Narcissism vs Borderline: The Signs Everyone Gets Wrong with Dr. Suzanne Wallach

About this episode

The episode discusses the differences between narcissism and borderline personality disorder, emotional regulation, and practical tools for mental health.

Disclaimer: This interview includes in-depth discussions of serious mental health topics, such as personality disorders and other highly sensitive subjects. These topics may be distressing or triggering for some listeners. In this episode of SHE MD, Mary Alice Haney and Dr. Thaïs Aliabadi sit down with Dr. Suzanne Wallach, a leading expert in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), to unpack what every woman should understand about emotional regulation, trauma, and personality disorders. From the difference between borderline personality disorder, bipolar disorder, and narcissism to the real signs of emotional dysregulation, this conversation brings clarity to topics that are often misunderstood and misdiagnosed. Dr. Wallach breaks down how trauma shapes behavior, why narcissists rarely seek help, and what narcissistic abuse and gaslighting actually look like in relationships. The conversation also explores how to recognize unhealthy patterns, why you should never stay in a relationship where you’re being disrespected, and how emotional overwhelm impacts your ability to think clearly or problem-solve in the moment. You’ll also learn practical, science-backed tools you can start using…

People in this episode

Hosts: Mary Alice Haney, Dr. Thaïs Aliabadi

Guest: Dr. Suzanne Wallach

Topics covered

• narcissism
• borderline personality disorder
• emotional regulation
• trauma
• personality disorders
• DBT techniques
• parenting

Keywords

• narcissism
• borderline personality disorder
• emotional dysregulation
• DBT
• trauma
• gaslighting
• parenting

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