Not Saving It For Later - Guiding Women Through Divorce & Beyond

Season 2 Episode 1: I Had to Lose Two Marriages To Learn How To Love MyselfIf you've ever walked out of one relationship straight into the next and wondered why it started to feel familiar — this conversation is for you.Amy Edwards is the host of "Anything But Mid" and "The Amy Edwards Show", an author, and a musician who looks nothing like the version of "in her 50s" most of us were sold. She's also been divorced twice. In this episode, she's open about all of it — including the parts most women won't say out loud — and we get into pick-me energy, why cheating is rarely about the other person, the mirror practice that changed everything, and how worthiness, respect, and self-trust actually get built.This one is raw, funny, and full of the kind of honesty that makes you sit up a little straighter. If you're somewhere in the middle of a divorce — or somewhere in the middle of trying to figure out who you are again — start here.Timestamps:00:58 — Meet Amy Edwards: podcaster, author, musician 03:20 — Two divorces, three marriages, and "anything but mid" 04:30 — Why we repeat the same patterns in the next relationship06:40 — "I'm the common denominator"08:30 — The dark hole: hope, depression, and getting through it day by day10:00 — Where was I giving away my power?- 12:30 — Why cheating wasn't about the husbands — it was about validation- 13:15 — *Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It* (Kamal Ravikant) and the mirror practice15:40 — Pick-me energy: how women get conditioned into it- 16:20 — The self-love test: can you sit alone in the quiet?18:00— Do your preferences matter? Centering yourself in your own life.19:40 — Self-love → self-worth → self-respect → self-trust21:15 — "You are worthy because you exist. Full stop."- 22:00 — Worthy of joy, peace, a calm home, and the life you actually want23:50 — The four-layer stack: love, worth, respect, trust25:00 — Building self-trust through small promises kept28:00 — Untangling it all: the core is self-love30:30 — How women get kept obedient — and what changes when you stop31:15 — Learning to date again: "It's not that there are no good men out there"34:30 — Speaking your truth in new relationships40:30 — The real mirror work: can you laugh with yourself like a best friend?48:55 — Amy's #1 piece of advice for women in divorce land- 51:00 — Take yourself on dates. Treat yourself like the love of your life.54:30 — What "Not Saving It For Later" means to Amy56:30 — Teaser: the dating episode coming nextMentioned in this episode:"Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It" — Kamal Ravikant- "Anything But Mid" podcast — Amy Edwards- "The Amy Edwards Show" — Amy EdwardsConnect With Amy: Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/5SdojmuUpXfksyQD8gbXJm?si=9e3d4fcb157d447e&nd=1&dlsi=f008243d30034a4fInstagram: @RealAnyEdwardsThinking about divorce in Texas? You don't have to figure it out alone.Hembree Bell Law is a Texas family-law-only firm built for high-functioning women who want to end their marriage well — with clarity, integrity, and a real plan for what comes next. Schedule a confidential consultation at HembreeBell.comConsidering divorce but not in Texas or not ready to file? Start here.My Confident Divorce is Hannah's free community for women considering divorce. Access free coaching, private groups, preparation documents and so much more! Head over to MyConfidentDivorce.com

Ep 11. What No One Tells You Before Filing For Divorce (featuring Christopher Anderson)In this grounded conversation, Hannah sits down with one of her closest advisors and longtime family law attorney, Christopher Anderson, a man who has spent decades inside the systems most people only encounter on the worst days of their lives.Christopher has prosecuted domestic violence and sex crimes in the Bronx, represented families in high-conflict divorce, built and run law firms across the country, and lived the long-term consequences of a “bad split” as a child of divorce himself. He’s seen what actually protects children, and what quietly destroys them.Together, Hannah and Christopher talk about why divorce doesn’t have to be chaos, why the system so often rewards conflict, and why leadership — in families, firms, and life — requires more honesty, restraint, and intention than most people are willing to practice.If you’re in the middle of divorce…If you’re exhausted by the process…If you feel like you’re carrying the emotional and strategic weight for everyone else…This episode will help you slow down, zoom out, and remember that clarity is kindness.This is not about winning.It’s about building something that lasts.00:00 – Not Saving It for Later: Why We’re Done Waiting02:30 – Who Christopher Anderson Really Is05:00 – From the Bronx DA’s Office to Family Law08:30 – Prosecuting Domestic Violence & Crimes Against Children12:00 – Why Family Law Became Personal15:30 – Being a Child of Divorce: When “Getting Out” Costs Everything19:00 – Walking Away From Money to Protect Kids23:00 – “There Has to Be a Better Way”27:00 – Why Divorce Turns Chaotic So Fast31:00 – The Hidden Cost of Conflict on Children35:00 – Leadership, Power & Responsibility39:00 – What the Legal System Can’t Fix43:00 – Why Chaos — Not Divorce — Harms Kids47:00 – Testing Everything on Yourself51:00 – Building Firms (and Families) With Intention55:00 – What Actually Protects People Long-Term58:00 – Final Truth: Slow Is StrongConnect With Christopher AndersonLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lawfirmbusiness/Christopher Anderson — Family Law Attorney & AdvisorBased in Coloradohttps://www.newleaf.family/Mentioned In This EpisodeThe Circle — Weekly live coaching + My Confident Divorce→ https://myconfidentdivorce.com/circleOurFamilyWizard — Court-trusted co-parenting communication→ https://ourfamilywizard.com/HHBHembree Bell Law Firm (Texas)→ https://hembreebell.comFollow Hannah on Instagram & TikTok→ @hannahhembreebellThis podcast is for education and inspiration only — not legal, medical, or mental health advice.If you’re in Texas and need legal guidance, consult a licensed attorney.If you are in danger, call 911 or the National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-SAFE (7233).

