#teakink with Dominatrix Eva Oh

After two years, over a hundred episodes, and a million listens - this is the final episode of the #teakink podcast. What began as a voice on a sofa became something much bigger - a space to think out loud, connect across borders, and be in conversation with those of you who listened, shared, and carried it with you.'You Will Please Me' is the next chapter - more intentional, and even more intimate. Eva Oh's new podcast is on the horizon - with deeper focus, more solo episodes, and a continued unfolding of power, presence, and becoming.Thank you for being part of this journey. The exchange isn’t over - it’s only changing shape.

Dating a dominant woman isn’t about begging to be used - it’s about learning how to meet power with presence. In this episode of the #teakink Podcast, Eva Oh unpacks the messy reality of dating as a Domme, the chaos of app culture, and what actually works when approaching a dominant woman. Supported by Chyrpe - the dating app for femdom and female-led relationships - this is essential listening for anyone navigating femdom dynamics with curiosity, confusion, or just too many emojis.Chyrpe: www.chyrpe.com/eva_ohWatch on YouTube: https://youtube.com/evaohMore on Eva Oh: https://eva-oh.comHIGHLIGHTS:Here are the timestamps for the episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time.(00:00) - Welcome to #teakink(00:28) - Introducing Chyrpe: the dating app for femdom and FLRs(01:24) - Why dating a dominant woman isn’t about “doing anything you want”(02:00) - The dating app disaster zone(04:10) - What dominant women experience on mainstream apps(05:30) - “I want to be your slave” & other spammy openers(06:15) - Respect, not performance: what Dommes actually want(07:30) - The cost of desperation: kink bingo and checkbox culture(08:50) - Submission isn’t self-erasure(10:10) - What gets a real response from a Domme?(11:25) – Red flags vs green flags in femdom dating(13:00) - Emotional competence > chaotic desperation(15:10) - Fantasy vs reality: can you meet power with presence?(16:00) - For submissives: curiosity, calm, consistency(16:35) - For doms: vetting is sacred(17:10) - Final word: dominance isn’t something you consume - it’s something you relate to

Vanessa Ho, director of Project X Singapore, joins Eva Oh to unpack the legal, medical, and social realities for sex workers in Singapore. They discuss everything from navigating hostile systems and language barriers to launching a powerful anthology written by sex workers themselves. With 14 years on the frontline, Vanessa sheds light on criminalisation, community, and what real progress could look like.Watch on YouTube: https://youtube.com/evaohMore on Eva Oh: https://eva-oh.comHIGHLIGHTS:Here are the timestamps for the episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time.(00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink(00:21) - Vanessa, Director of Project X Singapore(01:25) - How Project X Helps Sex Workers - a lot!(04:30) - Sex Work Legalities in Singapore(06:40) - Accessing Health Services Awkwardly as a Sex Worker(08:58) - Their Book Project - A Singaporean Sex Worker Anthology(12:40) - What We Have Learned in Our 14 Years around the Sex Industry(14:50) - Who is Project X?(15:45) - Singapore's Sex Work Landscape, Throwing OF Creators into Jail(19:50) - Working with Parliament(21:40) - Multi-multi-lingual Outreach Services and Woes(28:33) - The Fight for Legitimacy and Hopes for Singapore(31:45) - Trafficking, Domestic Workers and Singapore's Villainisation of the Other

Kink isn't just about getting off—though that's valid too. In this episode, I trace how kink first pulled me in and why it continues to matter. We explore kink as a pathway to self-awareness, transformation, and power dynamics that reflect society itself. From emotional breakthroughs to dangerous patterns, kink can open the floodgates—sometimes beautifully, sometimes brutally. A short but potent reflection on what kink offers, demands, and reveals.Watch on YouTube: https://youtube.com/evaohMore on Eva Oh: https://eva-oh.comHIGHLIGHTS:Here are the timestamps for the episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time.(00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink(00:21) - What Can Kink Do?(01:15) - My Inkling on Kink(02:15) - Why People Come to Kink(03:05) - Getting Off and Feeling Understood(04:37) - Build New Pathways, Good and Bad(05:20) - Teaching Us About the Range of Who We Can Be(06:12) - Opening the Floodgates(07:10) - Kink, Power Dynamics and Revealing Societal Truths(08:20) - A Recap

