377. Relationship Anxiety Explained: Why You Feel Insecure Even When Your Partner Is Safe

About this episode

This episode explores the phenomenon of feeling insecure in healthy relationships and the underlying psychological factors contributing to relationship anxiety.

You can be in a genuinely (or relatively) healthy relationship and still feel anxious. Your partner texts you back, they show up when they say they will, and they're not pulling away or playing games. And yet, you still find yourself overthinking their tone, needing reassurance, or waiting for the other shoe to drop. If you've ever thought, "Why do I feel insecure when nothing is actually wrong?" this episode is for you.   Today we're talking about why love can feel unsafe even when you're with a safe partner, what's happening in your brain when closeness starts to trigger anxiety, and why reassurance or better communication usually doesn't fix it for long. ____________________________ Full blog and show notes: https://abbymedcalf.com/why-you-feel-insecure-in-a-healthy-relationship Download Am I Actually Unsafe or Just Activated? A 2-minute nervous system check-in for relationship anxiety: https://abbymedcalf.com/unsafe-or-activated   Join my online community, One Love Collective, on Substack: https://abbymedcalf.com/substack .   You'll get... ✨ Early drops + ad-free podcast episodes ✨ Worksheets, journal prompts, downloads, and guided visualizations ✨ Community…

People in this episode

Host: Dr. Abby Medcalf

Topics covered

• relationship anxiety
• insecurity in relationships
• mental health
• communication
• emotional safety

Keywords

• relationship anxiety
• insecurity
• mental health
• communication
• emotional safety
• reassurance
• overthinking

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