Ep. 9 Do You Want Justice… or Do You Want Peace? (Featuring Sam Colletti)Hannah sits down with Austin family law attorney and mediator Sam Colletti, a trusted colleague and longtime friend, for a ground-level conversation about what mediation actually is, what it isn’t, and why so many people misunderstand their options during divorce.This episode pulls back the curtain on the divorce process — especially the emotional traps that keep people stuck chasing “justice,” burning money, and handing control of their future to a system that was never designed to heal them.If you’ve ever said “I don’t want to go to court — I just want mediation,” this conversation is for you.Hannah and Sam break down:why mediation is not the opposite of court (it’s a waypoint),how chasing retribution often costs more than it gives,where real control actually lives in divorce,and how staying curious instead of judgmental can change the outcome of your case — and your life after it.This is a practical, honest, and human episode about ending a marriage well, protecting your future self, and choosing peace without pretending the pain doesn’t exist.00:00 – Welcome to Not Saving It for Later01:00 – Hannah and Sam’s real-life friendship & why this conversation matters04:30 – What mediation actually is (and why “mediation vs. court” is the wrong question)08:00 – Why mediation is a waypoint — not a magic alternative11:45 – The risks of going to court: bells you can’t un-ring14:00 – Why attorney choice shapes your entire divorce experience17:00 – The myth of justice in divorce (and what people are really chasing)21:00 – “Do you want to be right, or do you want to be happy?”24:00 – Control: where you have it in mediation — and where you lose it in court28:00 – Why high-conflict cases feel existential (and why that matters)32:00 – Curiosity vs. judgment: the question that changes mediation outcomes36:00 – Why compromise isn’t weakness — it’s strategy39:00 – When trial is the right answer (and when it isn’t)44:00 – Pre-lawsuit mediation & Sam’s “Mediation for Empowered Uncoupling” model50:00 – Letting go of revenge without abandoning your needs54:00 – “Peace is an inside job” — what Hannah learned the hard way57:00 – Not saving joy, healing, or life for laterMediation is not “avoiding court” — it’s a strategic step within the legal processCourt offers catharsis, not control — and rarely delivers the justice people expectMost people aren’t fighting for money; they’re fighting for recognition and fairnessYou cannot outsource peace to a judge, mediator, or legal systemStaying curious instead of judgmental keeps you aligned with your long-term futureThe goal isn’t to win divorce — it’s to end it without burning your next chapterSam Colletti is a Texas family law attorney and mediator focused on helping families resolve divorce with clarity, dignity, and intention.Connect With Sam Here: https://nmsb-law.com/Sam's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sam_d_colletti/?__d=1Mentioned In This EpisodeThe Circle — Weekly live coaching + The My Confident Divorce course→ myconfidentdivorce.com/circleHembree Bell Law Firm (Texas)→ hembreebell.comFollow Hannah on Instagram & TikTok → @hannahhembreebellNot Saving It for Later is the podcast for women navigating divorce and beyond — where we stop whispering about what’s hard and start talking about what’s real.This show is for education and inspiration only — not legal or mental health advice.If you are in danger, contact local emergency services or the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-SAFE (7233).

