Other Men Need Help

In this bonus episode, Mark talks with writer and critic Jason Bailey about his new book on James Gandolfini—a revealing look at the man behind Tony Soprano. They dig into masculinity on screen, Gandolfini’s quiet emotional power, and why his legacy still shapes how men see themselves today. Plus: a reminder to check out this year’s Other Men Holiday Gift Guide.Other Men is executive produced, hosted, and written by Mark Pagán. Mae Nagusky is our associate producer. Rebecca Seidel is our lead engineer. Original music by Fulton Street Music Group.Get your copy of the 2025 Other Men Gift Guide: https://markpagan.substack.com/p/i-asked-men-about-the-most-meaningfulFind us on Instagram to look at pretty pics: https://www.instagram.com/othermenneedhelp/Subscribe to us on YouTube to watch our flicks: https://www.youtube.com/@themarkpaganAnd, for ALL your info go to othermenneedhelp.com.

While Other Men is under construction, Mark answers a listener’s question about navigating a workplace softball league—and the lingering anxieties of being picked last. From sweaty banyas in Coney Island to team dynamics on the field, this mini episode explores competition, camaraderie, and finding your own way in spaces that don’t always feel like home. Plus, we share a special invite to an upcoming event on masculinity, fatherhood, and Tony Soprano.Other Men is executive produced, hosted, and written by Mark Pagán. Mae Nagusky is our associate producer. Rebecca Seidel is lead engineer.Original music by Fulton Street Music Group.Got a question about masculinity? Share your ask in our anonymous form and we'll answer it on the pod or Substack: bit.ly/4bOg0yxJOIN US for our virtual chat with Jason Bailey, author of Gandolfini: Jim, Tony, and the Life of a Legend—a deep discussion about the legacy of Tony Soprano, fatherhood, the reevaluation of male sex symbols, and a whole lot more. This event is online, it’s free, and we’ll be giving away copies of Bailey’s book to lucky attendees. RSVP for this conversation—April 23rd @ 7:30pm ET: tinyurl.com/yj45ezc7

This week, we've shared seven tropes in masculine discourse we’d like to see changed in the next seven years. In this special Other Men-I, host Mark Pagán shares one more topical term that's he's privately been ruminating on changing.We’re working on Other Men 2.0 and really, really need your input on how we can make this a series, digital platform, or service that work best for you. It’ll take just a few minutes and all feedback is valuable. Thank you: https://forms.gle/U3MBciccFfJLhmuj6Subscribe to our newsletter for weekly secrets, stories, and essays: https://markpagan.substack.com/Find us on Instagram to look at pretty pics: https://www.instagram.com/othermenneedhelp/Subscribe to us on YouTube to watch our flicks: https://www.youtube.com/@themarkpaganAnd, for ALL your info go to othermenneedhelp.com.

Mark is getting married. And in the final episode of the season, he investigates the one wedding tradition that he’s been having an issue with. Other Men Need Help is executive produced, hosted, and written by Mark Pagán. This episode was produced by Caitlin Mae Burke and Ben Goldberg. Caitlin Mae Burke, Ben Goldberg, and Rebecca Seidel are lead producers. Navani Otero is producer. Shaneez Tyndall is associate producer. Rebecca Seidel is lead engineer. Ben Goldberg is lead editor. Our researchers are Bei Wang and Shaneez Tyndall. Tuck Woodstock is this season’s sensitivity listener. Original music by Fulton Street Music Group with additional music from Blue Dot Sessions. Episode illustration by Daniel de la Huerta. Become part of the team and support us on Patreon. Subscribe to our newsletter for monthly secrets and Instagram to look at pretty pics. For ALL your info go to othermenneedhelp.com.

He shot! He scored! And then…? What happens to an athlete’s identity when age and new responsibilities ask him to add “former” to his title? Other Men Need Help is executive produced, hosted, and written by Mark Pagán. This episode was produced by Navani Otero. Ben Goldberg, Caitlin Mae Burke, and Rebecca Seidel are lead producers. Navani Otero is producer. Shaneez Tyndall is associate producer. Rebecca Seidel is lead engineer. Ben Goldberg is lead editor. Our researchers are Bei Wang and Shaneez Tyndall. Tuck Woodstock is this season’s sensitivity listener. Original music by Fulton Street Music Group with additional music from Blue Dot Sessions. Episode illustration by Daniel de la Huerta. Become part of the team and support us on Patreon. Subscribe to our newsletter for monthly secrets and Instagram to look at pretty pics. For ALL your info go to othermenneedhelp.com.

