Dads Hurt Too — Miscarriage, Masculinity & the Gospel with Eric Schumacher

About this episode

The episode discusses the emotional impact of miscarriage on fathers, exploring themes of grief, masculinity, and faith.

What does it mean for a man to grieve the loss of a child through miscarriage? In this vulnerable and raw conversation, returning guest Eric Schumacher joins Ken Freire to talk about something most men never speak of out loud: miscarriage from the father's perspective. Eric opens up about losing four children through miscarriage and how it challenged his identity, faith, and masculinity. Together, they explore how Christian men often bury their grief, avoid weakness, and wrongly carry shame over losses they can't explain or fix. This episode is a powerful reminder: grieving as a man isn't weakness — it's worship. 📍 TIMESTAMPS 00:00 – Ken welcomes back Eric Schumacher 00:25 – Reflecting on The Good Gift of Weakness01:00 – Why Eric wrote Dads Hurt Too: A Father's Memoir of Miscarriage02:45 – The origin of the original essay & unexpected response from men 04:20 – Why a short, narrative book was needed for grieving dads 05:06 – "You're a dad": Validating the father's grief 05:37 – Why men don't talk about miscarriage 07:00 – Fix-it mode: The trap for grieving husbands 08:47 – Your grief is not a distraction — it's a way to love your wife 09:16 – Ken on compartmentalizing pain and…

People in this episode

Host: Ken Freire

Guest: Eric Schumacher

Topics covered

• miscarriage
• fatherhood
• grief
• masculinity
• Christianity
• identity
• shame

Keywords

• miscarriage
• father's grief
• masculinity
• Christian men
• shame
• identity
• grieving process

Mentioned in this episode

Books & works: Dads Hurt Too: A Father's Memoir of Miscarriage

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