notes on being unruly

Let’s do it - let’s demystify the horrors of Taxes... Accounting…. Your bank balance ARGGGG! I’m joined by Clare Marsh who set up an accountancy practice specifically to support women business owners in the UK and to bring proper understanding, support and even a little joy back into our business accounts. Clare brings warmth, clarity and a refreshing dose of practicality to a topic that we often approach with anxiety and confusion. We talk about why finances feel so emotionally charged, how asking for help (even for what we think are “dumb questions”) is a bloody good thing, and what actually matters when it comes to running the financial side of your business. We get down to brass tacks, and even have a good laugh about: Clare’s journey from corporate burnout to building a values-led accountancy practice Taking down the patriarchy by reclaiming control over our business accounts How we shame ourselves for not knowing everything and why that’s a totally inaccurate, unfair way of doing business Practical, accessible steps for small business owners who want to feel more in control of their finances How to start asking for help with your business Why accountants need support too (and actually don’t know everything) 🎧 When you’re finally ready to take back control of your accounts - and stop letting it feel like such a drudgery - you’ll want to get in on this ep. ❤ If you loved this episode, don’t forget to Subscribe to the podcast and leave a 5-star review. It’ll help more people discover the show and start their should-free journey too! Connect with Clare: On her website: herbusinesscounts.co.uk Join Clare’s free Facebook group: Ask a Female Accountant Connect on Facebook Connect on Instagram @herbusinesscounts Connect on LinkedIn -- Come hang out with me! Connect with me on LinkedIn here Follow me on Instagram here Join my mailing list here Check out what else I do on my website

I’m joined by the luminous Sue Anderson, massively successful copywriter and the visionary behind Wild Woods Retreat, a 30-acre haven she built (literally with her own hands) in the Smoky Mountains to help entrepreneurs step out of hustle culture and back into their bodies and creativity. Sue’s story is the quiet but life-changing revolution so many of us need: after 17 years of nonstop grind, raising children while running a booming copywriting agency and doing all the “right” things the hustle bros told her to do… she hit burnout - and hard. Then she started getting out into nature and playing more. That eventually led to relaxing more, deeper nervous system regulation and finally one day, the wild spontaneous idea to sell up everything, buy land and create a retreat centre for entrepreneurs to begin doing the same. In this super energising convo, we chat about ✨ How hustle culture hijacks our nervous systems and tricks us into believing rest is something we must earn ✨ Why your best ideas arrive when you stop trying and let your whole self take a damn break ✨ The neuroscience of rest and why being “unproductive” is often the smartest business move you can make ✨ How sensory rest, boredom and slowing down unlock creativity and problem-solving ✨ Why nature regulates us in ways Netflix simply can’t ✨ The power of simple practices like sit spots, forest bathing and tiny micro-moments outdoors ✨ The gorgeous philosophy behind Wild Woods Retreat: a place for entrepreneurs to soften, breathe, hear themselves again and remember that they are part of something bigger and far more abundant than their to-do list. 🎧 This is the reminder we all need that we absolutely don’t have to finish all the work before we get to play. And maybe, just maybe, to go find your own sit spot after listening. ❤ If you loved this episode, don’t forget to Subscribe to the podcast and leave a 5-star review—it’ll help more people discover the show and start their should-free journey too! 🌻 Connect with Sue Learn about Wild Woods Retreat: wildwoodsretreat.com Sue’s podcast, Entrepreneurs Gone Wild: entrepreneursgonewild.com Connect on Facebook Connect on Instagram @entrepreneursgonewild 👯‍♀️ Come hang out with me! Connect with me on LinkedIn Follow me on Instagram Join my mailing list Check out what else I do on my website: jamiepei.com

