Teach Us Consent

Part 2 | In all of our relationships, there are some really obvious no-goes - things that if we do them, the consequences are most likely going to be pretty heavy – cheating, violence, that kind of thing. But most of the mistakes we make, and things we really need to be accountable for are more hidden, and we might even do them every day. ‪@theline_au‬ and ‪@teachusconsent‬ have teamed up to chat about misogyny, sexism, reinforcing gender stereotypes and everything that fits into that.Amazing role models ‪@kathebbs‬ ‪@outbacktom‬ and ‪@louis.phillips12‬ joined us for that conversation.Here it is.And just a note, this episode talks about some pretty heavy topics to do with emotions, relationships, s*x and consent. If you need support, help is available. Reach out to:1800RESPECT.org.au online, on the phone 1800 737 732, or by text 0458 737 732.QLife.org.au online or over the phone 1800 184 52713Yarn.org.au online or over the phone 13 92 76Lifeline.org.au or over the phone 13 11 14If you think you might need legal advice, speak to Youth Law Australia online at yla.org.au.

Our s*x lives and relationships are deeply shaped by the messages we absorb — online, in culture, and in the way we talk about each other.In this episode, we unpack the rise of “body count” culture, from AI tools that claim to estimate it, to the gendered double standards and myths that sit underneath it - exploring how these narratives play out in real life, the pressure they place on both men and women, and how they can fuel shame, entitlement, and an impossible set of expectations around being both “experienced” and “pure.” From there, we dig into performance anxiety: how sex becomes something to get right rather than something to experience, the impact of porn scripts and spectatorship, and why being stuck in your head can disconnect you from your body and your partner. Then we chat about accountability, and what it actually means to take responsibility for harm, why it can feel so difficult, and how repair, communication, and behaviour change are central to respectful relationships. Hosts: Anthony Stefanos (@anthonystefanos) & Tess Fuller (@tesssfuller)This podcast is produced by Annabelle Kablean (@hellsbell.es), Teach Us Consent and I Want It Yesterday Studios, and supported by the Australian Government Department of Social Services.Want to go deeper? We've created hundreds of resources to help you get confident with consent, sex and relationships - visit teachusconsent.com.Content note: This material contains sensitive content, and includes references to sexual harassment and assault, homophobia, and other forms of violence. Please listen with care and compassion for yourself, and feel free to switch off at any point. References in this episode:Under Pressure: Men’s and Women’s Sexual Performance Anxiety in the Sexual Interactions of Adult Couples (University of New Brunswick)https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/00224499.2024.2357587#abstractSexual Performance Anxiety (International Society for Sexual Medicine)https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/31447414/Health and lifestyle factors associated with sexual difficulties in men – results from a study of Australian men aged 18 to 55 years (University of Melbourne)https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC5103242/#:~:text=This%20paper%20shows%20that%20experiencing,aged%2035%20to%2055%20years.Support:Lifeline: 13 11 14. Lifeline is a non-profit organisation that provides free, 24-hour telephone crisis support service in Australia. Volunteer crisis supporters provide suicide prevention services, mental health support and emotional assistance, not only via telephone but face-to-face and online.For a full list of support services, visit https://www.teachusconsent.com/get-support for resources such as 1800RESPECT and 13YARN, or call 000 in emergencies. In Australia, Mental Health Care Plans are available through GPs and can provide access to subsidised sessions with mental health professionals. Reach out to your GP to discuss your options. This podcast was recorded on the lands of the Gadigal people. The Teach Us Consent team respects and honours Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander elders past and present, and their enduring connection to this land. We acknowledge that First Nations people disproportionately experience sexual violence, and we are committed to ending sexual violence. Thank you for listening! Please support us by sharing this with a friend.