Episode 7. Dishonesty Is Killing You: How to Stop Abandoning Yourself(featuring Tah Whitty)In this raw conversation, Hannah sits down with one of the most singular humans she’s ever met: Tah Whitty — former trauma nurse, impossibility alchemist, and the man people go to when they’re finally done lying to themselves.Tah has worked in emergency rooms, with elite performers, with couples on the brink, and with people who have spent their entire lives shrinking, masking, and contorting themselves into someone more “acceptable.” His work sits at the intersection of biology, honesty, safety, nervous system truth, and what it actually takes to become a fully expressed human.If you’ve felt stuck in your marriage… stuck in your patterns… stuck in the “pick me” persona you built to survive… or stuck between the 2 a.m. version of you and the polished daytime one — this episode will feel like relief and reckoning at the same time.Warning: You will not leave this episode the same.And that’s the point.TIMESTAMPS00:00 – The End of “Later”02:00 – Who Tah Whitty Really Is03:30 – Nursing, Trauma & the Body04:40 – The Most Transformative Thing Tah Taught Hannah: Radical Honesty07:40 – What Dishonesty Really Is10:00 – How We Train Ourselves Out of Truth13:00 – The Vault: How the Body Stores Unspoken Truth17:00 – Feeling Stuck in a Marriage18:00 – Anger: The Messenger You’ve Been Taught to Ignore21:00 – Dishonesty as a Protective Mechanism25:00 – Men with Tempers: Why It Feels So Scary27:30 – Boundaries, Self-Worth & The Woman Who Can’t Say “Enough”31:00 – Why You Need People Outside the Marriage33:00 – Tyrants, Control & Losing Your Power36:00 – Society Was Built for Men — And Women Pay the Price38:00 – Why Women Get Manipulated During Divorce40:00 – Stop Asking “Why” — Start Asking “What”43:00 – Are You Really Safe? What Safety Actually Means45:00 – Why Telling the Truth Will Cost You48:00 – Dishonesty Will Cost You More49:30 – The Internet Has Higher Truth Standards Than Marriage52:00 – Compassion Through Honesty54:00 – The Two Versions of Hannah57:00 – The Vault Cracks Open59:00 – Baby-Step Honesty: How Hannah Rebuilt Herself01:01:00 – The Miracle of Being Fully Seen🔥 Connect with Tah Whitty: Tah Whitty — Impossibility Alchemist & CoachInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/tahfree/?hl=enWork With Tah: https://calltah.com/?utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bio&fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAc3J0YwZhcHBfaWQMMjU2MjgxMDQwNTU4AAGnzwypce7KJjeZyaFoY1452zsaii2KYGH4AbInWDdXssC6EMhfRsBKwTUVJNI_aem_gQffKSdqvcH1WEmAeICzuQMentioned In This Episode: The Circle — Weekly live coaching + My Confident Divorce→ myconfidentdivorce.com/circleOurFamilyWizard — Court-trusted co-parenting communication→ ourfamilywizard.com/HHBHembree Bell Law Firm (Texas)→ hembreebell.comFollow Hannah on Instagram & TikTok→ @hannahhembreebellThis podcast is for education and inspiration only, not legal, medical, or mental health advice. If you’re in Texas and need legal help, consult a licensed attorney. If you’re in danger, call 911 or the National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-SAFE (7233).