In this hugely energising episode, I talk with own coach and ‘sifu’ Karli Whitwell, a quantum self-concept and manifestation mentor who blends NLP, hypnotherapy, neuroscience and identity work to help women rewrite their reality and start calling in their goals and desires fast. We unpack why strategy alone doesn’t quite work… and why the real power sits in who you are being, not just what you’re doing. Karli breaks down how our identities and beliefs form in earliest childhood, why our subconscious runs the show and how we can really begin to create life-changing and sustainable results. She shows us that you really can have everything you want - and how to get it. We deep dive: ✨ how your self-concept shapes your 3D reality ✨ why the Law of Attraction doesn’t always work and how to replace it with the Law of Assumption instead ✨ how to flip limiting beliefs and rewire your neural pathways for better outcomes now ✨ how the quantum model shows that all versions of you already exist - including the most successful ones you’re dreaming of ✨ what it looks like to embody your future identity right now ✨ AND how to hold your new massively successful identity even when your 3D reality hasn’t caught up yet Karli also shares personal stories and practices, including the wild manifestation of her dream life through a nightly 20-second “future movie” (which you can do too!) 🎧 If you’ve ever wondered why you “do all the things” but still feel stuck … this episode is your catalyst to ditch the shoulds, choose the reality you actually want to live in and create it right now. ❤ If you loved this episode, don’t forget to Subscribe to the podcast and leave a 5-star review. It’ll help more people discover the show and start their should-free journey too! Connect with Karli Learn more and apply to Karli’s High Calibre Mastermind here Follow and connect with Karli on all these platforms: TikTok: @karliwhitwell Beacons: @manifestationmentorkarli Instagram: @manifestationmentorkarli Podcast: Thrive with Karli Whitwell on Spotify and Apple Podcasts YouTube: @manifestationmentorkarli Come hang out with me! Connect with me on LinkedIn here Follow me on Instagram here Join my mailing list here Check out what else I do on my website

Today, I’m joined by the gorgeous Jo Bibby, nutritional wellness and energy coach and founder of The Energised Woman. Jo’s coaching and mentoring work is rooted in one simple, life-changing truth: when women put themselves back at the centre of their own care and needs, everyone benefits and everything gets better. Jo shares her own journey from postpartum depression and exhaustion to becoming an advocate for holistic self-care. She also shares her thoughts and advice around: ✨ The five core pillars of wellbeing: nutrition and gut health, movement, hydration, rest and sleep, and purpose and connection ✨ The cultural and personal pressures that keep women running on empty ✨ Practical, doable ways to build micro-moments of rest and self-care into everyday life - even when things feel busy and overwhelming ✨ Why rest is truly resistance and the incredible knock-on effects it has on everything else we do ✨ How community, support and self-advocacy can genuinely transform your health and joy We explore why so many women find it so hard to rest, the blocks that stop us from looking after ourselves, and how we can begin to give ourselves that much deserved care. This isn’t something that’s selfish or yet another thing to add to our to-do lists. It’s the most loving thing we can do for ourselves and the people we care about. 🎧 Listen now to start reclaiming control and power over your days and your health. ❤ If you loved this episode, please subscribe to the podcast and leave a 5-star review. It’ll help more people discover the show and start their should-free journey too! Connect with Jo: Join Jo’s membership: The Energised Woman Collective Follow Jo on Instagram: @theenergisedwoman Learn more about how to work with Jo on her website: livelifewellness.co.uk Check out Jo’s The Energised Woman Podcast Come hang out with me! Connect with me on LinkedIn here Follow me on Instagram @clubjamiepei Join my mailing list here Check out what else I do on my website

What if the “perfect” life you’ve been building - the career, the marriage, the house, the family - isn’t actually your life at all? And then you suddenly realise you never actually wanted any of that? In this very raw, honest, heart-wide-open convo emotional alchemy mentor Fay Varsos shares her tumultuous journey of leaving behind decades of cultural conditioning, massive success, a picture-perfect wedding and a 25-year corporate career… all to finally fully start living life on her terms. We get deep into… ✨ The heavy “shoulds” she inherited from her traditional upbringing, and how they directed her onto a path in business and away from her true artistic self ✨ The toll of emotional suppression, and how it shows up in our bodies, health and relationships ✨ The importance of asking “How do I want to feel?” rather than “What should I do?” ✨ The powerful process of emotional alchemy: feeling, naming and releasing emotions without bypassing or forcing positivity ✨ How shame and old stories keep us stuck in low frequency states of guilt, fear and shame ✨ How to elevate our energetic and emotional frequencies to meet our highest potential ✨ Navigating upheaval and loss, and learning how to embrace and even love uncertainty Fay’s wisdom is exactly the encouragement we all need to meet ourselves with the greatest honesty, vulnerability and courage, no matter what we’re going through. And to remember that on the other side of whatever pain we’re currently feeling, once we’ve alchemised it, is the greatest freedom we’ll ever know. Finally. ❤ If you loved this episode, please consider Subscribing and leaving a 5-star review - it’ll help more people discover the show and start their should-free journey too! — Connect with Fay On Instagram @fayoflight On LinkedIn Come hang out with me! Connect with me on LinkedIn here Follow me on Instagram @clubjamiepei Join my mailing list here Check out what else I do on my website

