Soul and Substance with Fikayo Kay

This is a chit-chatty episode where I answer some questions you sent to me and discuss my unpopular opinions, thoughts on age, why I hate duck nails, and the need for women to see themselves as providing benefits beyond sex in relationships. I end this episode with encouraging you to find ways you can self-preserve and reframe seeing that practice as "necessarily selfish."Enjoy! 🌸We have a Substack! Immerse yourself ⁠here⁠⁠Instagram⁠My CBC Piece "⁠Bloom⁠" mentioned in the episode

In this episode, Coach Yanick Séïde and Fikayo chat about how to build confidence and trust in different areas of one's life amidst stressors, lack of representation, and other life obstacles.Coach Séïde shares some practical advice on how to show up for yourself and how that translates in your career journey, development of your values, and overall understanding of life. ✨Yanick Séïde, Founder and CEO of Chrysalis Women Empowerment, is a life and career coach , an international keynote speaker, a mentor, a best-selling author and host of The Mid-Life Purpose Show. She is a recipient of the London Organisation of Skills Development (LOSD)Yanick's professional journey includes a series of transformative experiences that led her from serving in the Naval Reserves to becoming a teacher, conference interpreter, and translator, followed by a career in the Federal Government that spanned over 20 years. With a wealth of experience in human resources, mentoring, and leadership, Yanick’s approach is grounded in authenticity, clarity, and actionable guidance. Her mission is to help women confidently embrace change and create lives aligned with their purpose, a mission she is uniquely qualified to undertake.Our Instagram Our SubstackOur Website

There is so much talk about manifesting the person you want to be and the life you want, but how do you actually do that? Listen to learn how to operate from a place of faith and hope as opposed to fear and insecurity and what this seemingly small mindset shift can do for you. 🌸Soul and Substance InstagramNEW! Substack - ThingsURead

It's officially winter season and some of us are sad. Or experiencing SAD symptoms. Fikayo delves into practical ways to improve your mood, navigating unintended self-isolation and mentions health supplements that have been coming to the rescue. Disclaimer - Please see your doctor/do your research before taking any of the suggested supplements. 💊 HAPPY HOLIDAYS! ❤️🌸🎁 Check us out at our website or on our Instagram

Controlling our life's narrative shouldn’t be this hard...except when it is. An exploratory episode where I talk about the feelings that come with getting older and I end with a question. What narratives are currently present in your life that keep you overly focused on what has happened TO you and the things you haven’t done, while hindering you from appreciating the things that have happened FOR you and the things you have done? Also, we have new socials! Find us here - Instagram - @soul.film.s and @⁠soulandsubstance.pod⁠ Website -⁠ soulandsubstance.squarespace.com⁠ Don't forget to share and thank you for listening ❤️

Quitting a job sounds like a ridiculous thing to do in this economy?! But when your health and sense of fulfillment are in question, you might need to take the risk. Listen to hear the lessons I learned: quitting a 9-5, figuring out how to make a living, and learning to rest. Subsance Filled Task - Take stock of commitments in your life - your job, places you go, your hobbies, what you spend your time thinking about. What really fills you up and what does fulfillment mean to you? What do you need to let go of to make space for other experiences? Listen and share ❤️ Find us here - ⁠soulandsubstance.squarespace.com ⁠ Instagram - ⁠@soulandsubstance.pod⁠ and ⁠@sscreatvesuite

This episode is dear to me because not only do I have experience with the "shy/mysterious girl" idea setting me back, but so many other women do too. What/who is a mysterious girl? Is it necessarily bad to maintain some level of mystery? I explore what this means, how it can be a destructive tool, a tool of the patriarchy, and why we need to stop placing so much value on social media ideas. Today's substance-filled question - "Are you maintaining mystery? Or are you stifling your creative?" Also, we have new socials! Find us here - Instagram - @sscreativesuite and @soulandsubstance.pod Website - soulandsubstance.squarespace.com Don't forget to share and thank you for listening ❤️

Reflection can be a tool for learning and growth, but we often find ourselves thinking too far and dwelling unproductively on situations. What are some signs that you've stopped reflecting and started overthinking? Negative self-talk is one of them. Listen to find out more about how to bring yourself back to productive reflection. Hopefully, you can take insight from this episode and use it when you listen to the next OkayThoughts Reflection Session!

In her essay, Uses of the Erotic - The Erotic As Power, Audre Lorde describes the erotic as "a resource within each of us that lies in a deeply female and spiritual plane, firmly rooted in the power of our unexpressed or unrecognized feeling." This episode explores that concept and I explain the erotic as a conversation between our intuition, values, and our daily lives. Do these reflect one another? Is there a disconnect? If so, how do we reconnect and get to a place where we are living our fullest, most capable lives? As we step into 2024, what areas of your life need introspection? Listen for guidance. Read the full essay here - https://www.centraleurasia.org/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/audre_lorde_cool-beans.pdf

Here’s a question for you to ponder this week - do the things that you do for fitness align with your values for yourself?

In today’s reflection session, the driving question is “what’s stopping you?” Your goals and desires deserve more than to sit in your mind and you deserve to see them come into fruition. So what are you waiting for? Listen and learn about dealing with potential “barriers” that may be hindering your fullness.