When "I Hate You" Is Really "I Need You to Hear Me"

About this episode

This episode explores how miscommunication in arguments can reveal deeper emotional needs in relationships.

Send us Fan Mail What if five words could completely change how you fight? You know that moment — you've said something sharp in the heat of an argument, and at 2am you're staring at the ceiling wondering... did I actually mean that? This episode dives into one of the most common (and costly) patterns Katie sees in long-term relationships: when our feelings stop being information and start getting treated as facts. Katie shares the story of Sarah and Mark — a couple whose dynamic completely s...

People in this episode

Host: Katie Rössler

Topics covered

• communication
• conflict resolution
• relationships
• emotional needs
• self-awareness

Keywords

• arguments
• relationships
• communication
• emotional needs
• conflict

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