How To! | Stop Fawning

About this episode

Dr. Ingrid Clayton discusses the concept of fawning and how to break free from it.

When clinical psychologist, trauma therapist, and complex trauma survivor Dr. Ingrid Clayton learned about fawning — the fourth “F” after fight, flight, and freeze — she felt like this was the missing piece that explained her whole life. On this episode of How To!, Ingrid talks to Courtney Martin about what can happen when you find yourself in a chronic fawning response, and how to break free. Do you have a problem that needs solving? Send us a note at howto@slate.com or leave us a voicemail at 646-495-4001 and we might have you on the show. Subscribe for free on Apple, Spotify or wherever you listen. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson and Sophie Summergrad. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer. Get more of How To! with Slate Plus! Join for exclusive bonus episodes of How To! and ad-free listening on all your favorite Slate podcasts. Subscribe from the How To! show page on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Or, visit slate.com/howtoplus for access wherever you listen.

People in this episode

Host: Courtney Martin

Guest: Dr. Ingrid Clayton

Topics covered

• fawning
• trauma
• psychology
• self-improvement
• relationships

Keywords

• fawning
• trauma therapy
• psychology
• self-help
• relationships

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Organizations: Slate, Slate Podcasts, Slate Plus

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