They Lied About Everything—Now What? How to Grieve a Friendship That Wasn’t What It Seemed

About this episode

This episode discusses how to cope with the betrayal of a friendship and the resulting grief and trauma.

Some betrayals are so big, some secrets so shocking, that when the truth comes out, it splits your life in two—into before you knew and after everything changed . That’s exactly what happened to today’s listener, who suddenly discovered that her family’s closest friends had been hiding deeply disturbing secrets for years. Now, her whole family is reeling. In this episode of Sounds Like Therapy , we talk about what to do when everything you thought was safe and familiar suddenly feels like a lie. We discuss: Why betrayal from friends hits as hard (or harder) than betrayal in marriage What your brain is trying to do after a trauma—and how to respond How to help your kids process the loss without burdening them with the adult details Why the memories you made were still real —even if they weren’t the whole story How to hold grief and anger at the same time without shutting down or shutting out the world Whether you've lost a friend, been betrayed by someone you trusted, or simply felt blindsided by someone's hidden truth, this episode will help you navigate the disorientation of before and after—and start to rebuild your trust in others, and yourself. If you want to stay connected…

People in this episode

Host: Sounds Like Therapy

Topics covered

• betrayal
• friendship
• grief
• trauma
• trust
• family

Keywords

• betrayal
• friendship
• grief
• trauma
• trust
• family secrets
• emotional healing

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