4 Mistakes You're Making with Initiation | Ep. 272

About this episode

Ellen Holloway and Kathleen Chovanes discuss the challenges of initiation in marriage and offer practical advice for improvement.

In this episode of Reclaiming Catholic Intimacy, Ellen Holloway and Kathleen Chovanes talk about why initiation can feel so awkward, frustrating, or even hurtful in marriage and the simple things that make it so much easier. They get really practical about responsive desire, how to actually communicate what kind of initiation you like, and why saying yes does not have to mean sprinting straight to the bedroom. ___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's epis...

People in this episode

Host: Ellen Holloway

Guest: Kathleen Chovanes

Topics covered

• initiation
• marriage
• communication
• responsive desire
• intimacy

Keywords

• initiation
• marriage
• communication
• responsive desire
• intimacy
• awkwardness
• frustration

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