Who gets to be on the cover of your romance novel? In the hunt for a greater range of culturally desirable body shapes and identities, Mark meets with Ronald, a recently single man who has decided to take the way the world sees him into his own hands. Other Men Need Help is executive produced, hosted, and written by Mark Pagán. This episode was produced by Rebecca Seidel and Shaneez Tyndall. Ben Goldberg, Caitlin Mae Burke, and Rebecca Seidel are lead producers. Navani Otero is producer. Shaneez Tyndall is associate producer. Rebecca Seidel is lead engineer. Ben Goldberg is lead editor. Our researchers are Bei Wang and Shaneez Tyndall. Tuck Woodstock is this season’s sensitivity listener. Original music by Fulton Street Music Group with additional music from Blue Dot Sessions. Episode illustration by Daniel de la Huerta. You can find Ronald Young Jr.’s upcoming podcast, Weight for It, wherever you listen to podcasts. Become part of the team and support us on Patreon. Subscribe to our newsletter for monthly secrets and Instagram to look at pretty pics. For ALL your info go to othermenneedhelp.com.

Other Men Need Help is back with season four: That’s What I Look Like?!. Join host Mark Pagán for a new season of Other Men Need Help where every episode tells the story of an image – the self-created cover of a romance novel, a concert photo revealing a surprise bald spot, or a staged groomsmen photo unveiling the longing for physical intimacy amongst some men. Six episodes about six men and six photos. Starting May 18, we’re going to hear what they see.

Today we’re sharing an episode of a new show from Ten Percent Happier called More Than a Feeling. It dives into the confusing, exhilarating, and messy world of human emotions — and how to make sense of them. Why do we have emotions and how much should we pay attention to them on any given day? Can we learn to skillfully choose which emotions to listen to and which ones to just let move on by? In More Than A Feeling, host Saleem Reshamwala goes on a real life quest to find the answers to these questions. He’ll experiment with neuroscientists, dive into stories with historians and philosophers, and document how musicians, therapists, hairdressers and airplane pilots work with emotions. In this More Than A Feeling episode, called Get Me Out of Here, OMNH host Mark Pagán goes deep on one emotion: fear. Specifically, his own fear of riding the New York City subway. And we follow along for the (actual) ride. Listen to More Than A Feeling wherever you get your podcasts, and follow them on Twitter at @podfeelings.

In this month’s bonus episode, we hand the podcast reins over to our friends in Bangalore, City of Women — a show that looks at the calculated strategies, backdoor negotiations, and often absurd lengths women go to have fun and feel free in their city. City of Women is written and produced by Radhika Viswanathan and Samyuktha Varma. Associate Producer, Menaka Raman. Music, sound, mixing, mastering by Erwick D’Souza. Other Men Need Help is executive produced, hosted, and written by Mark Pagán. Ben Goldberg, Caitlin Mae Burke, and Rebecca Seidel are our lead producers. Navani Otero is our producer. Cierra Franco and Shaneez Tyndall are our associate producers. Rebecca Seidel is our lead engineer. Ben Goldberg is our lead editor. Become part of the team and support us on Patreon. Subscribe to our newsletter for monthly secrets, Twitter to talk to us, and Instagram to look at pretty pics. For ALL info go to othermenneedhelp.com.

Throughout the four years of making Other Men Need Help, we’ve only had one sobbing, physical moment during an interview. In today’s bonus episode, following an unexpected in-flight experience, Mark returns to a tender moment recorded in 2017 prompted by a TV patriarch that deserves canonization, and checks in to see if it still resonates. Hosted, written, and executive produced by Mark Pagán. Lead producer is Caitlin Mae Burke. Produced by Ben Goldberg and Rebecca Seidel. Cierra Franco and Shaneez Tyndall are our associate producers. Our lead engineer is Rebecca Seidel. Become part of the team and support us on Patreon. Subscribe to our newsletter for monthly secrets, Twitter to talk to us, and Instagram to look at pretty pics. For ALL your info go to othermenneedhelp.com. Original music by Fulton Street Music Group with additional music from Blue Dot Sessions. Episode illustration by Carmela Caldart.

If you could freeze a favorite memory with your best friend in time — would you tell them what that memory is? Inspired by a moving chat with Paul about his childhood best friend Dave, Mark wraps up Season 3 by revisiting some of our OMNH besties and asking them to share their friendship’s most indelible memory with the podcast, and now — the world. Become part of the team and support us on Patreon. Subscribe to our newsletter for monthly secrets, Facebook to meet our friends, Twitter to talk to us, and Instagram to look at pretty pics. For ALL your info go to othermenneedhelp.com. Original music by Fulton Street Music Group. Additional music from Blue Dot Sessions. Episode illustration by Carmela Caldart. Looking for the PERFECT fit for your 5’8” or under frame? Go to ashanderie.com/othermen and add promo code OTHERMEN at checkout for 15% off.

Mark heads down South to spend a weekend with two faithful friends - Pastors Brian and Hugh. Over BBQ, sermon prep, and countless cups of coffee, these spiritual leaders unpack the isolation of being behind the pulpit and how they hold space for each other in a way no one else can. Become part of the team and support us on Patreon. Subscribe to our newsletter for monthly secrets and Instagram to look at pretty pics. For ALL your info go to othermenneedhelp.com. Original music by Fulton Street Music Group. Additional music from Blue Dot Sessions. Episode illustration by Carmela Caldart. Looking for the PERFECT fit for your 5’8” or under frame? Go to ashanderie.com/othermen and add promo code OTHERMEN at checkout for 15% off.