168. Is This the Most Confusing Breakup Ever? + The Paradox of Spontaneity

About this episode

Jess and Caroline discuss a confusing breakup and the complexities of spontaneity in relationships.

This episode is sponsored by Factor. Head to Factormeals.com/NOTFOREVERYONE50OFF and use code notforeveryone50off to get 50% off and free daily greens per box, with new subscription only, while supplies last until 9/27/2026. See website for more details. This episode is sponsored by Zocdoc. Stop putting off those doctors appointments and go to Zocdoc.com/NOTFOREVERYONE to find and instantly book a doctor you love today. ___ Hi boos! Today Jess and Caroline counsel a Kook University student who is looking for guidance on a recent breakup that went, possibly, too well. These fellow eighth year undergrads share the tough, and often confusing, lesson that two people can love each other deeply but still not be meant to stay together. Jess recommends a John Mayer tune about the feelings that persist after a split, while Caroline offers a hot take on guys who sing romantic ballads. A second whatado comes from a listener who struggles with last-minute plans. This leads to a discussion about spontaneity and the distinction between preferences and needs. The value of discomfort is also mentioned. Then Caroline launches a groundbreaking scientific study about stretchy pants! Email us at…

People in this episode

Hosts: Jess, Caroline

Topics covered

• breakup
• relationships
• spontaneity
• self-discovery
• mental health

Keywords

• breakup
• spontaneity
• relationships
• mental health
• self-discovery

Sponsors

Factor, Zocdoc

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Kook University

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