Today’s guest, Bobbie Loughlin, is a neurodevelopmental screener who works with families to build safety, understanding, and support at home. She’s also a parent with lived experience of ADHD and autism - and her journey is full of the kind of messy, real-life insight that you rarely find in the glossy parenting books. If you’re parenting a neurodivergent child (or navigating your own neurodivergence while raising little humans) today’s episode could offer exactly the reassurance and and deep permission you’re longing for in your home life. We talk about: What it means to create a port of safety in your home, especially when the outside world feels chaotic or unkind The pressure to follow the “rules” of parenting and how those rules often don’t serve us or our children Why connection (not compliance) is the key to co-regulation and emotional wellbeing within the family How to navigate basic needs like sleep, food and hygiene when demand avoidance or sensory overwhelm are in the mix Why you don’t need a formal diagnosis to start seeking community and support How to start letting yourself (and your family) be messy, flexible and gloriously unconventional Whether you’re deep in the process of supporting a child through assessments, or just feeling the pressure of being “the different family” on the block, Bobbie’s words are a powerful reminder: you are not alone. And you don’t have to feel like you’re breaking the rules just to create safety, peace and comfort in your own home. Connect with Bobbie Follow on Instagram @lighthousetherapyhub Follow on TikTok @lighthousetherapyhub Follow on Facebook here Lighthouse Therapy Hub’s website: lighthousetherapyhub.co.uk Come hang out with me! Connect with me on LinkedIn here Follow me on Instagram here Join my mailing list here Check out what else I do on my website

What if the key to a successful business isn’t the perfect funnel, an immaculate website or 5-year plan — but the energy, joy, excitement and lightness you bring to your ideas? Oh yeah, it really can be that easy. This week I’m joined by the fabulous Tricia Murray — mindset coach, business mentor, yoga teacher and total QUEEN of fizzy, bright ideas — to talk about building a business that’s light, simple, soulful, fun and actually works without the weight of shoulds. We talk about: How Tricia made £7500 with just a Google Doc — no fancy sales page or funnel in sight Why mindset and self-belief matter more than any strategy ever will The power of minimum viable offers and trusting your ideas The difference between lightness and heaviness in your business energy What happens when you don’t believe in yourself — and what to do about it And why it’s okay to hold down a job or work part-time while you build your business 🎧 Whether you’re early in business or rethinking how you want to do things, this conversation is a fantastic reminder that you don’t need to have it all figured out to take action and get massive results from it. Trust the idea. F*ck around and find out - go on. ❤ If you loved this episode, don’t forget to Subscribe to the podcast and leave a 5-star review—it’ll help more people discover the show and start their should-free journey too! Connect with Tricia For mindset and yoga, follow Tricia on Instagram here: @triciamurrayuk For business mentoring, follow Tricia on Instagram here: @businessmentoring.triciamurray Find out more about Tricia’s work and her library of free resources on her website: www.triciamurray.co.uk Come hang out with me! Connect with me on LinkedIn here Follow me on Instagram @clubjamiepei Join my mailing list here Check out what else I do on my website

This week, I’m joined by the radiant Danielle Thornton-Walker, a transformational coach, meditation teacher and all-around soul whisperer for women craving deeper self-love, self-care and permission to live another, better, easier way. Together, we crack open a truth that so many of us carry quietly: the invisible weight of shoulds, perfectionism and people-pleasing that leaves us feeling like we’re broken or never quite enough. Danielle shares her journey from mental health struggles in her teens and early twenties, to the chaos of early motherhood, to a grounded, gentle practice of inner compassion. I can promise you that this is a conversation that goes straight to the heart. Inside this episode, we dive into: 💫 Why self-validation is a radical (and necessary) act 💫 How creating inner safety is the game-changer most of us are missing 💫 The Embrace Method: Danielle’s beautiful and practical approach to finally stop the self-loathing and start befriending yourself 💫 How powerful feminine energy truly is and why it can literally change the world 💫 How to begin where you are - with no pressure, no shame, and no 12-step plan to fix yourself This is a permission slip to slow down, soften, and reconnect with your enoughness - exactly as you are. Whether you’re deep in the trenches of motherhood, unraveling old patterns or simply craving more peace and self-kindness in your day-to-day life, Danielle’s wisdom will meet you right where you are. 🎧 Tune in now and exhale. You’re not broken; you’re about to step into your most powerful self. ❤ If you loved this episode, don’t forget to subscribe to the podcast and leave a 5-star review—it’ll help more people discover the show and start their should-free journey too! Connect with Danielle Danielle’s freebie on honouring yourself and your needs through your menstrual cycle: Love yourself through pre/menstruation https://stats.sender.net/forms/dyPl8R/view Join Danielle’s free community Women’s Golden Heart Community here Follow Danielle on Instagram @danielle__louise__coaching Connect with Danielle on LinkedIn Find out more about Danielle on her website daniellelouisecoaching.com Come hang out with me! Connect with me on LinkedIn here Follow me on Instagram @clubjamiepei Join my mailing list here Check out what else I do on my website

