ICYMI | Yes, Having a Boyfriend Is Embarrassing

About this episode

The episode discusses the cultural implications of having a boyfriend in today's society.

On today’s episode host Kate Lindsay is joined by writer and content creator Josh Lora, who also goes by TellTheBees. Josh’s Substack essay, Boyfriendland, was cited in the viral Vogue article written by Chanté Joseph, “Is Having a Boyfriend Embarrassing Now?” Many women are hiding their boyfriends online, or losing followers if they hard-launch. Some go as far as to say having a boyfriend “feels republican.” Is this heterofatalism gone too far, or a long-overdue correction to the patriarchy? This podcast is produced by Daisy Rosario, Vic Whitley-Berry, and Kate Lindsay. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

People in this episode

Host: Kate Lindsay

Guest: Josh Lora

Topics covered

• relationships
• gender roles
• social media
• patriarchy
• cultural commentary

Keywords

• boyfriend
• embarrassing
• social media
• patriarchy
• gender roles
• relationships
• Vogue

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Vogue

Books & works: Boyfriendland

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