Talking Sense with Dr Martha

As a parent there are going to be times when you lose it, shout, say things you don't mean or put in actions you regret. This doesn't make you a bad parent, it makes you human. In these moments, repairing the relationship with your child is the step you need to take. But how do you do this when they are little and when they get older? What if your child doesn't seem to respond or even acknowledge your apology? What do you need to be mindful of and what work might you need to do to make repair a meaningful act, not just saying the words "I am sorry"? Dr Martha talks you through this with scripts, developmental science about children and things to reflect on to guide you next time.Pre-order my first book 'How To Be The Grown Up' here:https://bit.ly/HowtoBetheGrownUpAMZPre-orders are a ‘promise’ between you and me - that I will deliver a book that I think you will love and find useful, and you will support me by promising to buy it first. No money gets taken out of your bank account until the day the book is launched.The Confident Parent course is out! Do you have, or look after, children between the ages of 18 months and 6 years old? The Confident Parent is a practical, video-based course for parents and caregivers from Clinical Psychologist Dr Martha. Over eighty 3-6 minute videos to guide you through the main challenges of the early years (including sibling rivalry). Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We don't tend to talk about little ones' sexual behaviour. As adults we may find this is wrong or perverse, and yet there is a difference between 'sexual behaviour' that comes from curiosity and exploration and 'sexualised behaviour' with an intention for sex. Children are born wanting to explore the world and learning about their bodies is a part of it. When it comes to little ones masturbating this conversation is often taboo, can feel embarrassing or bring shame to adults. And yet - it is healthy and natural for children to explore their own bodies. There are however some 'red flags' to be aware of to differentiate developmentally appropriate behaviour from something that may need further professional guidance and support. Dr Martha talks about all these topics with sensitivity towards you, the adult navigating these situations, and appropriate developmental understanding of your child, to guide you to think about ways to set safe boundaries and explore conversations around privacy, consent, and safeguarding.Pre-order my first book 'How To Be The Grown Up' here:https://bit.ly/HowtoBetheGrownUpAMZPre-orders are a ‘promise’ between you and me - that I will deliver a book that I think you will love and find useful, and you will support me by promising to buy it first. No money gets taken out of your bank account until the day the book is launched.The Confident Parent course is out! Do you have, or look after, children between the ages of 18 months and 6 years old? The Confident Parent is a practical, video-based course for parents and caregivers from Clinical Psychologist Dr Martha. Over eighty 3-6 minute videos to guide you through the main challenges of the early years (including sibling rivalry).The NSPCC "Pantosaurus" song I discuss on the podcast is linked below:https://www.nspcc.org.uk/keeping-children-safe/support-for-parents/pants-underwear-rule/Three of my favourite books on sex and bodies are linked below. For a full list of recommended books see: https://www.drmarthapsychologist.com/recommended-booksSex is a Funny Word: https://amzn.eu/d/a318aYnLet's Talk About Body Boundaries, Consent, and Respect: https://amzn.eu/d/dluyo04Making a Baby: https://amzn.eu/d/bd8D6Rd Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Do you have to repeat instructions to your child? Does it make moments throughout your day frustrating, such as mornings or evenings? If you have ever heard yourself say "please hang your coat up" more than 20 times (with no success in your child following through with this action), then this podcast is for you! Dr Martha discusses why older children struggle listening and following through with instructions and what you can do to make your requests more effective and less frustrating for all.Pre-order my first book 'How To Be The Grown Up' here:https://bit.ly/HowtoBetheGrownUpAMZPre-orders are a ‘promise’ between you and me - that I will deliver a book that I think you will love and find useful, and you will support me by promising to buy it first. No money gets taken out of your bank account until the day the book is launched.The Confident Parent course is out! Do you have, or look after, children between the ages of 18 months and 6 years old? The Confident Parent is a practical, video-based course for parents and caregivers from Clinical Psychologist Dr Martha. Over eighty 3-6 minute videos to guide you through the main challenges of the early years (including sibling rivalry).Learn more about the course and sign up here: https://www.drmarthapsychologist.com/the-course Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We