Sex, dating, and confidence can feel like a minefield — especially when the messages we grow up with about masculinity, relationships, and bodies don’t leave much room for honesty or vulnerability.In this episode, we are joined by comedian, content creator & podcaster Will Gibb for a candid conversation about growing up gay in an all-boys school, the lessons (and misconceptions) we absorb about sex and masculinity, and how those early messages shape our confidence in dating and relationships. Together, they unpack modern dating culture, the humour and absurdity that makes it so parody-able. Will also shares his personal experience choosing to get circumcised as an adult after experiencing pain during sex, opening up a wider discussion about sexual health, communication, and why so many people feel unable to speak up when something doesn’t feel right. From painful sex and taboo conversations among men to the myth that discomfort is something partners should simply endure, this episode explores how silence can undermine both pleasure and consent, and why honest communication is essential for respectful, healthy relationships.Featuring: Will Gibb (@_willgibb_)Hosts: Anthony Stefanos (@anthonystefanos) & Tess Fuller (@tesssfuller)This podcast is produced by Annabelle Kablean (@hellsbell.es), Teach Us Consent and I Want It Yesterday Studios, and supported by the Australian Government Department of Social Services.Want to go deeper? We've created hundreds of resources to help you get confident with consent, sex and relationships - visit teachusconsent.com.Content note: This material contains sensitive content, and includes references to sexual harassment and assault, homophobia, and other forms of violence. Please listen with care and compassion for yourself, and feel free to switch off at any point. References in this episode:Will Gibb Tour Dates & Ticketshttps://comedy.com.au/tour/will-gibb/Medicare Statistics30654 (circumcision with local anaesthetic) 30658 (circumcision with general anaesthetic)https://medicarestatistics.humanservices.gov.au/statistics/mbs_item.htmlCircumcision in Australia: prevalence and effects on sexual healthhttps://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/16925903/#:~:text=A%202001%2D02%20telephone%20survey%20of%2010%2C173%20men,unrelated%20to%20reporting%20sexually%20transmitted%20infections%20(STIs)Support:QLife: 1800 184 427. QLife provides anonymous and free LGBTI peer support and referral for people in Australia wanting to talk about sexuality, identity, gender, bodies, feelings or relationships.Queerspace: 03 9663 6733. Queerspace provides a non-judgemental, queer affirmative counselling service.Lifeline: 13 11 14. Lifeline is a non-profit organisation that provides free, 24-hour telephone crisis support service in Australia. Volunteer crisis supporters provide suicide prevention services, mental health support and emotional assistance, not only via telephone but face-to-face and online.For a full list of support services, visit https://www.teachusconsent.com/get-support for resources such as 1800RESPECT and 13YARN, or call 000 in emergencies. In Australia, Mental Health Care Plans are available through GPs and can provide access to subsidised sessions with mental health professionals. Reach out to your GP to discuss your options. This podcast was recorded on the lands of the Gadigal people. The Teach Us Consent team respects and honours Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander elders past and present, and their enduring connection to this land. We acknowledge that First Nations people disproportionately experience sexual violence, and we are committed to ending sexual violence. Thank you for listening! Please support us by sharing this with a friend.

When online ideologies spill into real life, they shape how we date, relate to each other, and how we see ourselves.In this episode, we unpack the rise of “red-pill” thinking and the mainstreaming of beliefs about “high-value” men and women, the irony around “body count”, and challenge the double standards and rape myths embedded in these narratives – to refocus the conversation on accountability and respect. Then we zoom out to the broader gender expectations many of us grew up with — around sex, bodies, parenthood, and who is meant to provide or nurture — and how silence and shame around women’s health is still prevalent today. Hosts: Anthony Stefanos (@anthonystefanos) & Tess Fuller (@tesssfuller)This podcast is produced by Annabelle Kablean (@hellsbell.es), Teach Us Consent and I Want It Yesterday Studios, and supported by the Australian Government Department of Social Services.Want to go deeper? We've created hundreds of resources to help you get confident with consent, sex and relationships - visit teachusconsent.com.Studies and references in this episode:The Man Box 2024 (Jesuit Social Services)https://jss.org.au/programs/research/the-man-box/Why dress codes can't stop sexual assault (SMH)https://www.smh.com.au/opinion/why-dress-codes-cant-stop-sexual-assault-20160415-go6wza.htmlWe are Childfree - Global community & storytelling projectIG: @weare.childfreeTeach Us How Sexual Violence Is Normalised - Teach Us Consent Podcasthttps://youtu.be/OBkAMK626aITeach Us About: How Much S*x Is Normal, Mismatched Desires & Unfollowing Women On Social Media - Teach Us Consent Podcasthttps://youtu.be/azhq8u66e2cGina Martin - Substackhttps://ginamartin.substack.com/More information on the menstrual cycle:https://www.mavencentre.com.au/maven-journal/the-down-low-on-vaginal-discharge/https://drbrighten.com/how-hormones-affect-mood-throughout-menstrual-cycle/Content note: This material contains sensitive content, and includes references to sexual harassment and assault, and other forms of violence. Please listen with care and compassion for yourself, and feel free to switch off at any point. For a full list of support services, visit https://www.teachusconsent.com/get-support for resources such as 1800RESPECT and 13YARN, or call 000 in emergencies. In Australia, Mental Health Care Plans are available through GPs and can provide access to subsidised sessions with mental health professionals. Reach out to your GP to discuss your options. This podcast was recorded on the lands of the Gadigal and Bidegal people. The Teach Us Consent team respects and honours Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander elders past and present, and their enduring connection to this land. We acknowledge that First Nations people disproportionately experience sexual violence, and we are committed to ending sexual violence. Thank you for listening! Please support us by sharing this with a friend.

