Diverging from the Relationship Escalator (Again)

About this episode

This episode discusses the concept of the relationship escalator and how individuals can step off it.

New to Solo? Start here! This re-release from the early days of the pod covers a concept that comes up again and again—in the podcast and Peter McGraw’s book. The “relationship escalator” is the default path of dating, moving in, marrying, and merging lives.  Amy Gahran , who coined the term, joins Peter to break it all down. We explore what the escalator is, why it’s so invisible, and how Solos step off it—through consensual non-monogamy, platonic partnerships, sexual friendships, or simply going Solo. Love the show?  Subscribe, rate, review, and share! https://www.petermcgraw.org/solo

People in this episode

Guest: Amy Gahran

Topics covered

• relationship escalator
• consensual non-monogamy
• platonic partnerships
• sexual friendships
• going Solo

Keywords

• dating
• relationships
• Solos
• invisible norms

Mentioned in this episode

Books & works: Solo, Solos

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