all want children to strive to. do their best. When we catch a glimpse of perfectionism we may think it's a 'good thing', that it will motivate them to push forwards towards a goal. However, if you spot the 'critical voice' that accompanies perfectionism that tells your child they are 'bad' at anything they can't do or when they make a mistake, then it may be time to look at perfectionism in a different way. Dr Martha talks about what perfectionism is (and is not) and how you can shrink its power over your child and offers actionable strategies you can put into place for you and for your child. The Confident Parent course is out! Do you have, or look after, children between the ages of 18 months and 6 years old? The Confident Parent is a practical, video-based course for parents and caregivers from Clinical Psychologist Dr Martha. Over eighty 3-6 minute videos to guide you through the main challenges of the early years (including sibling rivalry).Learn more about the course and sign up here: https://www.drmarthapsychologist.com/the-course Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The climate crisis affects all of us and our children are going to hear about it and want to talk about it. How do we work through the worries they bring up without overwhelming them with the scale of the challenge? Dr Martha discusses ways to move through climate change anxiety (for you and your child) and take steps towards positive action that can have collective impact into the future.The Confident Parent course is out! Do you have, or look after, children between the ages of 18 months and 6 years old? The Confident Parent is a practical, video-based course for parents and caregivers from Clinical Psychologist Dr Martha. Over eighty 3-6 minute videos to guide you through the main challenges of the early years (including sibling rivalry).Learn more about the course and sign up here: https://www.drmarthapsychologist.com/the-course Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Making the decision to separate as a couple is never an easy one. Considering how you share the new with your children show how much you care about the relationship you have with them and can help you all adjust to the changes a separation brings. Dr Martha talks through how to talk to children about an adult separation, the areas to consider for you and for them, as well as what to do when children witness adult conflict. Because your story is unique you will need to adapt the words and ideas suggested here but Dr Martha hopes it will offer you some comfort and grounding in the conversations. If you need further support there is help available:Divorce Aid: www.divorceaid.co.ukIndependently run page with information for parents, children and teensParent Line: 0808 800 2222Emotional support, information and guidance for parents going through family changesGingerbread: www.gingerbread.co.ukExpert advice and practice support for single parents✨The Confident Parent course is out! Do you have, or look after, children between the ages of 18 months and 6 years old? The Confident Parent is a practical, video-based course for parents and caregivers from Clinical Psychologist Dr Martha. Over eighty 3-6 minute videos to guide you through the main challenges of the early years. Learn more about the course and sign up here: https://www.drmarthapsychologist.com/the-course Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On this Special Episode of Talking Sense Dr Martha shares her favourite three podcasts from Blended, by Kate Ferdinand and discusses why she thinks they are a useful listen.i) The Mother's Day Episode - A moving listen on the lesser spoken stories of mothering. If mothers day is hard for you this may be a useful listen you wish to come back toii) The importance of embracing heritage with Adrienne Herbert - A deep dive into celebrating our cultural differences and why this matters for children.iii)How to effectively engage with our children with Dr Martha - In this episode Kate interviews Dr Martha on a range of topics ranging from anxiety, grief, imposter syndrome, and how to regulate our own emotions.Dr Martha warmly invites you to listen to all these episodes and more on Blended here: https://spotify.link/0rDeqkfX9yb✨The Confident Parent course is out! Do you have, or look after, children between the ages of 18 months and 6 years old? The Confident Parent is a practical, video-based course for parents and caregivers from Clinical Psychologist Dr Martha. Over eighty 3-6 minute videos to guide you through the main challenges of the early years. Learn more about the course and sign up here: https://www.drmarthapsychologist.com/the-course Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When children learn how to use the toilet they sometimes go through phases of 'not getting it quite right'. If your family has had a recent change, such as welcoming a new baby, then toileting accidents can be more likely, especially when a child is 'learning' this skill rather than