Before Eva Oh entered the scene, Mistress Tahlia was already a seasoned presence at Salon Kitty’s. Eva reconnects with her Senior Mistress to swap stories of hazing rituals, house hierarchy, and the raw intensity of Australia’s most infamous BDSM establishment. From her days at the "Den of Inequity" to the rise of pegging and the economics of erotic labor, Tahlia shares how sex work became her site of power, politics, and transformation.Watch on YouTube: https://youtube.com/evaohMore on Eva Oh: https://eva-oh.comHIGHLIGHTS:Here are the timestamps for the episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time.(00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink(00:21) - Becoming Mistress Tahlia(02:55) - Sex Work as a Vehicle for Radicalisation(03:30) - Discovering BDSM(07:30) - Stepping into Power and Salon Kitty's(10:40) - The Den of Inequity(15:00) - Our Different Experiences of Salon Kitty's(19:40) - Hazing Amongst Mistresses(23:30) - Changing of the Guard(25:30) - House vs Independent Work(27:10) - Salon Kitty's Changes and Reunions(29:40) - Becoming Magical Beasts(33:15) - The Accounting Fantasy Role Play(36:00) - Tahlia's First Impressions of Eva at Salon Kitty's(38:25) - Hierarchy at the House(41:50) - The Whorearchy of Erotic Sessions(44:35) - The Emergence of Pegging and the Findom Fallout(49:10) - Online vs Real-time Work(50:35) - Intimate Job Satisfaction(51:10) - Tahlia's English Corporal Punishment Plans(54:30) - Tahlia's Number One Tip

What’s the difference between being paid for your emotional labor and giving it away for free? In this episode of the Sex Work VS miniseries, I explore how sex work reshaped my approach to relationships. From unreciprocated efforts with cis-het men to the gratitude that comes with being paid, I reflect love, and raising my standards. We’ll talk about oxytocin, one-sided coaching, the myth of romantic stability—and why financial independence feels far more secure. This isn’t about giving up on intimacy. It’s about knowing your worth, and deciding who (or what) deserves your time.Watch on YouTube: https://youtube.com/evaohMore on Eva Oh: https://eva-oh.comHIGHLIGHTS:Here are the timestamps for the episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time.(00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink(00:21) - Sex Work VS Relationships(01:05) - The 'Natural' Progression, Dating to Relationship?(02:15) - What I Would Need from a Relationship(03:40) - The Societal Expectation of Having a Relationship(07:10) - Being Taken for Granted(09:10) - The Advantage of Paid VS Unpaid Emotional and Sexual Labour(10:30) - One-sided Efforts when Engaging with Cis-het Men(13:25) - Improving My Standards, Does it Help or Hinder(15:40) - Getting Paid for the Usual Coaching of Men(16:40) - The Exchange of Money Encourages Gratitude(20:40) - Honing the Art of Relating and the Benefits of Getting Paid for It(23:15) - Relationship Stability is not a Given, your Financial Independence can be(24:50) - Do I Want to Spend My Life on Unworthy Pursuits and People?(25:50) - Falling in Love as a Skill Learned through Sex Work(26:55) - Friendships with Sex Workers as the Gold Standard(27:45) - The Need for Reciprocation(28:55) - What Cis-het Men Could Offer if Not My Gold Standard, Money and Connections

Welcome to a new miniseries exploring what sex work has taught me about dating, relationships, and marriage. I'm calling it Sex Work VS... Can you guess which is in the lead? Stay tuned.Watch on YouTube: https://youtube.com/evaohMore on Eva Oh: https://eva-oh.comHIGHLIGHTS:Here are the timestamps for the episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time.(00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink(00:21) - A New Miniseries on Sex Work vs Dating, Relationships and Marriage (01:30) - Sex Work Has Taught Me the Pros and Cons

In this episode of #teakink, Eva sits down with Kyron Kruger — performer, provocateur, and latex-drenched shapeshifter — to talk evolution, ambition, and the kink of it all. Kyron shares how he got started, what latex means to him, and how he navigates the sex industry as a cis man. They unpack everything from gatekeeping to dealing with trolls, the Eva-Kyron dynamic, and their big creative dreams — including fetish film, Europe, and beyond. This is Kyron Kruger, for now.Watch on YouTube: https://youtube.com/evaohMore on Eva Oh: https://eva-oh.comHIGHLIGHTS:Here are the timestamps for the episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time.(00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink(00:21) - The Origins of Kyron Kruger(03:55) - Latex(05:00) - A Fluid Evolution(10:10) - Challenging the Trolls(11:20) - Plans for Europe(12:50) - Advice on the Hustle(16:40) - Is there space for Gatekeeping(20:15) - Being a Cis-Man in the Sex Industry(23:20) - The Eva-Kyron Dynamic?(25:50) - Fetish Film Dreams and Plans(30:30) - Eva's Asia-Australia Plans(31:30) - A Wrap on Kyron Kruger, for now...

