Episode 370: From Trauma to Regulation to Resilience with Neurobiologist Dr. Bruce Perry

About this episode

Dr. Bruce Perry discusses the impact of trauma and the importance of understanding a child's story for their healing and growth.

Dr. Bruce Perry unpacks the difference between stress, adversity, and trauma, helping parents shift from asking “what’s wrong with you?” to “what happened to you?” He explains how moderate, predictable stress actually builds resilience, while overprotection can limit a child’s growth. He also highlights the powerful role of relationships—especially how a regulated parent can calm a dysregulated child—and offers practical ways to foster connection through rhythm, movement, and presence. Ultimately, he reminds us that understanding a child’s story is key to helping them heal and grow. Resources mentioned: The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog by Bruce Perry and Maia Szalavitz Born for Love: Why Empathy Is Essential—and Endangered by Bruce Perry and Maia Szalavitz What Happened to You?: Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing by Bruce Perry and Oprah Winfrey . . . . . . Sign up to receive the⁠ bi-⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠monthly newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to keep up to date with where David and Sissy are speaking, where they are taco'ing, PLUS conversation starters for you and your family to share! Pre-order our new book, Capable and grab tickets for Capable - The Book Tour here! See our speaking dates…

People in this episode

Hosts: David, Sissy

Guest: Dr. Bruce Perry

Topics covered

• trauma
• resilience
• parenting
• child development
• relationships
• stress management

Keywords

• trauma
• resilience
• parenting
• stress
• child development
• relationships
• empathy

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: That Sounds Fun Network

Books & works: The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog, Born for Love: Why Empathy Is Essential—and Endangered, What Happened to You?: Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing

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