fully mastered it. Dr Martha discusses what is happening for children at these times of family change and transition, and the more useful things you can do to support them to continue learning how to use the toilet which is a process that takes time.The Confident Parent course is out! Do you have, or look after, children between the ages of 18 months and 6 years old? The Confident Parent is a practical, video-based course for parents and caregivers from Clinical Psychologist Dr Martha. Over eighty 3-6 minute videos to guide you through the main challenges of the early years. It has a chapter on 'Learning To Use The Toilet' that gives you a step-by-step guide of how to support your child through this.Learn more about the course and sign up here: https://www.drmarthapsychologist.com/the-course Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Little boys gets taught from an early age the rigid rules of 'masculinity' in terms of what is acceptable to say, do, and like. This can turn toxic in the long term and have a detrimental impact on the health and well-being of men. Dr Martha discusses what 'toxic masculinity' is and how it differs from healthy masculine behaviours, she breaks down some for he stereotypes we have absorbed in Western Society and offers you ideas to reflect on and work with if you wish to break the cycle of 'toxic masculinity' for your child and for yourself.Dr Martha's Recommended Book list for book on this topic see 'Gender' here: https://www.drmarthapsychologist.com/recommended-booksThe Confident Parent course is out! Do you have, or look after, children between the ages of 18 months and 6 years old? The Confident Parent is a practical, video-based course for parents and caregivers from Clinical Psychologist Dr Martha. Over eighty 3-6 minute videos to guide you through the main challenges of the early years. Learn more about the course and sign up here: https://www.drmarthapsychologist.com/the-course Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Does your child ever seem to ignore you when you say "no" and keep asking or doing the thing you have asked them to not do? If your answer is "yes", you're not alone! There is a reason why children tend to ignore "no" that has nothing to do with stubbornness, defiance or rudeness. Dr Martha talks you through what is happening from a child's view and gives you actionable strategies to help you get heard more easily. For more support with challenging behaviours and strategies to guide your parenting check out Dr Martha's Confident Parent Course, details below.The Confident Parent course is out! Do you have, or look after, children between the ages of 18 months and 6 years old? The Confident Parent is a practical, video-based course for parents and caregivers from Clinical Psychologist Dr Martha. Over eighty 3-6 minute videos to guide you through the main challenges of the early years. Learn more about the course and sign up here: https://www.drmarthapsychologist.com/the-course Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When a child says "I don't want to go to school!" and this happens regularly, what's the best way to respond? How can you support your child while letting them know their feelings are important? Dr Martha discusses this offering some key steps to offer understanding, empathy, and active support to a child who is struggling to go to school.The Confident Parent course is out! Do you have, or look after, children between the ages of 18 months and 6 years old? The Confident Parent is a practical, video-based course for parents and caregivers from Clinical Psychologist Dr Martha. Over eighty 3-6 minute videos to guide you through the main challenges of the early years. Learn more about the course and sign up here: https://www.drmarthapsychologist.com/the-course Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Do family members ever feel the need to give you an opinion or advice on your parenting that makes you feel criticised or judged? If it's happened, you're not alone. And if you respond by trying to convince and educate and it falls on deaf ears, this isn't your fault. Dr Martha talks about some of the reasons why judgment from family and others may happen and what you can control and do about it. There are no easy answer or quick fixes, judgment is something most parents experience at some point in time. Learning how to respond in way that fits for you and helps you be more empowered in these moments is a good thing to work towards and Dr Martha gives you questions and points of reflection to begin this.The Confident Parent course is out! Do you have, or look after, children between the ages of 18 months and 6 years old? The Confident Parent is a practical, video-based course for parents and caregivers from Clinical Psychologist Dr Martha. Over eighty 3-6 minute videos to guide you through the main challenges of the early years. Learn more about the course and sign up here: https://www.drmarthapsychologist.com/the-course Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.