Eva Oh welcomes Aranja—kink, power, and psychedelics coach, trauma therapist, and death doula—to #teakink for a deep dive into the intersections of kink, psychedelics, and death. They explore the role of a death doula, the unexpected parallels between kink and mortality, and how slowing down the dying process changes everything. Aranja shares insights on guiding clients through psychedelic experiences, the challenges of kink coaching, and the lack of resources around trauma in these spaces. Plus, a discussion on a potential kinky death retreat and Eva’s first encounter with a dead body.Watch on YouTube: https://youtube.com/evaohMore on Eva Oh: https://eva-oh.comHIGHLIGHTS:Here are the timestamps for the episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time.(00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink(00:21) - Aranja, Kink, Power and Psychedelics Coach, Trauma Therapist and Death Doula(05:20) - Discovering the Role of the Death Doula(09:45) - Bringing All Aranja's Roles Together?(11:05) - Can You Combine Kink and Psychedelics?(13:35) - The Similarities Between Kink and Death, Humility and Letting Go(15:45) - The Berlin Death Festival and the Cultural Practices of Death(18:45) - Slow Down the Death Process(21:50) - Eva's First Experience with a Dead Body(24:45) - A Kinky Death Retreat?(26:20) - What is Psychedelics Coaching?(28:30) - The Dangers and Expectations of Psychedelic Clients(32:50) - The Concerns of Kink Coaching Clients(39:30) - Kink, Trauma and Structuring Engagement as a Coach or Dominatrix(45:02) - The Lack of Resources Around Kink and Trauma(46:40) - How Kink is a Container for Sidelined Emotions and Experiences(51:30) - What Aranja Studied to Bring Together These Roles(53:00) - Aranja's Plâns and Eva's Sacrificial Session

Eva Oh meets with Åste Amundsen, Experience Designer and Researcher, to find out more about the potential of her AI Companionship and its overarching effect on our lives. Listen in on a conversation that explores the evolution of human interaction, parallels to the early internet and sex work, chatbot rights, the ‘Interaction Arms Race’ and Åste’s Sex Chatbot Reverse Turing Test. Eva asks, can designing her AI Companion be done ethically or does that even matter?Watch on YouTube: https://youtube.com/evaohMore on Eva Oh: https://eva-oh.comHIGHLIGHTS:Here are the timestamps for the episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time.(00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink(00:18) - Meeting Åste Amundsen, Interaction Researcher(01:40) - How Åste Found Me(02:40) - How Åste Thinks My Work Parallels to Hers(06:40) - Why AI Companies Are Interested in Me(07:30) - The Evolution of Human Interaction including Parasocial Relationship and How AI Could Manipulate Our Shortcomings(10:30) - Åste's Sex Chatbot Reverse Turing Test Installation(13:10) - Sex Workers as Interaction Experts(15:00) - The Evolution of Human Dating and it’s Merging with Technology(16:00) - Esther Perel’s Fears for AI Chatbots and Digital Interaction(18:00) - How Could I Design an AI Companion Ethically?(21:40) - Sex Work as Emotional Labour, Designing ‘Friction’ Into AI(24:40) - Sex Work Hobbyists(26:30) - Porn and Fantasy as a First Sexual Experience, AI Companionship as Similar?(27:30) - My One Fantasy(29:45) - Current Attempts at AI Companionship(32:00) - The Relational Bonding and Interaction Arms Race(33:00) - Chatbot Rights(34:00) - Government(34:30) - What Makes a “Good” Interaction?(37:00) - What Sex Work Might Become(37:40) - How Could We Value Ourselves(41:25) - How These Developments Might Evolve Us(42:40) - What Motivates Me to become an AI Companion(43:55) - An Opportunity(46:00) - Åste’s NSFW Chatbot Research(48:00) - The Disturbing and The Violent(50:00) - The Nether, A Play(52:40) - Angela Carter, Benefiting From Our Sexual Capacity(57:40) - The Transactional Nature of Interaction(59:10) - Potential and the Parallels to the Early InternetLinks:Åste Amundsen, http://asteamundsen.com