Online rhetoric spreads quickly, and we're seeing young men increasingly being told that women are a distraction to be eliminated rather than voices to be heard.In this episode, we unpack the rise of male influencers encouraging boys and men to unfollow women who post photos of their bodies so they can “lock in,” and what this reveals about objectification, control, and the idea that women are responsible for men’s focus and behaviour. The conversation then turns to sex and desire, examining different desire styles, why constant sexual wanting is treated as the ideal, and how pressure around “normal” amounts of sex can push people into intimacy they don’t actually want. We challenge the belief that 'everyone is having more sex than you', and centre the importance of consent in all relationships – by reframing the questions that matter most: is sex pleasurable, is communication working, and can everyone freely say yes or no.Hosts: Anthony Stefanos (@anthonystefanos) & Tess Fuller (@tesssfuller)This podcast is produced by Annabelle Kablean (@hellsbell.es), Teach Us Consent and I Want It Yesterday Studios, and supported by the Australian Government Department of Social Services.Want to go deeper? We've created hundreds of resources to help you get confident with consent, sex and relationships - visit teachusconsent.com.Studies referenced in this episode:Unmasking Influence (Tomorrow Woman)https://www.tomorrowwoman.com.au/unmasking-influence-how-the-manosphere-affects-young-women#Unmasking-Influence-Report-FormDo men need sex to feel love? A deep dive with relationship coach Megan Luscombe (KIC Pod)https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/do-men-need-sex-to-feel-love-a-deep-dive/id1457667995?i=1000734864526Is there a 'normal' amount of sex couples should be having? (ABC)https://www.abc.net.au/news/2026-01-20/defining-a-healthy-and-fulfilling-sex-life/106100374Gen Z Aren’t Having the Sex You Think: Here’s Why (Kinsey Institute + Lovehoney)https://www.lovehoney.com/blog/gen-z-are-having-less-sex-here-is-why.htmlContent note: This material contains sensitive content, and includes references to sexual harassment and assault, and other forms of violence. Please listen with care and compassion for yourself, and feel free to switch off at any point. For a full list of support services, visit https://www.teachusconsent.com/get-support for resources such as 1800RESPECT and 13YARN, or call 000 in emergencies. In Australia, Mental Health Care Plans are available through GPs and can provide access to subsidised sessions with mental health professionals. Reach out to your GP to discuss your options. This podcast was recorded on the lands of the Gadigal and Bidegal people. The Teach Us Consent team respects and honours Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander elders past and present, and their enduring connection to this land. We acknowledge that First Nations people disproportionately experience sexual violence, and we are committed to ending sexual violence. Thank you for listening! Please support us by sharing this with a friend.

Through a series of webinars, Teach Us Consent brought together parents, educators, and industry leaders for an important conversation on consent, sexual harm prevention, and how we can best equip young people to build respectful relationships. This webinar combined research insights with actionable solutions to empower adults to have impactful, informed conversations with young people about consent, empathy, and respect. Our guest panel featured Dr Zac Seidler (Movember), Ged Moriarty (The Man Cave), and Turia Pitt, and was facilitated by Teach Us Consent's founder and CEO, Chanel Contos.Content note: This material contains sensitive content, and may include references to s*xual harassment and assault, homophobia, transphobia, racism and other forms of violence. Please listen with care and compassion for yourself, and feel free to switch off at any point. Visit teachusconsent.com/support for help resources including 1800RESPECT and 13YARN, or call 000 in an emergency.This podcast was recorded on Aboriginal land. Teach Us Consent honours Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander elders past and present, and their enduring connection to this land. We acknowledge that First Nations people are disproportionately affected by s*xual violence, and we are committed to ending that violence.