliers but did “too little too late” to fix them. Boohoo accepted the review’s recommendations for change in full and apologised for failing to “match up to the high expectations we set for ourselves”. Group CEO John Lyttle said the company would be “a leader for positive change in the city”, adding: “It is clear that we need to go further and faster to improve our governance, oversight and compliance. As a Board, we recognise that we need to rebuild confidence that these matters will be dealt with appropriately and sensitively, and that they will not recur.” As of April 2024, the Boohoo supplier code of conduct published on their website reads “No harsh or inhumane treatment is allowed: physical abuse or discipline, the threat of physical abuse, sexual or other harassment, verbal abuse, or other forms of intimidation shall be prohibited.” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Welcome back to No Worries If Not! I'm so excited about Series 2, it's bigger, better and even more compelling. In this episode we're looking at the Amber Heard and Johnny Depp trial, the misogynistic frenzy that ensued online, and the decade old hate campaign that set the stage for it all: Gamergate. Special thanks to Alice McCool, Katherine Denkinson and Jessica O'Donnell. This episode contains references to Domestic Abuse so please take care when listening. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The first of our Christmas special episodes! We’re looking at how to productively talk to family members with problematic views during the holidays, with words of wisdom from people who’ve had to have these difficult conversations. Big thanks to Theresa from Mermaids UK, Fiona Clark from Show Racism the Red Card and Kay and Danny. Theresa, Kay, and Danny are all using pseudonyms to protect their identities. This is a curly media production. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

A deep dive into the underdiagnosis of autism and ADHD in women, and self diagnosing online. Big thanks to psychologists @EEG_SpecialEd and @JessicaLeighPHD, journalist @ChantayyJayy and the founder of @ADHDBabes, @VVNSings. This is a curly media production. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

As AI becomes more incorporated into our everyday lives, how is it affecting women? Big thanks to tech and gaming journalist @LeighAlexander, tech researcher Clementine Collett, the founder of Iris Dating Dr Igor Khalatian and data scientist Ayodele Odubela. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

How did a study on animal behaviour get hijacked by anti-feminists? Big thanks to primatologist and author Frans de Waal, social entrepreneur and public speaker @LewisWedlock, broadcaster @RichieBrave and of course Ruby for sharing her story. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices