EP 27: Why You’re Suddenly Not Tolerating the Things You Used To: The Pendulum Swing of Identity Shifts

About this episode

In this episode, Renee Marie discusses the pendulum swing of identity shifts and how healing can lead to increased reactivity and discernment.

If you’ve started healing… raising your standards… doing the deeper work… And suddenly you feel sharper. Less tolerant. More reactive. More discerning. You might be wondering: Why don’t I recognize myself anymore? In this episode, I’m breaking down something no one is talking about — the pendulum swing of identity shifts . When you leave an old identity, your nervous system doesn’t land in balance immediately. It swings. Especially after long seasons of: People pleasing Over-functioning Over-responsibility Burnout Self-abandonment Your body couples pain with danger. And your system says: Never again. So you swing to the opposite extreme. In this episode, I share: Why healing can initially make you feel more reactive The difference between integration and extremes How I decoupled burnout from my beauty industry identity What I witnessed in myself during a full-circle leadership moment Why loneliness is often part of growth How to re-integrate with boundaries instead of fear If you feel like you’re “too much” right now… Or like you’ve burned parts of yourself down just to feel safe… This episode will ground you. Recalibration is not regression. Extremes are information. And balance…

People in this episode

Host: Renee

Topics covered

• identity shifts
• healing
• boundaries
• self-improvement
• nervous system

Keywords

• people pleasing
• over-functioning
• burnout
• self-abandonment
• loneliness

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