What is love?

About this episode

The episode explores the complexities of love and the impact of trauma on romantic relationships.

“We hope, one day, to have a loving romantic relationship with our partner. We hope, one day, they will have a change of heart and realise what kind of emotional and/or physical hurt they have caused us. ​We hope they will see how wonderful we are, worthy of their love and appreciation. This hope keeps us from seeing the painful reality, that our partner will not, and does not want to, change. They don't have our best interest at heart… Why? Because they are healing their own trauma using us. Just like we are using them to heal our trauma… So, that hope makes us believe that we can change our partner… — that’s a failure in itself.“ If you’d like to visit and read the post this podcast is based on, please click here . This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit raisedbyborderline.substack.com

Topics covered

• romantic relationships
• emotional trauma
• self-awareness
• hope
• change
• mental health

Keywords

• love
• romantic relationship
• emotional hurt
• trauma
• self improvement

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