Episode 5: Becoming the Woman You Were Always Afraid to Be (featuring Lily Shepard)In this powerful conversation, Hannah sits down with somatic executive coach Lily Shepard to talk about identity, the body, divorce, desire, and what it really means to become the woman you were meant to be.Lily shares her own traumatic divorce experience, how identity collapses when the “wife” role disappears, and how reconnecting to the body creates space for safety, clarity, and authentic expansion.They unpack:why most women run from something, not toward somethingthe collapse that happens when identity is built on roleshow to rediscover pieces of yourself you abandoned in marriagepractical somatic tools for grounding and self-safetywhy joy feels terrifyingthe radical truth: “I want more” is a complete sentenceThis episode will challenge you, comfort you, and offer a roadmap for the next version of yourself.Hannah and Lily talk about how women evolve, and why identity shouldn’t be pinned down for other people’s comfort.TIMESTAMPS & KEY MOMENTS0:00 — Living Out Loud2:07 — Identity Isn’t Fixed3:55 — The Identity Collapse of Divorce5:48 — Clinging to the Old Life7:30 — Running From vs. Running Toward9:44 — Bitter or Better12:38 — Identity Built on Others14:03 — Reclaiming What You Abandoned19:11 — What Somatic Work Really Means21:22 — Imagining the Woman You’re Becoming24:08 — The Body as the Way Home27:36 — Writing a Letter to Your Body30:29 — Desire, Shame & “The Lion Inside”34:01 — The Sentence Divorce Forces Out of You: “I Want More.”39:23 — Practical Tools for Feeling Safe Again42:58 — The Hardest Part: Letting Good Things In47:55 — Best-Case-Scenario Thinking51:48 — Divorce as a SuperpowerWork with Lily:Somatic Executive Coaching for high-achieving women rebuilding identity, safety, and desireInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/bodyintelligence_academy/?hl=enWebsite: https://www.bodyintelligenceacademy.com/Coaching: https://www.bodyintelligenceacademy.com/1-1-coachingMentioned In This EpisodeHannah's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hannahhembreebell/OurFamilyWizard (OFW)Court-trusted communication tool for co-parents.https://www.ourfamilywizard.comMy Confident Divorce (MCD)Hannah’s community + coaching for women navigating divorce, identity, and rebuilding their lives.https://myconfidentdivorce.comHembree Bell Law Firm (HBLF)Modern, tech-forward Texas family law representation that protects your peace, your kids, and your future.https://hembreebell.comThis podcast and its show notes are for educational and informational purposes only.Nothing in this episode constitutes legal advice, mental health advice, or financial advice. Every situation is unique, and listeners should consult with a licensed professional in their state before making decisions related to divorce, parenting, finances, or mental health.If you feel unsafe at any point in your relationship, please contact a local domestic violence hotline or emergency services. Your safety matters.

Episode 3. Your Triggers Aren't The Problem... You Are (featuring Casey Shipp)In this no-filter, no-bullshit conversation, Hannah sits down with her mentor, coach, and full-blown spiritual defibrillator, Casey Shipp — the woman Hannah calls her string bikini shaman and one of the biggest influences in her own evolution.If you are in the middle of a divorce, thinking about leaving, or standing in the ashes asking, How did I end up here again? — this episode will feel like someone finally turned the lights on.Casey talks triggers, victim cycles, emotional intelligence, money wounds, nervous system regulation, and the real reason women keep choosing the same man in a different body.Warning: You will be called out. And you will be liberated.00:00 – Why You’re Actually TriggeredWhy triggers aren’t insults — they’re invitations. And why something only stings if some part of you believes it’s true.06:00 – The Victim Loop & How Women Get Stuck ThereHow women in divorce land get trapped in victim → villain → victim cycles… and how to break the pattern before you ruin the next relationship.12:00 – Taking Radical Responsibility (Without Shame)How to look at the marriage you chose, the pain you allowed, and the version of yourself who said yes — with compassion instead of self-hate.18:00 – Identity, Divorce & the House of CardsWhy your identity collapses during divorce — and the reason so many women realize they never built one of their own to begin with.23:00 – Knowing What You Want (For Real This Time)Casey guides you through how to uncover desire without guilt, fear, or the martyr voice that says: I don’t need anything.30:00 – Money Wounds, Worthiness & the Lie of ‘I Can’t Afford to Leave’The brutal truth about money stories, safety, and why staying for financial security is spiritual and emotional self-abandonment.43:00 – Alignment, Emotional Intelligence & Taking the Next Right StepHow to know if your next move is aligned — and how to stop leaking energy through drama, fear, or frantic action.50:00 – The Problem with Bitch-Fest Friend GroupsWhy complaining to your friends keeps you stuck — and why AI might actually be the more emotionally mature support system right now.54:00 – How AI Became a Tool for Emotional RegulationHannah shares how Casey’s AI helped her understand her emotional patterns, stop looping, and regulate instead of spiraling.1:06:00 – Death, Rebirth & Reinvention (A Necessary Breakdown)Casey opens up about her own current season of “the hustle detox” and spiritual death cycles.1:08:00 – The One Message Casey Has for Every Woman in Divorceland“Keep your heart open.”Not naive. Not blind. Just open. Because nothing you want lives behind a closed heart.“Triggers are gifts — little truth bombs pointing you back to yourself.”“You didn’t choose wrong because you’re stupid. You chose from your unhealed places.”“Divorce can make you bitter or better — you choose.”“Money doesn’t come from men. Money comes from belief.”“If you’re trying to avoid disappointment, you will live a disappointing life.”“Nothing you want exists in a closed heart.”Casey Shipp’s AI — The emotional-regulation AI Hannah swears changed her life.→https://www.caseyshipphmz.com/hotbodyaiCasey Shipp’s Instagram - →https://www.instagram.com/caseyshipp/Casey Shipp’s Youtube - →https://www.youtube.com/@CaseyShippThe Circle — Weekly live sessions + My Confident Divorce course→ myconfidentdivorce.com/circleOurFamilyWizard — The co-parenting app that keeps communication clean and court-ready→ ourfamilywizard.com/HHBHembree Bell Law Firm (Texas)→ hembreebell.comFollow Hannah on Instagram & TikTok → @hannahhembreebellThis podcast is for education and inspiration only, not legal, medical, or mental health advice. If you’re in Texas and need legal help, consult a licensed attorney. If you’re in danger, call 911 or the National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-SAFE (7233).

