Remodeled Love

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It is really important to Jes that you know this episode was recorded BEFORE Thanksgiving and that it was supposed to be out BEFORE Thanksgiving, and she's really sorry it's only coming out now on Christmas Eve Eve. Good ol' ADHD and general overwhelm. Also, now that the live event for "Off the Table" has passed, you can still purchase the recording! In this episode, The Daylovers and friend-of-the-pod Chaneé Jackson Kendall sit down to hash out some of the common difficulties and pitfalls polyamorous folks face during the holiday season. They answer 3 listener emails, including one about working through the emotions of your partner missing traditions to be with their new partner, one about navigating the holidays as a hinge, and one about being the new partner entering into an established family's holidays. Head to bit.ly/chaneespeaks to learn more about Chaneé's offerings and sign up for her newbie cohort. You can submit a polyamorous advice question at ⁠⁠⁠RemodeledLove.com/DearDaylovers⁠⁠⁠ ! *** Support us on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and get access to exclusive content and a behind-the-scenes look at our life! Nuclear Fusion's ⁠alpha network⁠ is live, and you can join or ⁠donate⁠ now! Check out all the new virtual courses we have for you, like ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Rituals for Connection⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Reluctant Polyamorist⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠How to Throw A Sex Party even a Demisexual, Neurodivergent, or First-Timer will Love⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ on our ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠! USE CODE APPRECIATION80 FOR 80% OFF "RITUALS FOR CONNECTION"!

In this episode, Jessica and Chaneé (@chaneespeaks on all the socials) spin off of their last episode together where they talked about earning your "polyamory stripes" through "fuckin' up and fixin' it," as Chaneé says. In this convo they dive into specific mistakes they've each made over the last 10 years, and the character arcs that came out of that journey. Some themes include: -security and stability are illusions of monogamy -impulsive, addict-like behavior during NRE -the nuances of having a more intense sexual chemistry with a new partner -getting tired of your own bullshit -the role psychedelics can play in helping your non-monogamy journey -and, as always, Chaneé's giant ( . Y . ) Make sure to sign up for Chaneé's newsletter, and stay turned for a workshop from the two of us coming up soon!

In this episode Jes, Joe, and Dr. M sit down for a templated episode: What's New with Remodeled Love? Hot Goss (what's new in their super salacious and obviously exciting polyamorous lives?) Existential Thoughts I've Been Having Lately (the trio share the most recent existential dread that's been plaguing their brains) Dear Daylovers (the trio answer a listener advice question about polyamory) You can submit a question at RemodeledLove.com/DearDaylovers ! *** Support us on ⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠ and get access to exclusive content and a behind-the-scenes look at our life! Also donate to our new community-building app, ⁠⁠⁠⁠Nuclear Fusion⁠⁠⁠⁠, and help us begin Phase 3 of our app build! Check out all the new virtual courses we have for you, like ⁠⁠⁠⁠Rituals for Connection⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠The Reluctant Polyamorist⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠How to Throw A Sex Party even a Demisexual, Neurodivergent, or First-Timer will Love⁠⁠⁠ on our ⁠⁠⁠⁠website⁠⁠⁠⁠! USE CODE APPRECIATION80 FOR 80% OFF RITUALS FOR CONNECTION

I've been waiting so freakin' long to tell y'all that, after 43 years of monogamous marriage, my in-laws (Dr. M's parents), have discovered the joys of swinging...and now they're both big ol' bisexual sluts having the time of their lives—in their 70s! And they sat down with me and my husband in our recording studio and spilled all the tea on their adventures, how they got here, and the expansion and growth it's required. Prepare yourself for an episode that's somehow as pumpkiny as it is DIRTY, and most especially, semiology expanding. *** Support us on ⁠⁠⁠Patreon⁠⁠⁠ and get access to exclusive content and a behind-the-scenes look at our life! Also donate to our new community-building app, ⁠⁠⁠Nuclear Fusion⁠⁠⁠, and help us begin Phase 3 of our app build! Check out all the new virtual courses we have for you, like ⁠⁠⁠Rituals for Connection⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠The Reluctant Polyamorist⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠How to Throw A Sex Party even a Demisexual, Neurodivergent, or First-Timer will Love⁠⁠ on our ⁠⁠⁠website⁠⁠⁠! USE CODE APPRECIATION80 FOR 80% OFF RITUALS FOR CONNECTION

