Hugs Over Criticism: The Mitzvah of Loving Rebuke [Parsha Pearls: Acharei-Kedoshim] 5786

About this episode

Rabbi Aryeh Wolbe discusses the importance of loving rebuke and the mitzvah of correcting others with care and positivity.

In this episode on Parshas Kedoshim (the holiness parsha), Rabbi Aryeh Wolbe focuses on Leviticus 19:17–18: "Do not hate your brother in your heart... You shall surely rebuke your fellow... and do not bear sin because of him," followed by "Love your fellow as yourself — I am Hashem." He explains that hatred must be expressed (not suppressed), but rebuke (tochacha) is only a mitzvah when it will be accepted; otherwise, it's a mitzvah not to rebuke (Yevamos). Embarrassing someone publicly is like "spilling their blood" — a grave sin. True rebuke comes from love ("achicha" — your brother), requires the right time, place, and words, and is often more effective through hugs and positivity than harsh criticism (especially with children). Rabbi Wolbe stresses that parents (and all of us) must see others' blind spots and correct with care, as Hashem corrects those He loves. Holiness means rising above natural self-interest to genuinely love and elevate others — not by putting them down, but by helping them grow. This is the path to true kedushah (holiness), mirroring Hashem's ways. _____________ This episode of the Parsha Review Podcast is dedicated in honor of Lenny & Teresa…

People in this episode

Host: Rabbi Aryeh Wolbe

Topics covered

• loving rebuke
• holiness
• self-improvement
• parenting
• judaism
• spirituality

Keywords

• rebuke
• holiness
• judaism
• parenting
• spirituality
• love
• criticism

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: TORCH

Books & works: Parsha Review Podcast

Places: Houston, Texas

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