“You are worthy because you exist. Later is a lie.” — Hannah Hembree BellThis first episode of Not Saving It For Later sets the tone for everything to come. It’s for women who are thinking about divorce, in the middle of it, on the other side, or simply stuck in the “medium suck” of life—tired of pretending everything’s fine and ready to start again. Hannah shares why she started the show, what it means to stop waiting for “later,” and how to build a life that feels like yours again. From the “good spoon” story to the Bitter vs. Better compass, she gets real about divorce, identity, and choosing joy now—not someday.Join The Circle (Hannah live weekly + full My Confident Divorce course): myconfidentdivorce.com/circleOurFamilyWizard (co‑parenting app partner perks): ourfamilywizard.com/HHBHembree Bell Law Firm (Texas): hembreebell.com00:00 – Opening Manifesto: Stop saving your life for later. Hannah’s why for the show, who it’s for, and the promise: straight talk, zero fake‑empowerment BS.02:21 – The Good Spoon: How a kitchen drawer pause exposed a lifetime of putting joy on layaway—and why “use the good spoon” became a movement.04:43 – Later Is a Lie: “May death be ever your advisor.” The ticking‑clock mindset, Robert Frost’s two roads, and why you can’t wait to be “more worthy.”06:27 – Welcome to Divorceland: The scary‑carnival metaphor; finding your footing when you didn’t ask for this ride. Cussing disclaimer, honesty guarantee.08:44 – Capacity & Joy Buckets: From thimble → bathtub → ocean. Growing your capacity for good in tiny, repeatable stretches.15:51 – Not Broken—Beginning: The “Is this it?” season, the cost of pretending, and permission to want a bigger life.18:16 – Worthiness as Baseline: You are worthy because you exist. Full stop. (And what that changes.)24:51 – Bitter or Better? The North Star for every decision during divorce. British Rowing’s one‑question method → your filter.27:03 – Text You Shouldn’t Send: Applying Bitter/Better to the “X‑factor” pop‑off text. Court‑proofing your communication.29:20 – Pro‑Woman ≠ Anti‑Man: Why this room centers women without bashing men; calling in healthy masculinity.31:36 – Receipts, Tools, and Trials: When the kids didn’t live with her first; evidence, therapy, Divorce Poison, and long‑game strategy.33:57 – Origin Story: East Texas to law school; three babies back‑to‑back; learning to want more.36:26 – Turning 30 on Facebook: “This is your real life.” The not‑a‑dress‑rehearsal moment that changed the trajectory.38:51 – Leaving Badly vs. Leaving Well: Why preparation matters; when settling now means war later; learning the hard way.41:15 – My Confident Divorce (MCD): Course + Circle bundle; go‑bag checklists, custody prep, and evidence systems—so you don’t lose kids, money, or sanity.43:29 – Carry Your Own Groceries: The dream that became the book: you can handle your life.45:08 – Season Preview: Mediation, body and identity, woo + practical, divorce glow‑up, money power.47:13 – The Confession: “I want more.” Why wanting more threatens systems—and why we’re doing it anyway.49:32 – Joy Is the Point: People full of life are contagious. Let it rub off.51:10 – Radical Responsibility: Viktor Frankl, the space between stimulus and response, and dropping the villain/victim script.53:00 – Closing Charge: You are one to three decisions away from a different life. We’re not saving it for later.Instagram & TikTok: @hannahhembreebellThis episode and these notes are for educational and inspirational purposes only and are not legal, medical, or mental health advice. If you’re in Texas and need legal advice, consult a licensed attorney who knows your facts. If you’re in danger, call 911 or the National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800‑799‑SAFE (7233).Host: Hannah Hembree Bell — Texas divorce lawyer, mom, founder of Hembree Bell Law, creator of My Confident Divorce.Production: Authentic Exposure StudioSponsors: OurFamilyWizard.