This week on The Should-Free Life and Business Podcast, I’m joined by Jana Krizanova, a brilliant, adventurous business experience strategist and online business manager who’s here to bust the myth that there’s only one right way to do business. Jana and I dive deep into the pressures entrepreneurs face to follow one-size-fits-all advice, and she shares refreshingly practical, straightforward advice on what it really takes to build a business that works for you. Here’s what we cover: ✨ The ‘shoulds’ that sneak into our businesses (and how to spot them) ✨ Why “doing it all yourself” is an unnecessary burden we put on ourselves ✨ How to begin outsourcing and delegating, even early on in your business, without losing your unique magic ✨ Jana offers simple, actionable tips for simplifying your business operations ✨ How to set kind but firm boundaries with clients with zero guilt so you can begin to really enjoy running all parts of your business ✨ Reframing entrepreneurship as an adventure, not a never-ending to-do list Whether you’re just starting out or scaling up in your biz, this conversation will give you permission to stop doing what you think you should, and start doing what actually serves you. 🎧 Tune in now to rewrite the rules of business - and rediscover the freedom and joy that made you want to do this in the first place. ❤ Love this episode? Be sure to subscribe and leave a 5-star review so more people can find their way to a should-free business too! Get Jana’s awesome freebies: Quiz: Find Your Adventure-Fuelled Business Style If you’re ready to lean into your personal strengths and create a business that feels effortless (instead of forced), take Jana’s fun and insightful quiz! It’ll help you uncover your unique business adventure style and show you how to use that knowledge to create a smoother ride, happier clients, and a business that actually fits you. Take the quiz here: janakrizanova.com/quiz The Lean Business Toolkit If your business feels more complicated than it needs to be, Jana’s Lean Business Toolkit can help. This free 7-part email series is packed with practical, budget-friendly tips to simplify your tech stack and operations—so your business runs smoother without the overwhelm. Grab it here: janakrizanova.com/toolkit Connect with Jana on LinkedIn Follow Jana on Instagram @janakrizanova_com Contact Jana directly via the Contact Page on her website Come hang out with me! Connect with me on LinkedIn Follow me on Instagram @clubjamiepei Join my mailing list Check out what else I do on my website

While most of us have grown up with all manner of rulebooks and ‘shoulds’, Chloe grew up in a household that, in her words, “actively shunned the shoulds”. On this week’s episode, guest Chloe Weatherhead, founder of Andiomo Business Assistance and host of the Strings to Your Bow podcast, reveals a wonderfully unconventional way of learning to make your way in the world, making decisions throughout your life and truly interacting with others without judgement. Raised in a home that prized kindness, non-judgement and a deep commitment to working well, Chloe shares how her unusual upbringing has shaped her approach to life and business: which is all about helping others to ditch the ‘shoulds’ that don’t serve them and to always act in alignment with their value system. Here’s what we cover: ✨ What it’s like growing up with non-conformist parents - and how that childhood has shaped Chloe’s values, confidence and gut instincts ✨ How we can respond to the pressure to conform to societal ‘shoulds’ without being shoved into a box or being corralled into positions that don’t serve us ✨ Why questioning authority and rules can be one of the most empowering things we can do for ourselves, not something to be scared of ✨ The value of kindness, self-trust and creating a life and business rooted in ease and integrity, not pressure ✨ Why you don’t have to do things the “proper” way to live a successful, deeply aligned life This conversation is the soulful permission you didn’t know you needed to challenge the rules, lead with your core values and give yourself the freedom to always trust your own way - even, or especially, when it feels radically different from the norm. 🎧 Tune in now to meet Chloe and start your own journey of actively shunning the shoulds to move by your own inner compass. ❤ If you loved this episode, don’t forget to Subscribe to the podcast and leave a 5-star review—it’ll help more people discover the show and start their should-free journey too! Connect with Chloe Email Chloe on chloe@andiamoassist.co.uk Check our Chloe’s podcast Strings To Your Bow on YouTube - and email her if you’re interested in being a guest speaker. Follow Chloe on: Instagram @weareandiamoassist Facebook LinkedIn Find out more about Chloe on her website: andiamoassist.co.uk Come hang out with me! Follow me on Instagram @clubjamiepei Connect with me on LinkedIn here Join my mailing list here Check out what else I do on my website: jamiepei.com