In this episode: Joe finds out Ash is having an affair with Dr. M('s pores), we talk about our journey to get Ash qualified for FMLA as a polyamorous family, and we discuss, in depth, our favorite punctuation. We also talk about what Jes and Joe are individually learning in the world of parenthood right now, and Ash shares what they are learning in the world of polyamory. There's also some other stuff about sex parties, autistic embarrassment around being "too eager", and village growing pains. *** Support us on ⁠⁠Patreon⁠⁠ and get access to exclusive content and a behind-the-scenes look at our life! Also donate to our new community-building app, ⁠⁠Nuclear Fusion⁠⁠, and help us begin Phase 3 of our app build! Check out all the new virtual courses we have for you, like ⁠⁠Rituals for Connection⁠⁠, ⁠⁠The Reluctant Polyamorist⁠⁠, and ⁠How to Throw A Sex Party even a Demisexual, Neurodivergent, or First-Timer will Love⁠ on our ⁠⁠website⁠⁠!

In this episode The Daylovers (all 4 of them!) try to catch you up on everything that happened in 2023, which was both the best and worst year of their lives. This is the first episode recorded as a nested polycule, including the notorious Dr. M! *** Support us on ⁠Patreon⁠ and get access to exclusive content and a behind-the-scenes look at our life! Also donate to our new community-building app, ⁠Nuclear Fusion⁠, and help us begin Phase 3 of our app build! Check out all the new virtual courses we have for you, like ⁠Rituals for Connection⁠, ⁠The Reluctant Polyamorist⁠, and How to Throw A Sex Party even a Demisexual, Neurodivergent, or First-Timer will Love on our ⁠website⁠!

In this episode, Jessica and Joe talk about how hard it was to get this episode made, the chaos created when you move two partners into your small home within a year, how hard it is to purge your home, and what the fuck is a Roth IRA. Enjoy the full episode, as well as a bunch of other exclusive content, on our Patreon (www.patreon.com/remodeledlove).

Breaking up is hard to do. In this episode of Remodeled Love, Jessica talks with one of her favorite polyam podcasters, ashe danger phoenix of the Dear Jessamyn podcast. They discuss why lesbian breakups take so long, and is there a way to make them shorter; can we discuss breakups with someone before entering into a relationship with them, the difference between low stakes breakups, ghosting, and breakups that rip your heart out--how to see them coming, how to lean into it, and how to stay conscious during the death. Polyamory inherently forces the need to get good at breakups, simply by the nature of the fact that you end up dating so many more folks. Getting "good" at breakups is a powerful muscle to build on this path. *** Producers: Jessica Levity, Homeslice Productions Intro song: Rachael McIlhiney covering Hozier Guest: ashe danger phoenix, Tenderfire Media *** 🎙If you love our content and want to support us: Buy our book "Polyamory & Parenthood: Navigating Non-Monogamy as Parents of Young Children", available at ⁠www.remodeledlove.com⁠ and in print/Kindle on ⁠Amazon⁠! Venmo: Jessica-levity CASHAPP: $jessicalevity PayPal: homesliceproductions@gmail.com Patreon: ⁠Patreon.com/remodeledlove⁠ …➡️Join our “Close Friends” list on IG for BTS access to our life, and ability to message us, by becoming a patron at the $5 or more level. Book a peer-to-peer polyam coaching session with The Daylovers through ⁠www.remodeledlove.com

In the kickoff to Season 3 of the "Remodeled Love" podcast, Jes chats with the creator of and artist over at @Shrimpteeth, Sam. There are several arguments against the presence of the "peer support" model in the polyamorous digital sphere:the potential for the abuse of power, the fact that there's no board to report abuse to, no official training or accreditation for "coaches", the charging of money, etc. But how does peer support actually work? Jes and Sam break down their backgrounds, how they personally show up in the peer support space, the issues they come across, how peer support makes these essential services accessible and inclusive, and why it's essential for anyone offering peer support to know their scope and have a fall out plan. *** Producers: Jessica Levity, Homeslice Productions Intro song: Rachael McIlhiney covering Hozier *** 🎙If you love our content and want to support us: Buy our book "Polyamory & Parenthood: Navigating Non-Monogamy as Parents of Young Children", available at ⁠www.remodeledlove.com⁠ and in print/Kindle on ⁠Amazon⁠! Venmo: Jessica-levity CASHAPP: $jessicalevity PayPal: homesliceproductions@gmail.com Patreon: ⁠Patreon.com/remodeledlove⁠ …➡️Join our “Close Friends” list on IG for BTS access to our life, and ability to message us, by becoming a patron at the $5 or more level. Book a peer-to-peer polyam coaching session with The Daylovers through ⁠www.remodeledlove.com