On this episode of #teakink, Eva Oh sits down with performer and artist Bishop Black for a deep dive into their journey—from the organic evolution of their career to the energy, tactility, and chemistry that go into porn work. They talk spontaneity, joy, and navigating the ever-changing landscapes of London and Berlin. Bishop reflects on becoming the representation their younger self longed for, handling criticism and compliments, and balancing creativity with burnout. Plus, what does the future hold? Community, road trips, and maybe even lap dogs.Watch on YouTube: https://youtube.com/evaohMore on Eva Oh: https://eva-oh.comHIGHLIGHTS:Here are the timestamps for the episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time.(00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink(00:21) - Bishop Black, Berlin and Vitamin D Drops(02:25) - Navigating Spontaneity, Joy and COVID(04:48) - Bishop's Ideal World, Pain and Eva's Pizza Porn Hopes(09:35) - The Organic Evolution of Bishop's Career(12:35) - What Bishop's Penis Sounds Like(13:20) - Bishop's London and a Changing Berlin(18:25) - Being What 19 Year Old Bishop Wanted to See(23:30) - The Energy, Tactility, Chemistry and Skill Needed in Porn Work(29:50) - Navigating Criticism and Compliments(37:00) - How Bishop Balances Motivation, Burnout, Creativity and Inadequacy(42:10) - What Will We Be Doing in 20 Years - Community, Road Trips and Lap Dogs

On this episode of the #teakink Podcast, Eva Oh sits down with David Chambers, a coach helping men deepen their capacity for love. They unpack his past in the pick-up artist community, why he initially resisted becoming a coach, and what actually makes a good one. From the parallels between coaching and domination to men’s fears around love and attunement, they explore what holds people back from empathy and connection. Plus, they dive into Vipassana, the patriarchy, universal basic income—and whether aliens might just save us all.Watch on YouTube: https://youtube.com/evaohMore on Eva Oh: https://eva-oh.comHIGHLIGHTS:Here are the timestamps for the episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time.(00:00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink(00:00:21) - Why David Chambers Helps Men to Love More Deeply(00:01:50) - How Love Has Changed For David Since He Became a Coach(00:06:25) - Why and How David Started to Change His Experience of Life(00:11:00) - Who Asks for David’s Help and Why?(00:12:10) - David’s Own Coaches(00:14:25) - Eva’s Initial Mistrust of Coaches(00:16:40) - David’s Pick Up Artist Coaching and Community(00:22:35) - David Didn’t Want to be a Coach(00:23:20) - What Makes a Good Coach(00:25:40) - A Dominatrix Coaching Circle?(00:27:50) - Managing Client Numbers as a Coach(00:30:20) - Parallels between Dominatrix and Coaches(00:31:25) - The Benefits of Coaching in Groups(00:34:00) - David’s Fear of Expressing Love(00:36:30) - What are Men Afraid of and How to Work with Their Fears(00:41:25) - Men’s Approaches Towards Women and ‘Attunement’(00:53:10) - Eva’s Perspective Building ‘Walking Exercise’ with Her Clients(00:56:40) - Why People Hide from Feeling Empathy(00:59:10) - The Patriarchy, Reparations, Gisèle Pelicot and What Do We Do About It(01:08:00) - Leaning into Challenge, Disagreement and Moving Out of Reaction(01:10:00) - Vipasanna Meditation and Rewriting Our Relationship to Pain(01:14:00) - Universal Basic Income and Greed(01:15:00) - Will Aliens Save Us?!

In the final episode of the #teakink Power Miniseries, Eva Oh unpacks the intricate relationship between money and power in domination. From her early survival mindset to financial stability, she reflects on how her understanding of wealth has evolved—and whether the one paying is truly the one in control. Does money dictate power, or is it all about perception? With insights on findom, greed, and the illusions wealth creates, this episode challenges conventional ideas about financial dominance and self-worth.Watch on YouTube: https://youtube.com/evaohMore on Eva Oh: https://eva-oh.comHIGHLIGHTS:Here are the timestamps for the episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time.(00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink(00:21) - Power Miniseries III: Money(01:06) - My Relationship to Money Pre-Domination(02:00) - Findom was Not a Category(02:55) - My Evolution from Survival to Wealth(04:20) - What is ‘Real’? Lifestyle vs Professional Domination(06:55) - Does the Person Paying Have the Power?(09:15) - The Power of Perspective(10:50) - How My Understanding of Money Has Changed Over Time(13:10) - Wealth Does Not Correlate to Quality of Personhood(19:20) - Money, Existential Anguish, Greed and Weakness(21:40) - The Miniseries Format Experiment