If you’ve ever carried shame, fear or stress around money, this episode is a must-listen. This week on The Should-Free Life and Business Podcast, I’m joined by Jo Cantle, a wealth activation coach based in South Yorkshire, to talk all things money, nervous system regulation and rewriting the ‘shoulds’ around wealth so that you can truly and practically manifest everything your soul desires at all levels. Jo shares her powerful personal journey - from burnout and debt to reclaiming her wealth identity. Then, using neuroscience, psychology and manifestation principles, she clearly and lovingly explains how we can begin to heal our relationship with money on a practical, emotional and energetic level. Here are the gems we explore: ✨ The most common money ‘shoulds’ we carry, and how they can sneakily show up throughout our lives to sabotage our financial growth and stability ✨ How the nervous system responds to financial stress and what we can do to regulate it ✨ The neuroscience between appreciation and gratitude practices, and how they shift our financial reality ✨ Why asking for help (and actually allowing ourselves to receive and enjoy it!) is a crucial part of wealth expansion ✨ Practical steps to start being your most abundant self right now. Whether you’re navigating feast-and-famine cycles, healing from financial shame, or just want to feel more confident and supported when it comes to money, this conversation will leave you feeling seen, hopeful, and inspired. 🎧 Tune in now to start rewriting the money ‘shoulds’ and step into the next level of your wealth identity. ❤ If you loved this episode, don’t forget to Subscribe to the podcast and leave a 5-star review—it’ll help more people discover the show and start their should-free journey too! ----- Books and Resources mentioned on the podcast Widen the Window, by Elizabeth Stanley The Magic, by Rhonda Byrne (a 28-day practice on gratitude) The Secret, by Rhonda Byrne Learn more about Abraham Hicks on abraham-hicks.com Connect with Jo and Becoming 360: Connect with Jo on Facebook Follow Jo on Instagram Connect Becoming 360 on Facebook Follow Becoming 360 on Instagram Come hang out with me! Connect with me on LinkedIn here Follow me on Instagram here Join my mailing list here Check out what else I do on my website

If you’re ever feeling like you have to do it all - be an attentive parent, an ambitious, ‘successful’ professional, a caring friend, a dutiful daughter - and spin all those plates perfectly, you’ll find a kindred spirit in this episode’s guest speaker. Today, I’m joined by Amanda Ford, a financial services professional with over 20 years of experience, co-founder of the Financial Planning Club, and single parent navigating the complex, often conflicting expectations of contemporary (working) life. Together, we dive deep into the many 'shoulds' women, especially single mothers, face when trying to juggle multiple roles at once. Here’s what we uncover through some honest real talk: ✨ The unrealistic expectations placed on women to juggle it all - without ever dropping a ball ✨ Why integration, not separation, of our roles leads to more flow, ease, and authenticity in everything we do in our personal and professional lives ✨ The hidden pressures around parenting, professionalism and “doing it right” ✨ The power of vulnerability and showing up as your full self in both work and life, even when you’re feeling like “a spicy disaster” ✨ How to honour your unique parenting style while still building your career and working steadily towards your goals Amanda brings refreshing honesty and deep insight to the realities of being a working single mother and business owner, and reminds us that letting go of perfection and an immaculate ‘balancing act’ is where your real strength lies. 🎧 Tune in now for an inspiring, should-free take on balancing work, life, parenting, yoga and everything in between - your way, on your terms. ❤ If you loved this episode, don’t forget to Subscribe to the podcast and leave a 5-star review—it’ll help more people discover the show and start their should-free journey too! Connect with Amanda and The Financial Planning Club here: Connect to Amanda on LinkedIn here Connect to The Financial Planning Club on Linkedin here Follow The Financial Planning Club on Instagram here Come hang out with me! Connect with me on LinkedIn here Follow me on Instagram here Join my mailing list here Check out what else I do on my website