In this episode of Remodeled, The Daylovers enjoy deliciously upscale recording accommodations and talk about their new book, "Polyamory & Parenthood: Navigating Non-Monogamy as Parents of Young Children". They offer a brief overview of their new book, and share a little of the behind-the-scenes process. Jes also shares some show feedback--mainly that folks really enjoy the episodes between the two of them, and Jes promises to return to more of a balance between those types of episodes and the interview style episodes featuring special guests (she still has 6 fantastic interviews on the back-burner she needs to get out, though...). They also introduce their new format for episodes featuring just the two of them: I. What's new with Remodeled Love (in this episode: their new e-book, and "Dudes with Feelings": a support group for polyamorous men) II. The Hot Goss (reflections on their respective love lives) III. ETIBHL ("Existential Thoughts I've Been Having Lately". In this episode: Jes talks about the housing crisis, and (CW) Joe talks briefly about gun violence). IV: Dear Flabby (the advice column portion of their show where they answer a listener question. In this episode they answer a question about how to handle "moodiness" from your partner when you're getting ready to go on a date.) This episode is very funny, and informative, and they hope you enjoy it. *** Producers: Jessica Levity, Homeslice Productions Intro song: Rachael McIlhiney covering Hozier *** 🎙If you love our content and want to support us: Buy our book "Polyamory & Parenthood: Navigating Non-Monogamy as Parents of Young Children", available at ⁠www.remodeledlove.com⁠ and in print/Kindle on ⁠Amazon⁠! Venmo: Jessica-levity CASHAPP: $jessicalevity PayPal: homesliceproductions@gmail.com Patreon: ⁠Patreon.com/remodeledlove⁠ …➡️Join our “Close Friends” list on IG for BTS access to our life, and ability to message us, by becoming a patron at the $5 or more level. Book a peer-to-peer polyam coaching session with The Daylovers through ⁠www.remodeledlove.com

In this extremely vulnerable episode, The Daylovers "come out", and share with you the raw details of their evolution into a beautiful, asexual, polyamorous marriage. They lay out every piece of their journey: Jes's fearful confession of her asexual feelings toward Joe a few months ago, how that landed in Joe's world, Joe's processing of those emotions, why they think of it as an "evolution", and Jes's very detailed theory as to the factors behind this evolution-- including pieces of their past, Jes's demisexuality, life as a postpartum mother, the nature of long term relationships, and Joe's exploration of his own sexuality. They sternly offer several disclaimers, including that just because they are polyam, does NOT mean all polyam married folks are asexual, nor does it mean they're polyamorous "because" of their asexual vibe; and most importantly, they did not "become asexual" as a consequence of exploring polyamory. The episode ends with their mutual unpacking of their extremely passionate, and also thorough, answer to the question: "Then why stay married?" If you are exploring similar dynamics in your relationship, you are not alone. Head to www.remodeledlove.com and click on "peer support" to learn more about how The Daylovers can hold space for you, and guide you through this shift into a beautiful expansion. #RedefineMarriage *** >> www.remodeledlove.com >> www.facebook.com/RemodeledLove >> Instagram: @remodeledlove >> Twitter: @remodeledLove >> TikTok: @HomesliceProductions 🎙If you love our content and want to support us: Buy our book "Polyamory & Parenthood: Navigating Non-Monogamy as Parents of Young Children", available at ⁠⁠www.remodeledlove.com⁠⁠ and in print/Kindle on ⁠⁠Amazon⁠⁠! Venmo: Jessica-levity CASHAPP: $jessicalevity PayPal: homesliceproductions@gmail.com Patreon: ⁠⁠Patreon.com/remodeledlove⁠⁠ …➡️Join our “Close Friends” list on IG for BTS access to our life, and ability to message us, by becoming a patron at the $5 or more level. Book a peer-to-peer polyam coaching session with The Daylovers through ⁠⁠www.remodeledlove.com EXECUTIVE PRODUCERS: Homeslice Productions